WIBU to wake them up

[ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine]

I have four thirteen year olds asleep on air beds in the lounge. They were in bed whispering in the dark at 11pm. I went to bed then so I don't know when they actually went to sleep. They're all sensible well behaved kids. If it was just mine I'd have woken her by now.

Why do you need to wake them up?

Nooooooooo

This.

I was worried parents might hate me for ruining their routine

are they being picked up? and when if so?

Why would you wake them? I don't understand waking a 13 year old before 9.30 at the weekend...

Is there a reason you don't want your child sleeping usually?

Agreed. If there's no reason to actually wake them e.g parents collecting at 10 then leave them be.

Sounds like fun! I'd let them sleep...

Leave them be!

Wake them up with bacon sandwiches and a cuppa

I wouldn’t wake them, but I would carry on with my day as usual and if that wakes them it wakes them.

You need to stop waking your 13yo at the weekend. Not start waking up extra ones

You do mean 13 years not months???

you really don't need to worry about their 'routine'

let your own child sleep at the weekends/holidays. They need to catch up on their sleep in their own way.

At 13?? Surely 13 yos don't have a routine

Don't wake them, it's still early for the weekend!! If it was one o clock or something then yes but it's barely half nine!

Ruining their routines -at 13?!

Mine is autistic and if we lose the routine she'll be hysterical come bedtime. But she doesn't socialise much so friends for a sleepover is a big deal and I want her to make the most of it so was thinking we'd just risk the hysteria on this occasion.

Routine 🤣let them be !

Good lord - of course, now that I’ve read that your daughter is autistic, I feel stupid now for asking “why do they need to be woken up”…

aargh, why do OPs do this on Mumsnet? Surely that not so insignificant context changes the tone and content of everyone’s replies?

Leave them - late nights/late mornings are standard for teenage sleepovers.

So all the replies have been very helpful, thanks. My daughter has autism, and really bad anxiety at the moment, so the routine is still important. She's my eldest so I don't really know what would be the right thing for a neurological teen. I'll leave them to it. Thanks everyone!

Please do not wake them. They are 13, it's in their make up to sleep in. They have had a sleepover.

Because it genuinely hadn't occurred to me as relevant. Sorry. I don't have experience of a 13 year old who doesn't need the routine so I hasn't realised I could be so relaxed about it.

does she wake herself up op?

OP, you're drip feeding.
Had you mentioned autism in the initial post you would have got different replies. Of course you know it makes a difference.