My 12 year old DD is autistic and currently on her 2 weeks Easter holiday, I’d mentally planned a few days out over the break, dd has agreed to two but other than that has asked to spend the majority of this time at home relaxing and “ avoiding people “
She’s happy in herself, communicative with the family but doesn’t really want to do much other than play on her iPad on roblox or watch Tiktoks
she also FaceTimes a close friend daily. AIBU to go with what she’s asking? It seems almost irresponsible crap parenting to let her sit around not doing much, but not sure if I’m getting swept along with the social media ideal of having to go on lots of days out etc? But then maybe what she’s asking is what she needs to do? In order to recharge/relax? Thanks
AIBU?
AIBU to let my Autistic dd spend the majority of the Easter break at home not socialising?
Sfuandtired · 27/03/2024 21:08
Am I being unreasonable?
318 votes. Final results.
POLLItBeDarkTonight · 27/03/2024 21:19
Sorry but I disagree with the above posts. At home relaxing is ok but only scrolling tiktoks and playing Roblox wouldn't be ok to me. That's not helpful or healthy for anyone. There needs to be a balance. Does she meet the exercise guidelines? Does she do any chores? Has she got homework? Relaxing at home could be baking, reading, doing art, learning a language, knitting, gardening etc. That can all be balanced with screen time too but it's not ok for that to be all she does. She can avoid days out but she needs to be doing something
ItBeDarkTonight · 27/03/2024 21:19
Sorry but I disagree with the above posts. At home relaxing is ok but only scrolling tiktoks and playing Roblox wouldn't be ok to me. That's not helpful or healthy for anyone. There needs to be a balance. Does she meet the exercise guidelines? Does she do any chores? Has she got homework? Relaxing at home could be baking, reading, doing art, learning a language, knitting, gardening etc. That can all be balanced with screen time too but it's not ok for that to be all she does. She can avoid days out but she needs to be doing something
Malarandras · 27/03/2024 21:14
Why do you need to take her on lots of days out? I spent most of my upbringing either out playing or playing in my room. My kids have spent a lot of time at home too because I have to work and despite that I don’t have a magic money tree to pay for constantly going out either. There is no need to be going out constantly.
ItBeDarkTonight · 27/03/2024 21:19
Sorry but I disagree with the above posts. At home relaxing is ok but only scrolling tiktoks and playing Roblox wouldn't be ok to me. That's not helpful or healthy for anyone. There needs to be a balance. Does she meet the exercise guidelines? Does she do any chores? Has she got homework? Relaxing at home could be baking, reading, doing art, learning a language, knitting, gardening etc. That can all be balanced with screen time too but it's not ok for that to be all she does. She can avoid days out but she needs to be doing something
Irisginger · 27/03/2024 21:22
Autistic people often use gaming to help with regulation. It is helpful and healthy!
ItBeDarkTonight · 27/03/2024 21:19
Sorry but I disagree with the above posts. At home relaxing is ok but only scrolling tiktoks and playing Roblox wouldn't be ok to me. That's not helpful or healthy for anyone. There needs to be a balance. Does she meet the exercise guidelines? Does she do any chores? Has she got homework? Relaxing at home could be baking, reading, doing art, learning a language, knitting, gardening etc. That can all be balanced with screen time too but it's not ok for that to be all she does. She can avoid days out but she needs to be doing something
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