What would you do about this teacher

[Samcj02]

Hi,
what would you do in this situation? My daughter has struggled through high school, they think she has adhd but we don’t really have any issues with her at home. They say it’s because she’s a girl and that I and primary school have missed the signs.
anyway today I had a phone call from the school saying she’d had a bad day with a teacher and she needed to be collected right away, this was at 2.50pm her bus gets there at 3.30pm. I explained that I’d had to pick up her younger sibling from school this morning as he’d been sick and couldn’t leave my house with him. Her dad was over an hr away working also, anyway they did allow her to stay in the office and wait for her bus.
she arrived home absolutely distraught and sobbing saying this teacher had been really horrible to her. She accidentally spilt her water on the table and the teacher accused her of throwing it on purpose.
she was struggling with the work and asked for help, the teacher refused and then put her in isolation for not finishing the work which she couldn’t because she didn’t understand. This teacher also taught her brother and tells her all of the time he misbehaved and was horrible to teach, which I don’t know what has to do with DD And feel like she doesn’t like her because of her brother 🤦‍♀️
she then shouted at her that she didn’t want to see her on Monday and tried to suspend her after being in isolation for a while and taking her to the office for myself to be called!
i am worried it’s gcse year and she’s not learning anything 🤦‍♀️

I’ve had no correspondence from the school regarding suspension so I assume she’s not been. But AIBU to think this has been blown out of proportion? And the teacher should’ve helped her? 🙈

I had concerns she had autism back when she was a 3 year old, lack
of eye contact being a biggie but the nursery told the paediatrician she was just shy and had no concerns so she was signed off and that was that.
Your dd does sound like mine and I was saying to a friend as DD does have ocd tendencies too that I thought
ore autism than adhd. So it’s something to look into as you said they cross over.
in regard to routine at home it pretty much stays the same but she does hate being late! With school they’ve not mentioned anything so this will definitely be mentioned to the SENCO. I do think my the point she’d been told she had to stay in isolation for the next period she had for herself in such an emotional state by that point!

Whether students can drop subjects is very school dependent.

I have worked in schools where it is basically never allowed and worked in schools where it is very common.

In my most recent school, it was fairly common. Particularly in year 11 if a student was struggling with motivation and grades they'd drop an option and extra booster groups would be run for the other subjects.

With students who are just generally more disengaged with school we have paid for them to do a day work experience/ college etc in the hope it will provide a more positive experience for them.

These are things that happen.

Thanks again everyone!
had a meeting today, they want her to do one day a
week at college, however the subjects available are very few and far between. And one day a week work experience from September. They said she cannot cope in school and is constantly upset saying sxholl makes her depressed. I’m hoping we can find a course that suits her and move forward. Regarding the senco she could attend the meeting but I’m going back for a catch up meeting in a few weeks, they want regular meetings moving forward.
they did confirm she has dropped history and is helping out temporarily but there’s an online English tuition she can possibly do in those gaps but the two teachers were at opposite ends on this!
hopefully this will help her move forward!