Is using repeated question marks rude or not???

[User1979289]

I find it rude to send a message "I'm running 10 mins late, can you wait???" I get a lot from clients "Can you do Tuesday at 3.30pm??"
Mostly from people who aren't rude at all in real life.

IANBU: it is rude!?!
IABU: Wake up grandma, it is 2024!?!

I sometimes do this!!! DO you think I should stop???

Is this likely to come across rudely? Yes, a lot of people will take it that way

Is it definitely intended rudely? No, there’s no way of telling

V v rude. I totally ignore messages and emails with more than one ?

It does come across as impatience/irritation.

It doesn't look rude but it does look illiterate

I hate it
I hate it even more when you don't reply to a question immediately and 5 minutes later they text a row of ?????

In your circumstance I think it means I know you might say no but I'm begging you to do this and will be grateful. It can read rudely but not always meant that way.

Isn't it fucking rude????????????????????????????????????????

Not rude at all. Those who think they can identify rudeness from the punctuation, rather than the words, are over-thinking it, TBH.

It’s like shouting. Has a time and a place, but not suitable for every day.

I don't think on the end of a question it's necessarily rude, but it does annoy me.

What is rude is when people ask a question or send a message and then send a follow up of "??" because you've not replied on demand. That winds me up.

I think it's probably not meant that way. But to me it comes across as impatient. I know a couple of people who seem to do it out of habit, and I just ignore it. It irritates me a bit though.

Is it intended as a kind of emphasis? Weird.

I'm curious as to why people do it though. Do you know?

Yes - means the sender is impatient, cross, or being sarcastic.

If my boss sends me multiple ??? I know the situation is serious (and my blood pressure rises accordingly!)

I think it comes across as a bit aggressive/demanding.

Either rude or illiterate, depends on context. Effectively either:

"Can you do Tuesday at 3.30pm, you fucking idiot???"

or

"Can you do Tuesday at 3.30pm??? (I'm a fucking idiot.)"

I think it does come across as rude.. I wouldn't be too put out by it but yeah I wouldn't do it as I think it's rude. Comes across like shouting or being irate. If it's attached to a positive message it might come across as excited or joyful but on those examples you've given it comes across as cross and pushy.

It's meant for emphasis. It can come across as rude because it is a little bit more forceful, but it can also be fine if used carefully.

Generally, it doesn't offend me at all.

That's kind of how I read it. I'll occasionally use two exclamation marks for extra emphasis, but i prefer to use exclamation marks sparingly so that one exclamation mark does it's job.
Likewise, i can imagaine two question marks together as meaning 'really?'

Somebody once texted me: 'Are you there already????????' I'm not sure how to interpret that, other that incredulity, perhaps. To me, 'Are you there already?' has a completely different and calmer meaning.

It's never fine for me. How can it be used carefully???

I don’t think it’s rude, I just think they’re not capable of communicating properly.

😂 beautifully put!

I think exclamation marks only have a place in really extreme situations too. Never multiple and very rarely appropriate in a business email.

Yes it’s rude. As is the multiple exclamation mark!!!