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To report this to my manager?

121 replies

Thelordnelson · 31/03/2024 12:14

Colleague had an incident and has been off work a long time as not able to drive due to injury. Our job involves some driving and not able to work from home.

Colleague lives quite some distance away and our manager is young and inexperienced and appears not to question anything colleague says, just keeps taking the sick papers that are on a monthly basis.

I was on a day out yesterday and saw colleague driving into a shopping centre car park. I stayed parked up and they went into the store and exited carrying heavy cans of paint and some lengths of timber. Seemed not to have any issue with walking, lifting or driving.

As it happens we don’t actually need colleague back as we’ve all absorbed their work easily. They were a difficult person anyway and none of us want them back.

Torn as to whether to mention I’ve seen them or not. I have no evidence so am thinking just stay quiet. I am so annoyed though, they’ve had nearly 3 months full pay on the sick since the beginning of the year.

OP posts:
PensivePeanuts · 31/03/2024 12:43

If you don’t know what’s actually on her sick note then it’s not your business.

Also as a manager I wouldn’t know what to do with that information, you can’t force someone back to work when they are off sick. Managers aren’t even meant to contact employees that have been signed off at my work 🤷🏻‍♀️

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 31/03/2024 12:43

Well I'm clearly an outlier, but I'd tell the manager factually what I'd seen. Along with a comment along the lines of "obviously there may be other issues relating to her absence I'm not aware of but given that you have told us she's not in work because she can't drive I thought you should be aware of this"

OneMoreTime23 · 31/03/2024 12:48

PensivePeanuts · 31/03/2024 12:43

If you don’t know what’s actually on her sick note then it’s not your business.

Also as a manager I wouldn’t know what to do with that information, you can’t force someone back to work when they are off sick. Managers aren’t even meant to contact employees that have been signed off at my work 🤷🏻‍♀️

Woah.

Bet your company’s sickness is way higher than it needs ti be. How lazy.

ThinWomansBrain · 31/03/2024 12:49

Assuming the colleague has a fit note still because she is not able to work/drive - if she drives herself while off, it's down to her; if she had an accident driving for work when she has a fit note for that reason, it's the responsibility of the employer.

FloofCloud · 31/03/2024 12:58

How do you know what's in this person's sick note? The doctor deems them unfit to work so it's none of your business to be frank!

bradpittsbathwater · 31/03/2024 12:59

I wouldn't. Don't be that person. Mind your own business

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 13:01

Don’t be a brown nose

PensivePeanuts · 31/03/2024 13:45

OneMoreTime23 · 31/03/2024 12:48

Woah.

Bet your company’s sickness is way higher than it needs ti be. How lazy.

How is it lazy? Our HR are literally not going to give me anyone’s contact info. And in any case, you can’t call someone who’s been signed off and say they have to come back to work because you don’t believe their GP 😂

OneMoreTime23 · 31/03/2024 13:50

PensivePeanuts · 31/03/2024 13:45

How is it lazy? Our HR are literally not going to give me anyone’s contact info. And in any case, you can’t call someone who’s been signed off and say they have to come back to work because you don’t believe their GP 😂

You need some management training. It’s very outdated for HR to be doing it all. (And I didn’t for a second suggest you tell someone they have to come back to work.)

what is it that you manage, if not people?

Floopani · 31/03/2024 13:56

Well you clearly have it in for this person, I can't imagine just how gleeful you felt when you spotted her and started thinking of all the ways you were going to insert yourself in her business.

Nail123 · 31/03/2024 14:04

If a doctor had signed them off then they should be off work. Nothing to do with you.

PensivePeanuts · 31/03/2024 14:05

OneMoreTime23 · 31/03/2024 13:50

You need some management training. It’s very outdated for HR to be doing it all. (And I didn’t for a second suggest you tell someone they have to come back to work.)

what is it that you manage, if not people?

Ok thanks, I’ll be sure to tell my current and previous employers (large accountancy firms) that their HR policies are outdated.

IWasAimingForTheSky · 31/03/2024 14:07

Thelordnelson · 31/03/2024 12:41

Manager definitely does not have a grip of it. In fact the reasons for absence have come from her. As I say she’s very inexperienced.

As annoying as it is I’ll stay quiet. No good can come of it. Just hope she eventually gets her comeuppance.

This is the second time she’s had a significant absence and I’m hoping that in the next round of redundancy she’ll be gone. She really doesn’t deserve a job with us - not a team player in any way.

Oh you're one of them

I will take a wild guess this isn't the first time you've 'observed your colleauhe and reported them'.

I assume you fancy yourself as the manager as that silly young woman isn't doing well enough.

Mind your own.

IWasAimingForTheSky · 31/03/2024 14:08

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 31/03/2024 12:43

Well I'm clearly an outlier, but I'd tell the manager factually what I'd seen. Along with a comment along the lines of "obviously there may be other issues relating to her absence I'm not aware of but given that you have told us she's not in work because she can't drive I thought you should be aware of this"

'I thought you should be aware I sat in the carpark and watched her to report back tocyou'.

🤣

TequilaNights · 31/03/2024 14:42

Does your company have a whistleblowing policy?

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 14:44

TequilaNights · 31/03/2024 14:42

Does your company have a whistleblowing policy?

Like speak up anonymously?

LadyKenya · 31/03/2024 14:47

I really find these sorts of OP sad. The Doctor has signed this person off from work. It has nothing to do with anybody else who this person may work with. If the management has an issue with it, then let them look into it. You do not get paid extra for providing your little bit of information.

IWasAimingForTheSky · 31/03/2024 14:49

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 14:44

Like speak up anonymously?

Op wouldn't like that...

luckylavender · 31/03/2024 14:50

And just because someone can do something one day doesn't mean they can do it every day.

Nicetobenice67 · 31/03/2024 14:50

LadyKenya · 31/03/2024 14:47

I really find these sorts of OP sad. The Doctor has signed this person off from work. It has nothing to do with anybody else who this person may work with. If the management has an issue with it, then let them look into it. You do not get paid extra for providing your little bit of information.

Exactly brown nosing at its finest🤮 wonder if the op actually speaks to this person she is trying to fuck up I call it 2 faced you sound like a lovely work colleague

OneMoreTime23 · 31/03/2024 14:58

TequilaNights · 31/03/2024 14:42

Does your company have a whistleblowing policy?

That’s not what whistleblowing is. 🤦🏻‍♀️

rookiemere · 31/03/2024 15:00

If the GP has signed this person off, then there is very little a manager could do about it, no matter how experienced they are. I get that it's annoying, but really if there is anyone at fault here it is the medical professional who is continually signing this colleague off.

shoppingshamed · 31/03/2024 15:04

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 12:32

The OP shouldn't be aware of her colleague's reason for absence.

Have you really never worked anywhere that people share their lives and discuss quite openly what's wrong with them?

I can't be the only person who has known the ins and outs of co workers medical issues, it's quite normal ine

I find it odd that so many posters on here seem to have jobs where no one ever talks about themselves

rookiemere · 31/03/2024 15:08

There was someone a bit like this on an old team I was on, and then he dropped dead suddenly leaving a DW and young baby. You never quite know what is going on in people's lives.

IWasAimingForTheSky · 31/03/2024 15:08

shoppingshamed · 31/03/2024 15:04

Have you really never worked anywhere that people share their lives and discuss quite openly what's wrong with them?

I can't be the only person who has known the ins and outs of co workers medical issues, it's quite normal ine

I find it odd that so many posters on here seem to have jobs where no one ever talks about themselves

I'd be interested to know how much her manager actually discusses with her (sounds as if she rides rough shod all over her as well) and how much Op makes uo