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Was I unfair on the traffic officer?

55 replies

Lilllypad11 · 14/04/2024 15:23

I’m posting this full well knowing I was prob being very unfair but I had a huge panic attack last night didn’t sleep well and then had to wake up to go to a service at the temple.

Anyway, I had to get some lunch with my mum after service and I stopped on a double yellow line like lots of others. I was sort of blocked in. The attendant kept pointing at me. Constantly. Then stood next to me. I said I’m blocked in I can’t move wait. Then he just stood there and didn’t move so I said rather loudly “will you please just wait I can’t move for gods sake” he then started saying “look I’ll just give you a ticket at this point” so I then reversed into a bay well away from the yellow line. He said “NO YIU CANT BE THERE it’s near the yellow line” I then said rather loudly “look I’m waiting for someone I’m not where near the yellow line please just give me a minute. They haven’t got their phone I can’t call them and this is a dodgy area” he then said flippantly and rudely “look I’ll just give you a ticket” and started waving his device at me. so at this point I’m stressed, overstimulated, tired and my adhd brain can’t take any more and I lost it and said “you really don’t need to take your job this seriously you know. There’s really no need to be such a jobsworth. I was parked in a bay and not obstructing because I was waiting”

anyway I had to move into the temple car park in the end then I felt like a complete a hole for behaving like that in front of a temple. I’m not even religious it’s just I still have respect.

how much of an a hole have I been

OP posts:
Dartmoorcheffy · 14/04/2024 15:25

If you were blocked in and couldn't move how did you manage to get into a bay??

YourSnugHazelTraybake · 14/04/2024 15:26

A massive one. You were illegally parked and got arsy at him for literally doing his job. If you were blocked in then you'd been there for a while, so you weren't just quickly picking someone up.

Geebray · 14/04/2024 15:27

I am very confused. You parked on a double yellow, thought the parking attendant was being unreasonable towards you for saying they were going to issue a ticket because you said you could not move (as if that changed anything), then you did move, and then what? You were somehow near a double yellow?

What are you actually trying to say here, OP?

MississippiAF · 14/04/2024 15:27

wtf.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 14/04/2024 15:28

Yes, you were an arsehole. You should have nodded and driven around the block.

ArcaneWireless · 14/04/2024 15:30

how much of an a hole have I been

To answer your question, I think anyone who is abusive to someone doing the job they are paid to do is a huge hole.

Maybe the folk inside the temple can teach you something.

ZipZapZoom · 14/04/2024 15:31

So you parked illegally and when he rightly said he could give you a ticket, note he could but didn't, you mouthed off at him and you think he's the unreasonable one...

Poppyseed14 · 14/04/2024 15:31

So you were blocked in and couldn't move but still managed to move into the temple car park?! 🤔

TheUndoing · 14/04/2024 15:32

Your post is completely confusing. If the temple has a car park then why didn’t you just park there to begin with?

But yes, YABU for being rube to someone for just doing their job (and who it seems gave you the chance to move before issuing you with a ticket straight away). If your health means you can’t drive safely and calmly then perhaps you shouldn’t be driving?

neilyoungismyhero · 14/04/2024 15:33

Another entitled arse

suburburban · 14/04/2024 15:33

Be thankful you didn't get a ticket

I agree that it's irksome when you see everyone else doing the same but it doesn't make it right. Don't do it

MariaVT65 · 14/04/2024 15:34

Tbh like others, i don’t understand your post. You were blocked but you also managed to move? Were you waiting to pick your mum up from the temple?

This is a big issue in several areas i’ve lived in tbh, with traffic and parked cars obstructing roads outside of religious buildings at service time. There has just been a parking ban on an entire street near me because of this.

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/04/2024 15:34

Why didn't you just park in the car park in the first place?
But yes, you were a massive arsehole.

HuminaHuminaHumina · 14/04/2024 15:35

Why didn’t you just park in the temple car park in the first place? You obviously weren’t blocked in as you were able to move to the bay.
YWBAA.
HTH.

saveforthat · 14/04/2024 15:36

If you are not religious why not stay in bed, why go to a service in a temple? Yes you were an arsehole but your post makes absolutely no sense.

checkedshirts · 14/04/2024 15:36

If you didn't sleep the night before, you probably shouldn't be driving? Let alone parking illegally then mouthing off when it was pointed out, you were only blocked in (how does that work if you could then suddenly move 🤔) because you parked illegally. Massive over reaction to someone just doing their job.

Mrsttcno1 · 14/04/2024 15:36

Nobody is this much of an arsehole surely this is a joke🤣

HavfrueDenizKisi · 14/04/2024 15:38

You parked illegally.

You got angry and took that out on the person who pointed it out.

You were disrespectful to a person doing their job.

You think you're entitled to park where you want.

You think because you have an 'excuse' you should be allowed to operate under different rules.

You clearly could have moved the car as you did anyway.

Yes you behaved like an arsehole.

TooBored1 · 14/04/2024 15:41

Definitely unreasonable. And I'm guessing that there is often a problem with inconsiderate and dangerous parking there, hence the warden being there

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 14/04/2024 15:42

You acted like a twat. Never mind being rude outside a temple, you were rude to an actual living human being when you were the one in the wrong.

ClairemacL · 14/04/2024 15:43

I hope you got your ticket.

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/04/2024 15:45

If the temple has a car park then why didn’t you just park there to begin with?

This. The temples near us have car parks and it works. The synagogue people walk so it works. The churches aren't mobbed so it works. The mosque has inadequate parking and lots of people trying to park and it's a nightmare. AND it's opposite a leisure centre with a load of also inconsiderate parking 'waiting' for people. The whole road is fucked at points.

theclimb · 14/04/2024 15:46

You were parked on double yellows

And rude

You were a massive a hole

Concannon88 · 14/04/2024 15:50

You said you couldn't move and then you moved? Who gives a fuck you were outside a temple. Its yellow lines for a reason and you were in the wrong

upset769 · 14/04/2024 15:54

So you were at the temple to start with, were lazy so drove and parked on double yellows instead of walking and then abused a person doing their job?!

Yes, very unfair.

You say your outburst was caused partly by ADHD brain as you were overstimulated and tired?
If that's the case, you need to hold back on driving when feeling like that as it's just dangerous.