To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

This thread has me crying 😂😂😂

Soz OP, no way would I ever ask a stranger, even politely, if I could have the sandwich in his basket. I’d have shrugged my shoulders and grabbed a couple of bread rolls, a bottle of mayo, a bag of salad and some Leerdammer and made myself a couple of sammies on the train.

I’m a voracious meat eater but I love nothing more than a cheese and onion sandwich and anyone that would ask me if I would be willing to swap because they’re veggie would have got short shrift from me. Because no matter how very nicely you ask, there’s still a subtext of almost blackmail in there - ‘you have lots of choice but I only have the one…that you took.’ I think you may have realised that quite a few others feel the sane way!

im dying to know what the husband said before his wife went nuclear and what the wife actually said. also what did you eat?
please brighten my Saturday evening

That’s so strange imo

To be honest, he might have. Plenty of men, not all of course, a lot of arseholes out there, but plenty of men are polite when a woman asks them something, my husband is one of them. He’d politely have given her the sandwich and said sure no problem. Maybe had a whinge after, but his inherent politeness and as she was female would have meant he’d have handed it over. If a man asked he’d have said no sorry mate I’m having it.

id be the one to tell the op to jog on.

and I suspect the op knew this. The man would have politely given it to her, and that’s why she scarpered with a good luck, when the woman did no more than tell her she was being rude.

I strongly suspect if it was another woman with the sandwich the op wouldn’t have asked.

Such bizarre responses on this thread, I wouldn’t have minded at all if you’d asked me and wouldn’t have thought you were being entitled at all. YANBU.

Maybe the sandwich was for his hangry vegetarian wife.

YNBU for asking for the sandwich, you don’t ask you’ll never know.
I think asking him if he is veggie maybe wasn’t the right idea, but to be honest I’d probably have let you have it (as long as there was something else I’d eat). I think as long as you’re polite it’s fine. Maybe if I was hangry it would go down differently tho.

It's not bizarre to expect random strangers not to question your sandwich choices or not to lay claim to something you've already selected.

Exactly! I am sometimes torn between two choices and would‘ve given my sandwich to someone whos vegetarian/vegan/allergic if there was another suitable option for me. I‘m also vegetarian though and would never ask someone this because i‘d be to shy to do so.
wouldn‘t dream of calling OP all these things for asking in a friendly way..

Not really because if it's vegan that's what it's aimed for so it wasn't vegetarian to begin with. However, they should have more of a distinction in places. For example, I heard you can't ask for cheese on a Mcplant (it will be so people can't then try and cause a fuss saying thats not what they asked for) so they should offer both veggie and vegan alternatives. I was vegetarian from the age of 10 and been vegan coming up 10 years now (I'm in my 40s) so I do know the difference and no one's food is "ruined" 😂

It's a bit cheeky, but not rude. He might not gave been that bothered. Likewise he could've just said no. I voted YANBU. I would have swapped the sandwich for you. The wife was BU for making a big deal out of it.

Some places ARE replacing vegetarian options with vegan ones.

Hilarious! Can’t believe the brass neck of some people.

Yeah my youngest is a meat eater but when we're out, 90% of the time he will choose a cheese savoury or cheese and onion sandwich and he can't be swayed otherwise.

This is made up surely?? No one would do that irl. 🙈👀

Most places still do have options for both though. I'm often asked if a veggie option would be suitable when the vegan ones aren't available. Like I've said, have the two alternatives but vegetarians do still have a lot more choice, because they can.

This.

Yes thats a fair point @JJathome my OH would definitely hand it over the fool that he is.
Still don't think the OP did anything terribly wrong. But that's probably because I would have no qualms in telling her no.

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Bravo OP! 😂😂😂😂

Some places are replacing vegetarian options with vegan options, thus making them less palatable to non-vegans.

Irish slang.

Eg- “Stop feeling sorry for yerself, you fooken tulip”

I just mustn't have come across it, because all the places I go have a ton of V options and a few VG. Not saying you're wrong, just that where I live places must be a little more open to the differences.

Yabu

your diet isn’t medically necessary, it is a preference, even if it is a strongly held preference. It is not fair to compare yourself to someone who requires a gluten free diet.

you also were in a place where there were other food options available, even if they were not your first choice.

Some of the reactions on this thread 😅

tbh if someone asked me that I'd probably swap, and be taken slightly aback. There's definitely no need to be shouting at anyone

To be fair I don't think it was unreasonable to have asked if he would swap, explaining you're vegetarian. But to ask if he was vegetarian was probably overstepping. I don't think it's as big a deal as people are making out, nothing wrong with asking and nothing wrong with him saying no. The person making a scene was the one in the wrong.