I need some outside views.
My ds was suspended.
These care the facts
Incident 1 - AM T and two of his friends were taking shelter from the rain during morning break.
They were accosted by a large group of year 7 girls who were making derogatory slurs, being intimidating and making threats.
A girl said "Why are you wearing that hat, you freak". T replied, "It's raining".
At this point t took out his phone. The girl then said words along the lines of "why are you taking photos of me Ty" and other threats and slurs
The girl then punched down on to T's collar bone leaving a mark and broken skin while using hate speech term for a protected characteristic Ty
T's responded defensively with a partially closed hand push to the girls lower left jaw.
At this point friends took T to Ace, where he had to wait 10 minutes or more to be seen by a teacher She appeared to be already aware of the incident and sent T to ISR.
There appears to be little attempt to corroborate the incident from T and friends Rather relying on the words of a much larger group who were being intimidating to a marginalised and minority protected characteristic.
Incident 2 - PM
On attempting to leave at the end of the school day , T And friends were accosted again just prior to the school gate. A mixed age group of girls with what appears to be a sixth former participating.
One girl lunged at T pulling his hat and hair. The hat fell into a muddy puddle. This hat is very new and a comfort gift to T from his mother.
As T went to retrieve the hat from the puddle, the girl attempted to grab it as well, this action of her's caused her to hit into T's left hand where he was holding his phone.
The girl then proceeded to shout. "Did you see that SHE hit me" repeatedly.
The group then broke into two, with the Sixth Former and several other following T and his friends making threats and using derogatory hate speech.
His friends took him to where his mother was parked and asked that T get a lift as he was afraid for tanks safety and this group as around 5 meters from hid friends mothers car.
Friend's mother then drove him home.
As you can see from the two incidents, these were NOT initiated by T also there appears to be little in the way of quizzing his friends about their version of events, rather relying on others words.
This is deeply concerning, especially as T is physically small and continues to receive hate speech and intimidation whilst at High School as well as receiving harassment and threats whilst on school grounds.
They are threatening to exclude him. Wtf do we do?
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Stressedgiraffe · 27/03/2024 21:10
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLStressedgiraffe · 27/03/2024 21:10
I need some outside views.
My ds was suspended.
These care the facts
Incident 1 - AM T and two of his friends were taking shelter from the rain during morning break.
They were accosted by a large group of year 7 girls who were making derogatory slurs, being intimidating and making threats.
A girl said "Why are you wearing that hat, you freak". T replied, "It's raining".
At this point t took out his phone. The girl then said words along the lines of "why are you taking photos of me Ty" and other threats and slurs
The girl then punched down on to T's collar bone leaving a mark and broken skin while using hate speech term for a protected characteristic Ty
T's responded defensively with a partially closed hand push to the girls lower left jaw.
At this point friends took T to Ace, where he had to wait 10 minutes or more to be seen by a teacher She appeared to be already aware of the incident and sent T to ISR.
There appears to be little attempt to corroborate the incident from T and friends Rather relying on the words of a much larger group who were being intimidating to a marginalised and minority protected characteristic.
Incident 2 - PM
On attempting to leave at the end of the school day , T And friends were accosted again just prior to the school gate. A mixed age group of girls with what appears to be a sixth former participating.
One girl lunged at T pulling his hat and hair. The hat fell into a muddy puddle. This hat is very new and a comfort gift to T from his mother.
As T went to retrieve the hat from the puddle, the girl attempted to grab it as well, this action of her's caused her to hit into T's left hand where he was holding his phone.
The girl then proceeded to shout. "Did you see that SHE hit me" repeatedly.
The group then broke into two, with the Sixth Former and several other following T and his friends making threats and using derogatory hate speech.
His friends took him to where his mother was parked and asked that T get a lift as he was afraid for tanks safety and this group as around 5 meters from hid friends mothers car.
Friend's mother then drove him home.
As you can see from the two incidents, these were NOT initiated by T also there appears to be little in the way of quizzing his friends about their version of events, rather relying on others words.
This is deeply concerning, especially as T is physically small and continues to receive hate speech and intimidation whilst at High School as well as receiving harassment and threats whilst on school grounds.
They are threatening to exclude him. Wtf do we do?
MississippiAF · 27/03/2024 21:22
If you’re in fights, you get punished. Who started it doesn’t mean the other person isn’t punished.
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Boombatty · 27/03/2024 21:38
Your wording "partially closed hand push" when you really meant "hit" suggests to me that you are minimising your child's involvement in this incident. However, there is no excuse for bullying and I'm sorry that your child is experiencing this. It sounds like they are in a difficult place with their identity and ND issued. I assume you are aware that the proportion of girls with ASD and ADHD identifying as boys is very, very concerning?
Is this a girls' school?
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