Is using repeated question marks rude or not???

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I find it rude to send a message "I'm running 10 mins late, can you wait???" I get a lot from clients "Can you do Tuesday at 3.30pm??"
Mostly from people who aren't rude at all in real life.

IANBU: it is rude!?!
IABU: Wake up grandma, it is 2024!?!

It's rude.
For those who said it's not, can you seriously not see the difference between
'Ok, will I see you there?'
and
'Ok, will I see you there?????'

I dont generally see it as rude. To me it usually indicates,'any chance if a quick reply?'

If it’s just two, might it be a typo?

I suppose thinking about it, it depends on individual situations, the relationship between the two parties and what the sender is referring to. I generally don't see it as rude.
To me, if feels like a couple of extra punctuation marks are implying that the sender is aware that the recipient may not have the time /ability to do whatever it is they have requested and are understanding if they are unable to do whatever. Quite polite and thinking of the other person in that case.

I use to indicate that I'm very uncertain about what I'm asking. Not intended rudely at all.

So for example - should we go to the beach or the park???

I dont know about it at the end of a question. But it think its unbelieveably rude when you don't reply and they send another message with just ????

What's your question here???

It makes you look more like you're stressed out than indecisive

I hate this. I find it rude in a work context and unprofessional.

I've never seen it as rude and now hoping I haven't offended anyone if I've ever done it!

??? = this GIF

I’m being daft and can’t work out - are you free at 3??

vs

I’d like us to discuss this soon. Are you free at 3??

First one I think fine (though I’d usually go !? rather than ??) but the second one is fairly impatient/rude IMO.

Of course it's rude.

Depends on context for me. In the examples you've given I don't see it as rude. If somebody said 'what do you mean you're running 10 minutes late????' I'd see that as rude as to me it would denote irritation.

I also agree people posting ???? If you don't reply straight away seems rude to me.

This is how I see it too, but appreciate I am old and deeply out of touch

It's unnecessary and terrible use of punctuation. I kind of understand the issue of a question mark plus exclamation mark, to indicate incredulity or excaspartion about something.
Double question mark doesn't seem to have a meaning. Other than implying you think the person won't answer promptly enough or they have failed to answer previously. It sounds impatient and a bit rude.

There are many illiterate people out there which is why I am quietly seething at emails which contain question marks at the end of affirmative sentences and ellipsis instead of full stops.

I was about to post about question marks used at the end of a non-question remark
E.g. I'm going to the beach tomorrow? Rather like people who end their sentences as if it is a question. But we will be flamed for mentioning anthing about SpaG!😀

Yes it's rude.

To me it is an emphasis, such that the questioners wants you to think really carefully about the question, or there may be serious consequences as a result of not thinking about the answer you give. Or there is something that really does not make sense.

If someone always puts lots of question marks after a question then it is irritating as like most things of this nature it is a useful tool when used with discrimination but useless when it is used all the time.

I would probably just write the question with one question mark, then after it "Are you sure?" to achieve the same effect.

Bear in mind that most communication with others has 'clues'. Tone of voice, facial expressions, hand gestures, that sort of thing. Text messages have none of these clues so it can be very easy to take them in the wrong way.

Well, possibly not consciously rude, just inarticulate and with a tin ear for tone. Repeated question marks implies an extremely urgent question which, if asked face to face would be said in an extremely urgent tone of voice. And frankly, they're not usually used to indicate this in a text, and if it were that important, you'd just phone the person, anyway.

Yes, it is rude. As is the overuse of exclamation marks. Some people use an exclamation mark at the end of any sentence on here. It drives me mad.

Not as rude as the crying laughing emoji which lots of posters seems to love to prove a point