Woman on train!

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

On our way home from a day out. 2 hour train journey. Woman next to us spent the entire 2 hours talking loudly on speaker phone. 2 HOURS!!! Then she takes her trainers off and puts her feet across the aisle resting her feet on my husband's seat. Am I unreasonable for being pissed off?? Get some ear pods or just speak on the phone like a normal person!!?? Why are people so rude!!? I was about to ask her to move her feet when the train conductor asked her too as she was blocking the aisle. 10 mins later feet back up!!! Raging 😡

Ive spent many years being aff by

Ive spent many years being annoyed on trains as a commuter

Nowadays, I plug in ear pods. I often move carriages because it's easier

I would have asked someone to move their feet though. It's beyond rude

Anyone who puts their feet up on someone else’s seat has no manners whatsoever and needs to be taught a lesson. I’ve got years of experience reminding people of what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If she used violence on me she would regret it very quickly. I appreciate that others don’t have the training that I have, but surely people could at least tell her to remove her feet? Merseyrail staff deal with people putting their feet up on empty seats - let alone ones with people sitting on them!

I’m the kind of person who sits next to man spreaders on the tube and pushes their leg back into line with their seat space. I will not just put up with appallingly rude behaviour- it needs to be challenged. I learned from my Gran who used to call after anyone she saw dropping litter in the street to shame them into picking it up.

When we just sit there and say nothing, we in effect legitimise bad behaviour. If it’s safe to do so, challenge it.

I don't understand. If her feet were on your DPs seat, where was your DP?.

I would ‘jeez your feet are howlin, can you move them as they are making me heave!’

Sorry, but in those circumstances I would [and have] lean over and join in the conversation. It closed it down pretty quickly. You should both have spoken up after 5 mins of the call and the moment she out her feet on the seats.

Taught a lesson? - sounds narcissistic to be honest. A simple "please can you put your feet down" is enough.

Sure

I’ve done similar…I have no shame or filter due to my neurodivergence. It’s a great superpower.

I would, in a pseudo-apologetic way. ‘Really sorry but your feet are a bit smelly.’ Just to wind her up.

Hmmm. I wonder if you would be so quick as to do the same to a man. Somehow I doubt it.

I'd ask her to move her feet because you don't like the smell

First time on public transport?

People do these things because no one has the nerve to call them out on it. I don’t personally mind people on speakerphone (not really any different to two people talking in person) or talking loudly, but putting your feet on someone else’s seat or armrest is very bad mannered and should have been addressed rather than ranted about to strangers on the internet.

I don’t understand why you didn’t move carriages.

I wouldn't have said anything about the phone conversation - it's annoying, yes, but I don't think it's something you can tell people not to do. It's irritating but unless it's a quiet carriage, they're allowed to do it.

I would have told her to take her feet off my seat though. I'm not actually someone who is typically confrontational in those sort of situations, but I wouldn't have put up with that.

And you did the very British thing and said nothing? I really don’t know why people feel uncomfortable speaking up.
"Mate, can you turn the volume down, I’m trying to … (read or whatever)”
”excuse me, are you able to turn it off speaker"
"mate, you alright? Got a hearing problem?”
"for the love of god, can you keep the noise down"
"are you able to take your call somewhere else, it’s unacceptably loud"

you get the idea. As for the feet - I’d be less polite.

Why didn't husband ask her to move her feet from husband chair like everyone else would. Re the phone conversation not much you can do but suggest you give an opinion...I have in the past...it works

You should have said something about the speakerphone call after a few minutes. Be it direct or something indirect.

Or your husband beat you to it.

Even to say it's not good to do so as it might give away personal information, and put her in potential danger.

There is absolutely no way I’d put up with anyone putting their feet on my seat! Why TF didn’t either of you say anything??

I am honestly surprised that there aren't more heart attacks and aneurysms these days with so many people seething away with anger they can't express.
It was lucky that the ticket inspector spoke to her just as you were about to though...

A few years ago, a chap in the quiet carriage was having a loud conversation with somebody selling something, and after about half an hour he gave them his card number and PIN to complete the deal. I wrote down the card no and PIN. An hour or so later, as I got off the train, I gave him the piece of paper with the details on and suggested that he check his bank account and cancel his card, because about twenty random strangers now had access to his money.

Love it!

2 hours loud speaker, annoying.

Husband unable to advocate for himself and expecting you to tell off the mean lady, annoying.

Yanbi