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Woman on train!

86 replies

paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/04/2024 23:39

On our way home from a day out. 2 hour train journey. Woman next to us spent the entire 2 hours talking loudly on speaker phone. 2 HOURS!!! Then she takes her trainers off and puts her feet across the aisle resting her feet on my husband's seat. Am I unreasonable for being pissed off?? Get some ear pods or just speak on the phone like a normal person!!?? Why are people so rude!!? I was about to ask her to move her feet when the train conductor asked her too as she was blocking the aisle. 10 mins later feet back up!!! Raging 😡

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Brevilletron1 · 03/04/2024 23:46

Did your husband say anything to her?
You may have met an 'Entitled'...

Notimeforaname · 04/04/2024 00:19

That's where your husband needed to say "take your feet off my seat please". You're only annoying yourself by quietly fuming, these people do it because you let them.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 04/04/2024 00:26

What's that Scottish phrase, "Oh did ye aye?"

MintGreenC · 04/04/2024 00:29

So you were going to say something but then the train conductor said something so you didn't, then she did it again but again you didn't say anything? 🤔

StormingNorman · 04/04/2024 00:32

The phone is annoying, the feet are a liberty. I’d have rested my hand on them…but then I do have a pass ag streak 😂

Whatifitallgoesright · 04/04/2024 00:38

I would like to have started to chat about their conversation, voice an opinion. After all if its public then they can't expect privacy.

awitchoftroubleinelectricblue · 04/04/2024 01:32

Could you not just use your own voice and tell her to shut up and to move her feet?

B1anche · 04/04/2024 05:45

I would have embarrassed her by loudly asking her to move her feet because they smell.

PronounsBaby · 04/04/2024 05:49

You should have joined in with her conversation. And I agree with pp you or better yet your husband definitely told her her feet

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:40

B1anche · 04/04/2024 05:45

I would have embarrassed her by loudly asking her to move her feet because they smell.

No you wouldn't do this.

calligraphee · 04/04/2024 06:44

Some people have an emotional need to get into other people's spaces. They are really annoying, the choice is either speak to them directly or ignore.

Let it go now. At least you never have to see her again.

ArtG · 04/04/2024 06:46

I think you should consider getting some cards printed with ”Read Mumsnet tomorrow, there’ll be a thread about you” and hand them to people who annoy you.

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

Were you in the quiet carriage.

I mean the phone is annoying but you and your husband could have chatted for 2 hours solid if you'd wanted and there's not really anything you can do about it.

Were you and your husband unable to ask her to take her feet off I only ask as I know some people genuinely can't. In which case would you have been able to ask the conductor? Or again, not?

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

B1anche · 04/04/2024 05:45

I would have embarrassed her by loudly asking her to move her feet because they smell.

Would you? Really?

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:49

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:48

Were you in the quiet carriage.

I mean the phone is annoying but you and your husband could have chatted for 2 hours solid if you'd wanted and there's not really anything you can do about it.

Were you and your husband unable to ask her to take her feet off I only ask as I know some people genuinely can't. In which case would you have been able to ask the conductor? Or again, not?

Oh sorry I see you did ask the conductor. Maybe keep asking the conductor?

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 04/04/2024 06:50

Raging

Why didn't you say something rather than sit there in anger.

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:40

No you wouldn't do this.

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I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

Nothingandnobody · 04/04/2024 06:57

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

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Yeah right. You'd jump to that before simply asking politely if they could take their feet down please. Course you would.

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 06:58

Maray1967 · 04/04/2024 06:54

I certainly would. Anyone who is a grown adult who does that deserves it. If she was a teen, I’d explain to her that you can’t do that.

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That's one way of escalating the situation and getting involved in violence

StarlightLady · 04/04/2024 06:59

Last time l said something in a similar speaker phone situation l get threatened (by another woman!), so l would just put up with if it reoccurred. But you are right OP, it’s wrong.

Cheepcheepcheep · 04/04/2024 07:19

I guess the point is that, while OP could ask her not to do these things, it’s the fact she thought it was acceptable. Maybe I’m middle aged (at 34!) but I swear this sort of entitlement didn’t happen quite so much in the past.

LightSpeeds · 04/04/2024 07:22

ArtG · 04/04/2024 06:46

I think you should consider getting some cards printed with ”Read Mumsnet tomorrow, there’ll be a thread about you” and hand them to people who annoy you.

Love this!! 😂😂😂

WandaWonder · 04/04/2024 07:22

Then your husband could have asked her, because they were on his seat

BreatheAndFocus · 04/04/2024 07:41

Speak to the ticket inspector. I had similar - a women screeching and sobbing down the phone about her boyfriend for more than 2hrs. She was half a carriage away from me but she was so loud I could hear her over the normal volume chatter of other passengers. It was relentless.

I spoke to the ticket inspector and he told her to move out into the corridor. He also reminded her that there were other people on the train and that she shouldn’t make so much noise. She went out into the corridor but then came back after 5 minutes, having ended her call. Clearly she preferred sitting in a comfortable seat shouting down her phone and it wasn’t quite so appealing when she had to stand up!

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 04/04/2024 07:45

StarlightLady · 04/04/2024 06:59

Last time l said something in a similar speaker phone situation l get threatened (by another woman!), so l would just put up with if it reoccurred. But you are right OP, it’s wrong.

Exactly- you have to be careful these days or you might get stabbed