SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Did your adult daughter buy your SIL an Easter Egg?

18 is a reasonable age to stop Easter eggs but she could have warned you first op.

That is definitely wrong.
Assuming that she bought your older one eggs before dd2 was born.
Otherwise older dd gets 23 years of eggs and younger gets 18 years of eggs.
That's not fair on the younger.

Choose an age and do the same for both.

This is an Aprils fool isn’t it ?

I think YABU. You and your children are not owed gifts and this is not a case of favouritism where she bought one child a gift and not the other. It seems common for family members to stop gifts at age 18 and carrying on until the siblings are 18 could also be unfair as it means the older one gets eggs for more years and also there may be cousins who were stopped at 18 while yours continue to receive. It is also expensive if it applies to birthday and Christmas gifts or money as well. It would be more unfair to not give to either of them. If your DD is 18 then should would surely understand this.

You are doing your adult dc no favours infantilising her, encourage her to embrace the adulthood she has reached instead.

When do you stop? If you stop when the youngest is 18 the eldest has had years more! Do they have to have them for evermore?!

It's a wind up which has reached its goal......the aim being, wiind up the mumsnetters and watch em go'!

Worked as well 😂

Eggs / other gifts for kids stop at 18 for me.

There's a 5 year gap, so it wouldn't be fair to treat the kids identically, different advantages at different ages.

And an 18 yo can 100% buy themself an Easter egg.

YABU and your daughter is old enough to understand. Entitlement won’t get either of you far.

I mean it has to cut off somewhere or the younger sibling will be missing out on their share as such. My brother has never given my kids easter eggs (younger) when I used to buy for his but it is what it is.

In our family we stop as each "child" turns 18, that way they all get the same number of eggs/presents etc. Seems fairest way, otherwise you could be carrying on giving for years, especially if one part of the family keeps having more children.

But then you’d think it was unfair that the older one had 5 more eggs than your youngest.

Well that is your problem to own, not the aunt.

By which time your older daughter will be in her twenties ...?! I'm with your SIL and the pp suggesting must be a massive back story here.

She’s 18. An adult. Would she really care about an Easter egg?

Haha this has to be a joke.. April fools?

"Spiteful"? Grow up.

No. I stopped any form of present-giving to nieces and nephews when they hit 18.

If I'd waited till the others caught up the eldest would have been nearly 30. Then that wouldn't have been fair on the younger ones...

You know she's old enough to get married, have children, vote, join the forces etc, don't you?

Did you all buy your sister an egg?

You’re not really this thick, are you?!

That would actually be more unfair. So older DD would get Easter eggs for 22 years (as she is 5 years older, and presuming got an egg every year), whilst younger DD would only get Easter eggs for 17 years.

I was absolutely furious

Seriously OP!

18 and 10 year old dds here. I wouldn't think anything of younger one receiving and not older one. I know dd18 wouldn't either. It is easter bunny stuff and she wouldn't care less.

Some folk are plain odd and ridiculously dramatic. Absolutely furious indeed 😆

I, 30, have only just gotten my mum to stop buying me Easter eggs. I will also be the granny who presses £20 into any visiting young person’s hand and tell them to buy some sweets. Idc if they’re 45 with a mortgage!

Why can’t we just be nice to people younger than us?