To desperately ask what age you found like easier after having a baby?

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Just that really. 19 months and oh my god it’s too much. I really need my own space and time to function well and basically do not have much of this for obvious reasons. The tantrums, the nappies, the constant changes of clothes. When will it feel easier?

Thanks looks like I should aim for 2 then and re assess!

I do have some help but I just find it very boring most of the time. Obviously it’s great at times too but… yes always a nappy or a nap or food or washing or whining. I guess a lot of that isn’t going to stop!

I'm finding 2 pretty good on the whole! DS is 2 years, 2 months. Yes, he knows how to test us more, but this is when their personality starts to really show! Never a day goes by that DS doesn't make us laugh and feel very proud. Tonight as I was waiting for him to go to sleep (took forever😑) he announced "ostriches can't fly. Kiwis can't fly"😆 wasn't something he's recently learnt so it was funny how random it was!
It helps that he's such a good talker I'm sure, so less frustrated than some other 2 year olds struggling to communicate what they feel. I think I found around 18 months quite tough, so hang in there!

Having a 2nd helps with the boredom as they can play with each other - best if you have them close together (3 year gap or less). Of course having 2 kids brings it's own extra stresses!

It gets easier and easier. Hang on in there, the light is coming.

I think OP meant age 2🙂

From 2 it's definitely easier if their speech is developing well, and from 3 infinitely easier.

You might just be on the cusp... My son started to sleep through the night at about 21 months and developed more communication skills...OMG that made everything so much easier. He was a terrible sleeper, a late walker and a fussy eater and I was really starting to flag but then something shifted and it all felt so much more manageable. Age 1-2 is hard. Wonderous but HARD. It does get better, I promise xx

18 months is hands down the hardest age imo.

They are mobile but with little understanding. You can't take your eyes off them. I'd rather look after a newborn any day

I'd say from 3ish onwards it gets easier in a practical sense. My youngest is now 4, can dress herself, obviously potty trained, walks well with us, tantrums are few and far between, can be reasoned with a lot more and is generally just SO much easier than when she was 1-3.

I'm really enjoying the 2-3 years at the moment!

1-2 was...something 😅

And how is that helping OP or answering question?
You didn't think it hard at all. ...? Bully for you.
Easy or hard as you want it to be.....seriously ????
I guess listening and empathy aren't your strong points

I think the most important milestones are walking, talking, potty training and the ability to sit at a table and eat mcdonalds. All these make your life so much better. Mine are 38 and 40, there are still challenges but they are different, add 4 grandchildren into the mix and its all same shit different day.

Errmm, I'm not sure it's quite as simple as it being as 'easy or hard as you want it to be' the temperement of the the child is a massive factor!

My first two were easy, oldest finally slept through when younger child was born.! Never went through the 5am get ups …in bed until 8 am ! Youngest a complete nightmare with reflux ,hospital admissions, Brompton hospital for tracheamalacia ….the older children just accepted that they went for sleepovers with their friends.
I do feel that I got enough sleep generally and I was 30 years younger…you can do this!

5 or 6

They turn a corner at 3 but every month after 2 gets a little easier!

The reason I asked if you have help is that I think it's actually crucial to have breaks and have time to do your own things.

If you're not getting that, why not?

4 and onwards was much easier.

It might depend a bit on the child, I remember thinking when they were small, I could of had 5 like my 2nd. Whereas my first felt like 5...Quite high needs, intense and demanding. That said they settled down about age 8 or 9 and my second started to be more challenging.

When they start amusing themselves and don't need to be watched all the time to keep them safe, that's a turning point. You can then do a few things for yourself and get that headspace. Hang in there!

With my twins, it was probably 5.5.
Different, in that both have SEN, but it took a long time to feel like I was doing more than just winging it.

Honestly I literally came back to life when he turned 2. Glorious. Felt like I’d been reborn between his second birthday and 2.5… less stressed, life returned to some type of normal, lost my baby weight, just healed from the whole ordeal.
Now he’s a little person it’s just lovely. Unless he is ill in which case it’s torture!! Hated newborn until 18 months. Really really really hard for me and I hated how little you could get done… love him but do still feel I had ‘all that time’ yet got nothing done!!!

It started feeling easier when she was around 20 mths. Alas what did I do? Immediately got pregnant with him.

They're 15 and 13 now. I'm ill and they've just tucked me up in bed with some fresh water paracetamol and a hot water bottle.

So it's definitely got easier.

Hang in there.

I also found the first year the easiest. By far! Two has been brutal, both times.

For me it got easier at 3 months when I stopped BF, 6 months I went back to work with my first and 10 with my second. I couldn't be a sahm but so much respect for those who do it. I found 18 months-2 very hard with tantrums though her communication has always been good. Then she was toilet trained, could play independently and just generally more fun by 2.5. She just turned 3 and the baby is 1 and I'm missing all the previous stages so much.