To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

[GentleButter]

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

I've got a friend who can't tell the difference between to/too/two - she's 66!
She also gets confused between through and threw. It's pathetic.

Clicked on the title AND read to the 14th page....

I feel your pain OP. I am the Pacific/specific murderer ! What the hell is wrong with people.

Having read this thread, I find it really no wonder that neurodivergent people mask their symptoms.

Dyslexics struggle phonetically and might not be able to hear the difference between the words. Others may not have had a good education or parents who are educated and able to teach them. I cannot see why someone would get angry about this. Its only my daughter I will correct with this sort of thing or Americanisms as its my job to educate her and have her speaking well. Would not look down on people for using the wrong word.

My mum says fuck-a- chee-a instead of foccacia. So bad,so, so bad.

I don’t believe texted is in the OED either is it? Text wasn’t a verb until relatively recently.

Language is fluid and will naturally adapt alongside us. I think using text as a past tense verb is perfectly acceptable.

This. Really grinds my gears 😬

My brother. Well educated, senior academic, not ND, not dyslexic " I'll just have a slither of cake". It's bloody SLIVER.

This exchange has made me smile. Well done for being the adult Betty!

'I seen' instead of 'I saw' or 'I've seen'
'draw' instead of 'drawer'

It depends, did you fall inside on the floor or outside on the ground?

Most of the examples people are giving are spelling. As a dyslexic I find it petty, I think people just like to feel superior.
A lot of the other examples are regional variations of grammar. Which are the same as an accent- again petty and probably classist.
The bought/brought issue is likely to do with how the words have been processed at an early age and regional variation. In running speech, they sound extremely similar. Once you have in your head, a word is a certain way or is interchangeable with another word, it’s extremely difficult to relearn.
I’m not saying it doesn’t jar when I hear bought/brought, but I’m not gonna go around implying people are stupid and I am so much clever than them. People process language differently, get over it.

If you struggle with spag, it’s pretty exhausting to check it constantly for informal stuff like posting on a forum or a Facebook group. People dog piling on someone asking question, to give them grammar lessons rather then scrolling past or actually answering the questions are knobs.

That's quite insulting to those of us who are dyslexic.

It's someone who is not literate.

There's been a rash of people actually typing bought on here, when they mean brought. Drives me mad too. But not as mad as when people type loose when they mean lose.

The person actually admitted that as part of their employment they have to be 100% correct in all written and spoken communication so use the wrong words purposefully outside of work as they find it funny to make it awkward for people to understand!

No it’s aitch! It’s only slipped into being correct because so many get it wrong.

I know lots of people who do this. It’s up there with draws instead of drawers! Drives me nuts!

Christ. No, it isn't. I know that's what you were taught, and what you've grown up with, but it's both. Aitch is actually an example of h-dropping ('ospital rather than hospital, 'otel rather than hotel), it's just stuck aorund.

In NI the pronunciation tells people which community you come from. Aitch = Protestant/unionist/British and Haitch = Catholic/nationalist/Irish (very broadly speaking). If I announced either to be incorrect in the workplace I would expect to find myself in hot water.

A couple of useful articles:

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/long_reads/haitch-or-aitch-pronunciation-letter-h-old-english-a8393766.html

https://www.theguardian.com/science/shortcuts/2013/nov/04/letter-h-contentious-alphabet-history-alphabetical-rosen

All new verbs are regular, so "texted" is the correct form.

Consensus is that a lot of people think it's an irregular past simple because so many one syllable verbs ending in "t" are. (Historically and etymologically the ones not derived from French, Latin etc) So, people see a new verb that looks like those ones, and apply the same hardwired rule.

I imagine both forms will be accepted as standard in due course.

@ColleenDonaghy morning.

You assume wrong.
Middle English is the origin.

Just saw you on another thread and was wondering where you were on this one.

to go with the .

Anyone who actually hates someone for a 'word'- truly needs their head examined.

No wonder the world is such a mess!