Guy I was dating said he needed to be challenged more

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I went on around 6 dates with a guy. We didn't meet for around 5 weeks as I was abroad at the time, however we messaged daily.
I had already met him in a previous job, but we lost contact and unexpectedly got back in touch a couple of years later.
Looking back I should've seen signs, him going on about my looks, calling me amazing very early on, then being flaky about the first date times. Saying his very first impression of me at work is that I was 'hot' 🙄
Sorry if it's TMI but might help for context, I spent the night with him twice. He was saying how 'natural' things feel between us and how he "really likes where things are going".
Anyway after date 6, he dropped me off home and his vibe changed IMMEDIATELY.
For the next fortnight, all affection gone, no arranging future plans, being cold on me.
I wish I'd just left it but I asked what was up. He said something felt off. I probed a bit further and he said I don't 'challenge/battle' him enough.
Like I admit I was blindsided a little, we'd had what I thought were very interesting discussions and I didn't exactly agree with everything he said.
His consolation was that I had an 'amazing body ' 🙄 well, that's alright then.
Not sure what else I could've done or why he instantly changed after that date? Not even 100% sure what he meant by 'battle' him more?!

I took it as sexual too, you were too easy to bed. Suddenly he's a prude apparently. You were meant to play games and be difficult to get to keep him interested, what an arse.

I waited until date 4, that seems to be about average but maybe I'm totally wrong?

I can almost guarantee that at some point he’ll be back.
Be sure to tell him to fuck off when that happens.

He got what he wanted then dropped you like a hot brick. He was only ever after that and once he got that, he has to commit or start to take the relationship seriously in some way.

He's not interested in a relationship. He's all about the chasing and thrill of that and that's it.

He sounds like a horrible misogynist - reducing you to your body. Take solace in knowing you're an awesome, smart person and he's a piece of trash. Sorry you had to encounter such a creep.

Why are you defending yourself? He insulted you on purpose to be a dick. That’s it. He could say you have purple spots, doesn’t mean it’s true. Possibly his ego felt threatened by you so he wanted to knock you.

My first thought was he knew he was punching above his weight, so he needed to take OP down a peg in order to feel superior.

Disgusting. Bullet dodged indeed.

He's met somebody else.

You should have trapped him in a box, taken the box to the top of Everest and then made him win 17 connect four games in a row before he could be released. Then with nothing but an Oyster Card and two packets of Monster Munch told him he needed to get home.
Then once home made him do The Times crossword whilst on roller skates and blindfolded.
That would have been a challenge.

I think it is wise to avoid sleeping with somebody very early in a relationship. This isn't on moral grounds but it's less hurtful to the feelings in the long run. The more you find out about somebody, the more likely you are to weed out losers like this one without getting involved and your feelings bruised. Men who come on hot and strong often turn nasty and cold with equal speed. Even if you had waited longer to have sex though he'd still have been a really quite unpleasant person.

What an idiot. Even taking it completely at face value he’s a man who enjoys conflict.
At least you found out early.

Sounds to me like it was one of two things:

1. He wanted to shag you because he gets a thrill from the ‘conquest’, and that’s all.
2. He’s seeing other people and/or is in a long term relationship with someone.
3. He’s one of those utterly toxic, immature people who thinks a relationship needs to be some kind of love-hate thing with constant conflict to be exciting. Men and women like that are fucking awful; they think ‘passion’ means tempestuous rows followed by angry sex, instead of, you know, actually liking each other.

Bullet dodged either way.

To me, it sounds like you’ve dodged a huge red flag. ‘I want someone who challenges me’ reads to me like you’re too much of a challenge for him already. Honestly it reads me like he like bringing confident women down and he sees he won’t be able to achieve that with you.

Doesn't he mean challenged in the form of he only likes the chase, sounds like a massive player to me op best off without

He fancied you, chased you, had you, dropped you. Next. This is nothing new.

It's the chase that's the buzz, and why chase something you've already caught?

Not boyfriend / husband material. Let it go.

Maybe a Mastermind style swivel chair and a set of questions on the CERN purpose-built particle accelerators, or the Operas of Gioachino Rossini?

Does his name start with an S?

I'd pay to watch that 🤣

No, a P :)

Are you perhaps more than his equal intellectually? So he's tried to reduce you to a body and belittle your brain. Whatever, don't fret and move on. You haven't lost much.

6 dates, chemistry just wasn't there which can be difficult to explain when pressed for a tangible reason and he came up with something a bit 🤔

Sometimes it just doesn't work out. Move on and don't take it too personally, it isn't an interview process where you need to get feedback to improve on. There is someone out there and you will both want each other just the way you are (to quote Bridget Jones!)

But him a 1500 piece jigsaw, that will challenge him.
Clearly a cockwomble.

I'd say a 15 piece Peppa pig one would do the trick tbh...

He was always going to drop you. He’s got what he wanted. It’s just a load of old nonsense to justify it. Chalk it up to experience. Don’t take what he says seriously, it’s obviously twaddle.

Send the twat this text.