Turning the wifi off

[No1toldmeaboutit]

We have implemented a new rule in the house where the wifi goes off at 12.30am to 6am and what back lash I have had from my 14 and 12 year old children.

We usually go to bed about 11pm and they are usually still up while they are off school which I don’t mind, however, there has been a few days where they have woken us up through the night at god knows what time when we have to be up for work in the morning. It’s not so much them talking that wakes us up (although that does sometimes) it’s hearing them move about the house because they are still awake, opening and closing doors, flushing toilets, turning lights on, going downstairs etc.

my 14 year old has kicked off about this and is begging for it to be left on telling me all their friend are allowed all night.

AIBU to implement this new rule? I think 12.30am is a late enough WIFI curfew for a 12 and 14 year old whilst they are off school and actually quite generous.

does anyone else have a wifi curfew?

We have wi fi curfews school night it's 9.30 weekend and holiday it stays on but usually because I am asleep too early to turn off later

No need to turn WiFi off if there’s no devices in their bedrooms in the first place? This is about bedtimes, not your WiFi.

My 11 year old can't play devices past 7:30 on school night and maybe max 9 pm on weekends. Then no earlier than 7am ( not at all on school days). He can stay up a bit later and read or watch a movie for 30 mins or so. I am going to keep this rule for as long as I can. No need to turn wi fi off currently. I saw an ad for some phone network where you can isolate devices to switch off.

Can't believe it's taken you this long to instigate an actual bedtime for your kids. Are you insane? Are you trying to raise them as psychopaths?

My 15 year old still brings his phone downstairs at 9 on a school night 10/10:30 in the holidays and doesn’t collect it again until he wakes (which as a teenage boy can be anytime). No electronics in his room at all so he gets a quality nights sleep. He’s never complained and although says others are allowed later, he doesn’t moan about it

1230am,so late?! I have a 15 and 13 year old,both girls,both hand phones in at 930pm. Sleep by 10 for 13yr old and 1030 for 15 Yr old!
No way will I be allowing them to stay up all night on their phones.
Kids need sleep and time away from the net!

My 14yo - bed at 10pm on school nights, a touch later on weekends. Phone off from 9pm and left downstairs.
I don't feel bad as I know I'm doing the right thing.

Don’t turn the WiFi off but parental controls on iPhone mean my DC’s devices are locked from 10pm school nights and 11pm Friday and sat nights. Then unlock again at 7am. Gives time to wind down read and do non screen related stuff.

13yr and 15yr old and they don't have their phones after 10pm even in the hols. They get up early though so can awake at 6am. Banned from gaming till after 7am. Don't turn the wifi off though would just be punishing myself 😂

I would start it at 10.00pm. They need their sleep and screens really impede quality sleep. They need to wind down without them at least 40 minutes before bedtime. It will be good for the adults in the household too.

9.30 for my nearly 12 yr old and 10 for my 14 yr old on school nights. 30 mins later in the holidays.

All phones, kindles, switches come down. When I've caught them sneaking tv, remote controls came down for a while too.
No way would I let them on devices until.12.30, but then we also don't allow Facebook, Instagram or tiktok. I've seen 1st hand with my niece the damage social media can do!

Should be turned off by 10 at the latest even in the holidays. There is no earthly reason why a child needs the internet that late at night.

I’m going there. You’re a terrible parent.

At age 12 we were still turning it off at 8:30. Though just in DD’s devices, no need to punish ourselves or to make the house stop functioning properly.

dd was able to show us that her friends peak chat times were later so we did extend it, but 10 was as far as I would go.

10 remains the cutoff on school nights even at age 15.

Not true.

WIFI was off 22-07 then we had teenagere. And most likely same then 3rd child turns teenager.

12:30am is way too late in my opinion. 10pm for the 12 year old (weekends/school hols only) Maybe 11pm for the 14 year old. I do not agree with kids staying up all night playing games, talking to god knows who online. Unfortunately once the original rules have been introduced it’s hard to change them without a fight!

We just have a phones and laptops downstairs overnight routine. From 10:30pm or 11 at weekends. Less faff than turning off the wifi. I’m not sure it how just turning off the wifi works as a curfew because wouldn’t they just use their phones on 4G/5G?

^This. I had to read the original post again to double check the 12.30AM bit 😯

No TV after 9:30, that’s 1/2 through regular tv schedules peak viewing hour

I think its great
It's just 5.30 hours not a whole week lend

They can still use data on their phones when we restrict wifi so we’ve taken phones away in the night now. All their friends do seem to be up all damn night!! I’m always the first parent telling them to get off devices - all other mates are still on - my kids are same age OP - 12 and 14

He's 11. 9.30 is late enough when some morning I have to wake him up as he's slept through his alarm. He doesn't watch scheduled tv anyway, he only watches match of the day (on iplayer) and movies.

Who lets a 12yo stay up past midnight, even on holiday? wtf?

my 15yo still goes to bed by 9.30 on her holidays, 9 on a school night. (The 17yo just has to be in his room by the time i go up to mine at 11pm)

Also.. fuck off with turning the Wi-Fi off, I'm usually awake till 2am (insomnia) and I'm not leaving myself with no Wi-Fi all night.

Take the devices off them (we also don't allow consoles in bedrooms, they have a rec-room)

Well mine are 12 and 15, and they have no phone access between 9pm and 8am on school days, and 10pm and 9am in holidays. I don't insist on bedtimes in the holidays, but they both tend to go to sleep before 11pm anyway. There's no way I'd have them crashing around the house all night. Kids of that age shouldn't need to be up and down for the toilet multiple times either. It sounds like they might need more routine, I can't imagine what hell I'd have to deal with getting them back to school if I tried to do this with mine in holidays.
Have you talked to the 14yo about what is reasonable, how much sleep he needs etc?