WIBU to wake them up

[ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine]

I have four thirteen year olds asleep on air beds in the lounge. They were in bed whispering in the dark at 11pm. I went to bed then so I don't know when they actually went to sleep. They're all sensible well behaved kids. If it was just mine I'd have woken her by now.

What?!!! Their routine?!! They’re teenagers 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

My autistic teen I wouldn't wake for love it money on a weekend. He just continues his usual weekend routine whatever time he wakes.

RTFT

@ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine

Hope all is calm in your household this morning OP. If they're still asleep and there's no need for the guest teens to be up and moving yet, I'd let them be. Maybe start cooking bacon and egg and see if they stir from sleep with the delicious smells. 🌹

She said multiple times that she didn’t realise it was important. What’s the point of grilling her when she already answered your question? So silly.

How lovely your daughter is walking round with a big smile on her face. What a successful sleepover and lovely treat for her.
She might settle okay tonight seeing as she’s had a good day. Fingers crossed OP.

Are you using the work neurological when you mean neurotypical

Yes. My phone autocorrected it and I didn't notice.

You sound like my mother. She never allowed lie ins so that I would keep my routine for school. I just became sleep deprived and depressed and anxious about rest and being called lazy. Not saying you call your kids lazy- but give them a break!

I understand op I have 3 kids and dh is dad to one who is autistic. Often dh doesn't realise things are different because the other two are a bit older so no comparison.

Glad it went well.

In my family we think waking children up is a sin 🤣 id be more annoyed a cranky teenager coming home haha

I think, given they were in your lounge, yes, I’d have woken them up.

I didn't need the lounge, we have a big kitchen diner that is more the heart of the home so we're happy to hang out it there anyway.

I'm genuinely glad I asked as my instinct with DD is to keep as close to the routine as possible. I'd have had some very grumpy teenagers on my hands without Mumsnet advice 😂

Sounds like she had a fab time and will be able to have further sleepovers at yours

Maybe moving forwards is that your daughter helps choose what's for breakfast the next morning. You can quietly wake her up at the time she needs to be up for her routine and she could help you to prepare it. She could lay the table, make cute paper napkin animals or something. She'll definitely get kudos with her mates and it keeps the situation easier for you to manage.

Think it's pretty clear what is meant. You are just looking to nit pick

Glad it all worked out, just seen the updates re your DD, as my DS (autism/adhd) has got older he has been better out of routine than when he was younger. Strangely he's always generally been ok on sleepovers, maybe because they are completely different so it is not even close to his normal routine. His sleep pattern now (16) is very much that of a typical teenager.

I should have added op. After sleep over we usually have a very chilled sofa day, watching movies. Means teen can catnap and usually heads of evening tired tantrum