Friend is exceptionally tight!

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Have a friend who has ALWAYS been tight with money.
Me and my other friend constantly, and I mean constantly buy rounds, food, cover her £2.50 if she's having a soft drink etc and she never ever offers to pay us back or even say THANK YOU, even if it's just £2.50, a thank you will still be appreciated.

I've bought her so many drinks/food in the past and in the 10 years I've known her, she has never returned the favour, I have to mention to her she owes me a drink! Then sometimes, she will buy it but it has to be asked for. Considering she still lives at home rent free at the ripe old age of 28, I have a mortgage, crippling bills but still offer to help others out, ALWAYS.
She saves over £600 a month, YES, £600 and will moan she doesn't have the money to do this or that as she hasn't budgeted for it. It's always a game of what can she afford and not afford.
I'm maybe a bit too generous but it is starting to wind me the fuck up.

Anyway, I'm assuming I'm not being unreasonable. Does anyone else have people like this?!

My DH has a female friend like this.
its part of his uni set he is in his 30s now.

all of them have put up with it for years. Not one has ever said anything to her!?!

i find it crazy and i wont socialise with her anymore. She took a tip i left off a table once - it’s just embarrassing and unacceptable behaviour.

Another who had a friend like this. So tight she squeaked when she walked but had the money to get a brand new, top spec car every 2 years. Never so much as offered to buy a coffee after I drove her for days out (I drove as I would take my dogs in my car), no money for parking or petrol and I usually bought us a drink which she’d not offer any money for and then not return the favour so cue us sitting for ages with empty glasses until it was time to leave!
I decided not to reach out to make an effort with her anymore so haven’t heard from the CF since Christmas. Well rid!

Well yes she's right but also a CF! I'm not sure why you have continued to pay for her all this time even after she doesn't say thank you. That's a bit strange too. What was your reasoning?

Just stop doing it and pay for your own stuff.

Your mortgage is neither here nor there

It's good to be careful with money, but VU to sponge off people. I'd suggest meeting for a walk / your house

Just pay for your own things. It’s much more straightforward.

being frugal and budgeting smartly are good traits. She shouldn’t expect you to subsidize her though.

This!!! ⬆️⬆️⬆️

Yes, I like this approach!

We have a friend like this and she's just paid her mortgage off with the savings 😂 (late 30s)

I would say 'who's in these rounds or not in these rounds' before going to the bar- then people who don't want 3+ drinks can opt out and she'll actually need to verbally commit to being in it

So embarrassing! At least he showed you his true colours immediately

Wow no way would I tolerate this!!

Daft to be friends with someone like this