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Which driver(s) were unreasonable (with diagram!)

93 replies

CroccyWoccy · 30/03/2024 07:53

Trivial incident but I know mumsnet loves an AIBU with cars and diagrams so I consider this a public service.

Busy junction with nose to tail traffic on the main road. Car A (me) is signalling to turn right into side road. Car C is on the side road signalling to turn right into the main road. Car B is proceeding straight on on the main road in the opposite direction to Car A.

Car C moves forward as far as it can in the traffic, blocking Car A’s route into the side road. As the car in front of Car C moves forward creating some space, Car B then moves forward across Car C’s lane, but can’t complete the turn because Car A (me) is still waiting to turn right.

There is now a three-way blockage with no car able to move.

There are cars behind all three cars so no-one can reverse.

Car A (me) manages to get us out of the impasse by mounting the pavement behind Car C in order to complete the right turn.

Which cars were the most U?

Which driver(s) were unreasonable (with diagram!)
OP posts:
Tryingtokeepgoing · 30/03/2024 09:01

YireosDodeAver · 30/03/2024 08:29

Car C was the most unreasonable as had the least right of way. However their actions may be understandable in context.

Car B had priority as on the main road and not turning but bears some responsibility as they could have prevented the whole situation by being more considerate of other road users and pausing in the nose to tail traffic just before the junction in order to allow these kinds of maneuvers. They may have not been paying sufficient attention to notice that there was a junction they would be blocking or they may have noticed but not cared or genuinely thought that pausing for 10 seconds would seriously affect their journey.

Car A had second priority as on the main road and turning. However they could also have made everyone's lives nicer by waiting a few seconds anc pausing before the junction to let C out. They weren't obliged to do this and had every right not to but it would have been the mark of a considerate driver and would not have delayed their journey or other traffic significantly. I would also be interested to know whether they started signalling their need to turn right with plenty of time for A to notice and react as above.

C technically caused the problem by being impatient however we don't know all the backstory - maybe he had been sitting there trying to turn right for ages and all the drivers on the main road in the nose to tail traffic kept failing to act considerately and reasonably as above and this might have been the 40th occasion when someone could easily have let him out without much delay.

This, to me, seems like the clearest description of the situation and what should have happened

Poshjock · 30/03/2024 09:03

C absolutely should not have crossed the line until the road was clear to progress onto, although real life often makes that difficult. B, if in traffic and stationary, should not have blocked your progression into side road.

If B had left room for you to complete your manoeuvre then C would have been able to come out behind you.

B and C at fault. If B blocked you before C crossed line then B most at fault. If C moved first then C most at fault.

bluecomputerscreen · 30/03/2024 09:04

car A massively unreasonable.

you must not ever mount the pavement ever.

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:05

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 08:52

Do 'most' of us create a hazard every time we pull out of a difficult junction?

Yes. When our presence causes others to possibly adjust their actions, we are being a hazard.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:07

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:05

Yes. When our presence causes others to possibly adjust their actions, we are being a hazard.

'Most' of us?
How can you speak for 'most of us'?

DaisyMcFacey · 30/03/2024 09:09

I’d also want to know who was there first between Car A and Car C.

We have a similar junction near to where I live and if someone is already in Car C’s position and I’m turning right like Car A, if the traffic is slow moving I will let Car C out as a courtesy.

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:13

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:07

'Most' of us?
How can you speak for 'most of us'?

Because most of us don't have time to sit all day in a side road waiting for 2-4 lanes of traffic to be clear.

DaisyMcFacey · 30/03/2024 09:14

Although just to add, Car C in my situation is a pain as all they need to do is turn left to head to the roundabout a little further down the road!

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:15

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:13

Because most of us don't have time to sit all day in a side road waiting for 2-4 lanes of traffic to be clear.

Ah well, 'most' of you might end up being held responsible for the costs of the inevitable accidents.
In practice folk don't have to wait that long, because a kind driver is more likely to let another car out if they don't force their way (and if it's safe to do so).

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:18

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:15

Ah well, 'most' of you might end up being held responsible for the costs of the inevitable accidents.
In practice folk don't have to wait that long, because a kind driver is more likely to let another car out if they don't force their way (and if it's safe to do so).

In practice folk don't have to wait that long

You speaking for all people?

AnnetteKurtan · 30/03/2024 09:18

B & C were both unreasonable here. B shouldn’t have blocked the junction but C shouldn’t have pushed in either

Floooozy · 30/03/2024 09:22

I have same junction every day and I’m car A.
C is U.
B has priority, then A and last C.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:27

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:18

In practice folk don't have to wait that long

You speaking for all people?

You don't answer when I call you out but you feel qualified to then call me out?
Wow, you've won me over now.
Just stop.

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:31

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:27

You don't answer when I call you out but you feel qualified to then call me out?
Wow, you've won me over now.
Just stop.

😂

You stop.

I did answer you. You're the one who took offence at something that didn't apply to you. "Most" doesn't mean "all". If you are not someone who creeps and peeps at junctions, then what I said had nothing to do with you.

Halloweenrainbow · 30/03/2024 09:35

CroccyWoccy · 30/03/2024 08:09

Oh crumbs I have completely confused this paragraph and I can’t edit the OP. It should read:

Car B moves forward as far as it can in the traffic, blocking Car A’s route into the side road. As the car in front of Car B moves forward creating some space, Car C then moves forward across Car B’s lane, but can’t complete the turn because Car A (me) is still waiting to turn right.

I drive on a road where car C pulls out because there are issues with visability to the left meaning they have to edge out to get a view of the main road to the left. Usualy car A and car B wait back so car C can join the road, car A can then turn right and B continues straight ahead. Not the normal order of priority but it keeps the traffic flowing in that circumstance.

CormorantStrikesBack · 30/03/2024 09:39

C shouldn’t have edged out. However if I was car b I’d have left a gap so A could turn right and C could get out. So they were an arse.

saying that I saw something similar where b did leave a gap and A turned right and hit a cyclist coming up the inside.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:40

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:31

😂

You stop.

I did answer you. You're the one who took offence at something that didn't apply to you. "Most" doesn't mean "all". If you are not someone who creeps and peeps at junctions, then what I said had nothing to do with you.

Stop. Stop. Stop.
Oh yes, and stop assuming too.

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:48

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:40

Stop. Stop. Stop.
Oh yes, and stop assuming too.

Nope. I have every right to post on this thread and respond to people who make comments to me.

Missamyp · 30/03/2024 09:52

Repetition for emphasis.
Right of way doesn't exist.
Do not block any junctions in stationary traffic.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 09:54

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:48

Nope. I have every right to post on this thread and respond to people who make comments to me.

You do.
(Keep digging though).
Tschüss.

Sallysappho · 30/03/2024 10:03

Car B has right of way but if the road ahead of him was blocked he should not have obstructed the junction. You could have the completed your right turn and car c could have started his right turn once you were out of the way. Cars A and C were both being unreasonable C was the worst.
It just an example of very poor driving standards in this country

Bluefell · 30/03/2024 10:03

B is a dick. In stationary traffic you’re not supposed to come to a stop blocking the side road. You stop before the side road so that other traffic can enter and exit freely.

WhatsitWiggle · 30/03/2024 10:06

Car B is wrong. There's a Highway Code rule that in slow moving traffic you shouldn't block side roads. If car B had stayed put when the gap opened up, both car A and car C would have been able to complete their manoeuvres.

It's mindless driving, sitting in traffic, edging along, not being aware of what's going on around you. Selfish and potentially dangerous.

Teateaandmoretea · 30/03/2024 10:07

HollyKnight · 30/03/2024 09:13

Because most of us don't have time to sit all day in a side road waiting for 2-4 lanes of traffic to be clear.

😂😂😂

Most people I hope would check they weren’t doing it as a car was turning right and thus blocking their path.

Iluvteandbiscuits · 30/03/2024 10:11

@CroccyWoccy

Car A: is blocking Cars C and B from moving and has options. they also had no hazard perception and should have stopped before the junction to allow C to leave they did not, blocking both C and B in a situation they could not fix. A also illegally mounted the pavement.

Car B: was moving in a straight-line and legally did not have to leave any gaps, morally they could have.

Car C: Pulled out into the traffic when there was no gap, but they obviously pulled out enough to reach the far side, but some random person not looking what they were doing blocked them, from exiting on the far side. (car A).

Car A, was the only car that could rectify this position by either stopping before the junction or having courtesy to see there was an issue and continue and turn around. Allowing car C to exit and B to move forward. Instead A decided to illegally mount the pavement due to their impatience and incompetence.

A is the biggest at fault, followed by C, then B.