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Original poster

To be annoyed at parents who don't follow the "keep your children home for 48hrs rule if they have been vomiting"

95 replies

Ripeberry · 28/03/2008 14:30

This morning a little girl in my DD1s class came in early (for a change). She is reception and was basically left to get into school on her own from the car park.
But she told the teacher that she was sick all day yesterday and last night.
The reception teacher was NOT happy as our school has a rule that kids MUST stay at home for at least 48hrs after symptoms stop. The parents are aware of this but they chose to drop and run.
Anyway, the school may ring them anyway but it's annoying as there is a sickness bug going around and this little girl is going to a swimming party tomorrow with my DDs.
If they all start coming down with it, then the Easter break is going to be pants!
AB

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bobsyouruncle · 28/03/2008 14:38

agree it's annoying, thoughtless, irresponsible etc. Also such a shame for the poor sick little girl!? What are they thinking? My dc have been off all week with a sickness bug, no way would they have coped with school.

marmadukescarlet · 28/03/2008 14:43

Grr it happened a while back in DD's class the girl (then 6) was vomiting all the way home on the school minibus and came in the next morning as her mum had to work (high ranking hcp!)

DD used to sit next to her, DD was ill within 48 hours and DS (has severe SN including a metabolic condition and was a skinny we 18mth old) was rushed into hospital unconscious 48 hours after that for 5 days being tube fed and on a drip.

I also caught it whilst in hosp as was in a side room with no soap at the sink and no hazardous waste bin for the nappies, it was rotorvirus which is worse/same as the norovirus to vulnerable people.

So NYNBU

meemar · 28/03/2008 14:47

there is the possibility that maybe it wasn't a bug though. Maybe she had food poisoning or something?

Still, not nice for her to be in school all day if she was being sick all the previous day. She must be quite tired.

perpetualworrier · 28/03/2008 14:47

MY DS1 often (about once a month) vomits once during the night. We think he gets too hot. In the morning he will be fine, am I wrong to send him to school?

But YANBU I wouldn't dream of sending him if he'd been "properly" ill like this little girl.

MikeStand · 28/03/2008 14:52

I had a fellow SAHM tell me she often sends her kids in when they have been sick in the night. She said "they're usually Ok and you have to stay in don't you". Well yes but surely one advantage of being SAHM is you can stay home when they are ill. I have worked in the past and yes it is a nightmare having to take time off with a sick child but thats what you sign up for when you have kids.

cupsoftea · 28/03/2008 14:55

hate this as well - one girl arrived at dd class with conjutivitus. It looked awful - a few days later the teacher had it.

Christie · 28/03/2008 15:45

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DarrellRivers · 28/03/2008 15:50

but it he was seriously unwell and needed an ambulance it would have been safer for him to have gone ASAP in ambulance rather thatn waiting for his mum to get there.
(admittedly she sounded very relaxed)

niceglasses · 28/03/2008 15:59

Annoying - yes and not nice for the kids. Poor things.

BUT - my ds1 gets proper migraines (they run in our family). He gets a banging headache is sick and then is ok. He did this Sunday but I sent him in on Monday.........

PanicPants · 28/03/2008 16:04

Unfortunately this happens ALL the time, the amount of times I have parents say to me they have been sick in the night, but are feeling better now, so have brought them in.
It is inconsiderate.

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Ripeberry · 28/03/2008 16:04

Just come back from collecting DD1 from school and the girl has been there all day.
The school has sent out a memo as well to remind parents NOT to dump kids outside the school gates before 8.35am and to remind everybody again about the 48hr staying at home rule.
Maybe they will read it
AB

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Christie · 28/03/2008 17:48

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DarrellRivers · 28/03/2008 18:11

Ah well, that sounds v unreasonable if she didn't want to meet her child at the school
A bit odd really as well

2shoes · 28/03/2008 18:44

christie how horrid and I bet he wanted his mum.

flossish · 28/03/2008 18:46

its interesting that the nhs direct website states that children with conjunctivitus shoule continue to attend school/nursery!

yama · 28/03/2008 18:52

Yes flossish - my dd's nursery have recently revised their rules regarding conjunctivitis. No longer a two day exclusion.

bigknickersbigknockers · 28/03/2008 19:04

This really annoys me because DS1 caught every sickness bug going up until the age of about 6. YANBU. Its just common decency to keep children away from others when they have sickness and the trotts (sorry cant spell Diorea)

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 28/03/2008 19:12

YANBU - as a teacher AND as a parent this makes me so angry. If you don't care about the health of your child that's fine but don't inflict highly contagious illnesses on everyone else because YOU don't want to take the day off or just can't be bothered to look after your child

(Oh and I'm not talking about children who are sick for other reasons eg migranes or from coughing too much)

expatinscotland · 28/03/2008 19:17

why didn't the head take her into her office until the parents came to get her?

if it's a school rule it needs to be enforced otherwise it's useless and you'll have 'parents' who do this because they can't be arsed with bringing up a child.

3monkeys · 28/03/2008 19:17

To be honest, it is annoying to keep them off if they are completely well by the morning, and my DS2 who is 2 has to stay at home all day aswell. They were contagious the day before they were sick when they were at school anyway!

expatinscotland · 28/03/2008 19:20

well, that's part of being a parent, 3monkeys. it's annoying sometimes.

but we teach our children social responsibility by having respect for others, including their health.

they're NOT always contagious the day before - that does apply to some illnesses, but definitely not to many causes of d&v.

they're definitely contagious when their vomit particles splatter all over other children or they forget to wash their hands after using the toilet whilst in recovery from one of these bugs.

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 28/03/2008 19:26

Yes expat! I'm afraid 'it is annoying to keep them off' is not going to cut it as a reason to pass on infectious illnesses to other young children and their families

3monkeys · 28/03/2008 19:26

Don't get me wrong, I do keep them off if they've been sick (my mum used to say you could only be off if you'd been sick after midnight!) But then the next day, when you've had them sat in front of the telly for 24 hrs and they're fine, they are surely fine for school? Our school made the 48 hour rule when they'd had some awful bug one summer term and had to finish 2 weeks early

expatinscotland · 28/03/2008 19:30

and another bug like that may well come back because parents find it annoying to have to parent their kids at home for a day.

people die from these bugs. a lot. not just elderly, either.

schools have to make rules like this because a lot of people today have no sense of social responsibility and won't keep them off because it's annoying to have them around.

3monkeys · 28/03/2008 19:32

I think you're taking me wrong expat. I have no problem having them at home if they're ill, and if it's a day I work, my MIL willingly has them. But it's a shame when they're ok and you know they are!

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