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Gym membership causing arguments

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polkadot24 · 08/04/2024 07:00

As above really!

Husband gets to go 3x per week whenever he fancies. I'm stuck to everyone else's schedules and cannot go during work time or early morning. I cannot go most evenings due to his work. I feel it is unfair and he takes it for granted that I'm here for the kids whilst he swans about doing what he wants. He doesn't get it, and thinks I'm being unfair to say that if I cannot go then he shouldn't get the privilege either. Maybe I am unfair, I'm just sick of men 🤣🤦‍♀️

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NotSmallButFunSize · 10/04/2024 16:02

Farahfawsett · 09/04/2024 16:45

In this situation the "answer" should never be for the woman to set up her exercise routine at home, working around her other commitments, because inevitably she will end up answering the kid's questions, finding stuff for them, answering the phone/doorbell/whatever.

Her free time should be ring fenced the way that his is.

If the H gets to do 3 hour long work out sessions outside of the home, uninterrupted, child free and return to a clean home and children that are fed and entertained, then the OP should be able to do exactly the same thing; that is fair and equal.

He should be encouraging you to take that time by offering to get up at the weekend and look after the kids he's barely seen all week. Anything else makes for a shitty husband and father.

Thank God someone said it - like hell would I be the one who had to squeeze in a work out at 6am just because my partner is a selfish prick.

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 10/04/2024 16:07

Farahfawsett · 09/04/2024 16:45

In this situation the "answer" should never be for the woman to set up her exercise routine at home, working around her other commitments, because inevitably she will end up answering the kid's questions, finding stuff for them, answering the phone/doorbell/whatever.

Her free time should be ring fenced the way that his is.

If the H gets to do 3 hour long work out sessions outside of the home, uninterrupted, child free and return to a clean home and children that are fed and entertained, then the OP should be able to do exactly the same thing; that is fair and equal.

He should be encouraging you to take that time by offering to get up at the weekend and look after the kids he's barely seen all week. Anything else makes for a shitty husband and father.

Abso-fucking-lutely, what she said.

RedPony1 · 10/04/2024 16:37

If you're working 7am till 6pm and he works eves, how is he supposed to "give you" time to go to the gym?

i get it, its frustrating, but i can't see how with your current working patterns

fieldsofbutterflies · 10/04/2024 16:44

RedPony1 · 10/04/2024 16:37

If you're working 7am till 6pm and he works eves, how is he supposed to "give you" time to go to the gym?

i get it, its frustrating, but i can't see how with your current working patterns

He can get up at weekends and look after his kids so OP can go then.

Redsheshed · 10/04/2024 19:01

Give him an ultimatum or Leave him and split your time with your children then you'll have half the week free to do what you want. It sounds too simple but honestly it works.

PostItInABook · 10/04/2024 19:14

“He is a good partner and does jobs when I tell him to.”

That’s not a good partner.

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