How close are you to your siblings?

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I live abroad and see my sister once a year or two and haven’t seen my brother for a few years. When we see each other, we get on but I sometimes feel awkward, it feels sad
Am I the only one?

It would be interesting to know, for those of us who have low and no contact, what the family home was like growing up.

My theory is sibling relationships depend very much on whether there was a loving, close, trusting family home.

Four sisters.. seen one 5 times a week.. see another once a week.. see another once a month.. gosh l couldn't go longer than six weeks without seeing them.( Two are very poorly). I see my daughters n Grandkids every week.. my family are my world.

I whatsapp my siblings most days. See my sister every week and my brother every couple of weeks. I'd be lost without them. We're 60, 57 and 55.

I love my brother and sister to bits. We only see each other about 4/5 times a year. But when we do we stay up all night talking, we see the world through the same eyes and have been through a lot together. We dont see or talk to each other weekly or even monthly at times, but we have a very special bond.

I grew up in the absolute opposite of a loving and close family home and I think this is what made me and my sister so close as we would share a bed etc if we were scared, but also what pushed me and my brother apart as he learned a lot of the behaviours that I consciously distance myself from.

Can’t stand my sister. She’s a bully.

I wonder if siblings may get closer the older they get?

I think we did have a loving, close, trusting family home. It wasn’t perfect, but I’m sure my parents did their best. I would never have predicted that we would be anything other than close, particularly me and my sister. I’m staggered the way it all turned out to be honest.

My sister and I do the same hobby so see each other relatively frequently but not as much as we used to as we used to help each other with childcare. It's a shame really as our guiders used to be closer but have no reason to hang at each others houses any more.

My brother I hardly see as he's a hermit but when we do see him we get on great. We get together and make fun of my sister 🤣

So close. I go through stages as to who I see/speak to the most but at the moment I video call one sister every day. Send socials and messages to the other sister daily. And see my brother weekly. (As we live near one another.) I love my siblings, I would do anything for them and hope we are forever close xx

I'm one of 5 (and a twin) and we are very close. Four of us live within a 2 mile radius, the 5th only 30 miles away. I work with two of my 3 brothers and have done for 30 years. We really enjoy each other's company and socialise together with partners regularly.
For us the key thing was that mum came over from Australia on an adventure, then met my dad so never went 'home'. They had all 5 of us in the space of 5 years and as they had no family support (dad worked away a lot) we just had to get on together and formed a strong bond.

We see ours a few times per year but we're not very close. There's a few (3+) years between me and most of my siblings so we were never that close growing up, we didn't have much in common or really any shared interests.

One brother. See each other every few months. He is single so tends to visit us. Close relationship as we only have each other as siblings.

I mentioned above none of us were close and we don't have a family home anymore, haven't had Christmas as a family for many years. Recently my Dad has had a stroke and is not well at all and Mum always drank herself into a state and didn't parent us growing up, we parented her. No rules or discipline, we did what we wanted when we wanted and were feral, we fended for ourselves. No one guided us. It was a chaotic and messy horrible house, full of conflict, fear and little love.

My sister is my best friend, we talk everyday. We only became close in our 20's. My brother I am close to now, however this has only happened in the last few years really. We try to see each other every few months (3 hrs distance between us) but speak regularly.

One of 6 none of us get on. My parents are wonderful people and I’m sure it makes them sad. Just the way it turned out for many reasons.

I have 3 sisters and they are my best friends, I see them probably every 2-3 days. My mum was the same with her siblings.

Really close. I've got 4 sisters and speak to 2 of them weekly. One slightly less so and another lives abroad so less often again, but no issues with either of them and they're there for me like a shot if I ever need them.

We're not in each others pockets by any means and all have kids/families/careers of our own but they're a massive part of who I am and better than any friends I've ever had.

3 siblings close too 1 the other 2 I see at family events these are always good times we have a ball and good laugh like we see speak often, then it could be 2+ years b4 seeing/speaking to them again.

This is interesting. For me, my parents didn't have any relationship with their siblings. Now their kids (us) don't have good relationships with each other.
It makes me worry that my own kids will continue this generational trend and I try to treat my kids equally and foster love between them. They are very different people with very different personalities though.

Very close. Thank god for them because my parents are pretty awful.

I have 4 siblings. We aren't close geographically although we all live in the UK. I see them once or twice a year, but if they need me they only have to call and they know that.

The same is true of them.

Estranged. He is a twat and always has been. Narcissistic and arrogant and now has a horrible wife.

No I find both my brothers quite irritating, for very different reasons.
One's a fussy, controlling and tetchy arsehole and the other is like speaking to a brick wall. No personality at all.

2 siblings, the 3 of us are in different countries. See one 4 times a yr (2.5hr flight) and the other once a year (11hr flight). Both text daily.