To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

[GentleButter]

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

I get fed up of people saying .
I see so and so yesterday. It’s saw
also learn and teach are not interchangeable

Yet you don't seem to care about correct punctuation.
It's interesting, isn't it? How some things bother us so very much, yet other, equally important mistakes clearly not at all.

I’m sorry for any offence as that wasn’t my intention. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Then why did you say that you thought they should have used a dictionary?

I find it’s usually the other way round. They say brought instead of bought. Yes it sets my teeth on edge as does lend instead of borrow.

I have a friend who says brought instead of bought (I never correct her, of course) but she’s not ND. Neither is the friend who says lend instead of borrow (never correct her either as I want to keep my friends lol).

I’m a millennial but I dislike and avoid ‘Can I get’ in coffee shops and similar. It’s perfectly grammatical but it just sounds really rude to my ears. I read a lot of Chalet School as a child and it’s left me with a permanent awareness of when to use ‘can’ and when to use ‘may’!

’Can I get’ is, however, preferable to the growing American use of ‘I’m gonna do’ when ordering in a restaurant. ‘I’m gonna do the chicken, with a side of rice, and I’m gonna do a margarita…’ etc etc. Shudder.

It's because it ends in a 't'- 'hit' is the past tense of 'hit', so it makes logical sense that 'text' would be the past tense of 'text'.

Personally, I use 'texted', but I don't think you can claim 'text' is wrong.

I manage quite a lot of people who are dyslexic, and some with aphasia.

This doesn't affect the quality of their work, and it has no importance for internal communications.

Every one of them has a layer of anxiety and hesitation about their work, and they are always anxious about being jumped on for getting things wrong.

Telling someone once that they are wrong doesn't work for everyone.

There are situations (teaching / agreed collaboration / proofreading) where pointing out errors is appropriate. This does not mean you won't see the same errors in future.

If you are lucky enough to find this stuff easy, try not to underestimate how much of an advantage that gives you. Think very carefully before criticising and correcting. You may just be piling on as the latest in a lifetime's worth of amateur critics.

That reminds me of dribble instead of drivel. Quite a common one that.

Does your friend know you have such disdain for her?

I can't say it bothers me tbh.

'Could care less' when they mean 'couldn't care less' on the other hand...

https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/could-couldnt-care-less

There's a lovely analysis of could care less/couldn't care less here. Nice explanation of why "could care less" came into being, and why people don't like it.

Quite. I’d have assumed the person was either dyslexic or that English was not their first language. Neither of which require a single person in the world to berate them. This is quite different to someone using the odd word incorrectly.

Turnt instead of turned!

DH does a lot of these things, but given his atrociously poor reading ability and hearing about his struggles at school, I think he is dyslexic, so I do forgive him. I try and (kindly) educate him where I think it's useful to him, for example, in a professional setting, I'll help him re-word an important email or his CV.

We've been together nearly 20 years and the flinching when he uses something wrong has definitely subsided!

People using "was" instead of "were" drives me mental though.

"We was in town last weekend"

Similar to burnt and learnt. Both of which are correct.

I stopped correcting because it can upset folks that are dyslexic or maybe have a learning difficulty but I still get frustrated when I see the misuse of words etc.

@Oakbeam yes, burnt and learnt are in common usage, but turnt is not! You turned around, you burnt the bread. You can also say burned and learned.

Your instead of you’re is so common - I have a teacher friend & even she uses your! Apostrophes in the wrong place are annoying too eg pizza’s, toilet’s

This thread makes my anxiety jump! I had a lisp and speech therapy as a child and there are still words I avoid as I struggle with them. I’ve never been great with English and more science / maths inclined. There are lots of things people get wrong with scientific terms (use of the word chemicals being one) but I would never correct someone as I know what they mean.

You certainly wouldn't like my part of Ireland 🇮🇪 😂

I will (kindly) educate you: you need a full stop before your closing speechmarks.

But it's okay, I forgive you.

What so you mean? Presant is not a word

I will absolutely agree with you that teachers should be getting that right. However, in your ire over apostrophes, you have missed three full stops (one after e, one after g and one at the end) and one comma (before too) in your second sentence. So maybe we could all do with being a bit more understanding about people making punctuation errors.