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To kick my partner out for this?

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 22:51

I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or not, I'm very upset at the moment and my head is a mess. I'm 20 and my partner is 21. We live together. I spoke to my partner earlier and admitted to him that I've been struggling recently and that my mental health is bad at the moment and that I've spent a lot of time crying recently. His response was "why are you telling me about it, if your mental health is bad then go and kill yourself or something like that". I got angry at him for saying that and he accused me of massively overreacting. I'm thinking about kicking him over but I'm not sure if I would be overreacting or not. I was really upset before his comment but now I'm even more upset. I just can't get past his response to me, it feels like he doesn't care one bit but he says I'm overreacting about what he said. Also, I don't have any friends so if I kick him out then I won't have anyone else to talk to either.

Would I be unreasonable to kick him out for this? I just can't get past what he said to me but he thinks I'm overreacting. I haven't told him yet that I'm thinking about kicking out because I don't know if I'm overreacting or not, I also won't have anyone else if I kick him out because I don't have any friends. My mental health feels worse now than it did before I admitted to him earlier that I'm struggling, I also feel more upset now than I did beforehand as well.

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 22:55

Even if I do kick him out I'm not sure if I should do it tonight or wait until tomorrow because it's late now.

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Balloonhearts · 30/03/2024 22:56

I'd rather talk to myself than a cunt like him. Ditch the loser OP.

GrazingSheep · 30/03/2024 22:57

Do you mean kick him out of the house?
Is it your house?

GrazingSheep · 30/03/2024 22:57

Would he go?

cherish123 · 30/03/2024 22:57

I'd dump him. He seems really immature.

Notthatcatagain · 30/03/2024 22:59

I think you will find that you will feel a lot better once you kick him out

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 22:59

GrazingSheep · 30/03/2024 22:57

Do you mean kick him out of the house?
Is it your house?

I mean kick him out the house and dump him.
Yes it's my house.

If I do kick him out I won't have anyone else to talk to, I don't have any friends.

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Menomeno · 30/03/2024 23:01

CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 22:59

I mean kick him out the house and dump him.
Yes it's my house.

If I do kick him out I won't have anyone else to talk to, I don't have any friends.

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Sweetheart, you don’t have any friends already. He is not a friend, or a partner. You’ll find new friends but you’ll never feel better while you’re with this toxic child.

ThinWomansBrain · 30/03/2024 23:02

Having no one to talk to is a definite improvement over sharing space with a twat like that.
Get a cat, talk to people with dogs in the park, call samaritans, see your GP, rant on here...
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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 23:04

Even if I do kick him out I'm not sure if I should do it tonight or just wait until tomorrow, it's late now.

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LoseMeLikeAnArrow · 30/03/2024 23:05

There are ways of finding friends, including social media meet-up groups. Make space for potential new friends by getting rid of this nasty specimen. You deserve so much better💐

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 23:05

Menomeno · 30/03/2024 23:01

Sweetheart, you don’t have any friends already. He is not a friend, or a partner. You’ll find new friends but you’ll never feel better while you’re with this toxic child.

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I'm rubbish at making friends. I've always been rubbish at making friends, even before I met him.

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BirthdayRainbow · 30/03/2024 23:06

Please end this. He is awful, you are far too young to make do with this dickhead.

Being alone is much better than having someone be so bloody cruel.

Headabovetheparapets · 30/03/2024 23:06

I would definitely end this relationship over these statements, you say you have no-one else to talk to but he doesn’t want to talk to you supportively so you won’t be worse off & personally I would think you’d be better off without his negative & nasty words.
I’d say wait until tomorrow in view of the time as things tend to be easier in daylight but it depends on how you feel about him being in your house.

FictionalCharacter · 30/03/2024 23:07

Get rid. Anyone who can say something like that is going to be a horrible partner. You're young, too young to tie yourself to someone so nasty. You'll probably feel better when he's gone, once you've accepted the loss of the relationship.
Bin him, breathe, and make plans to get out and meet people.
Do you have parents, siblings, other family?

Stickyricepudding · 30/03/2024 23:08

He is the reason for your poor mental health, get rid of the stupid waste of space.

LoseMeLikeAnArrow · 30/03/2024 23:08

If you are 'rubbish' at making friends, you would be more successful at group activities where you are part of the crowd. It will reduce your loneliness. Look into volunteering - what are you interested in? Animals, community, health, fund raising etc.?

BlueMum16 · 30/03/2024 23:09

It's late. Go to bed. Get some sleep. In the morning tell him he needs to leave. You don't need upset this time of night. Clear head tomorrow.

You are better than this. You deserve better than this.

Then look for ways to meet people. Do you work? College? Join some clubs.

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 23:14

Stickyricepudding · 30/03/2024 23:08

He is the reason for your poor mental health, get rid of the stupid waste of space.

To be fair the reason for my poor mental health wasn't him. Although his response to me tonight has made me feel worse.

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MyBreezyPombear · 30/03/2024 23:14

Don't put up with this idiot just because you don't have any friends.

My sister had a friend who was awful to her but she put up with it for years because she was her only friend. Honestly, it wasn't worth it for her at all. Now she's much happier and has made other friends.

Your boyfriend sounds awful, kick him out of the house in the morning and find someone who deserves you because it sure as hell isn't him.

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 23:14

He hasn't apologised either.

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PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 30/03/2024 23:15

Kick him out tomorrow he is not a friend or partner if that’s his reaction to you saying your mental health is suffering.

You are far too young to be putting up with that bullshit

Take some time to be single and don’t punish yourself for not having friends. I’m an introvert and struggle with friends but doing a hobby has created friendships (book club) and work colleagues have turned into friends. Do you work and have a hobby that you can spend more time doing?

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CoralHedgehog · 30/03/2024 23:27

BlueMum16 · 30/03/2024 23:09

It's late. Go to bed. Get some sleep. In the morning tell him he needs to leave. You don't need upset this time of night. Clear head tomorrow.

You are better than this. You deserve better than this.

Then look for ways to meet people. Do you work? College? Join some clubs.

Yes, I work.

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LiterallyOnFire · 30/03/2024 23:31

Definitely kick him out. Then try to improve your MH by building social networks.