Aibu to ignore sisters request for help

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I received a text saying she needs some help with some accounts and I’m an accountant so can I help her.

Since I moved into my home over 3 years ago she’s not once visited me or to see my dc despite numerous invitations. we do live 1.5 hours away tbf but I think 3 years is enough to make an effort when I do it the other way around albeit not much anymore once I worked out she cba. Every year I only hear from her on my birthday and Christmas with a generic text saying happy bday/xmas.

aibu to not provide this help given I know she can afford to pay an accountant she would just rather have it for free from me.

Absolutely this

This.

Option E and do it once give her a chance

I would probably go with that response.

Good one

Say you aren't able to do it. I'd advise not to give a reason but if she persists in asking why, say something about professional indemnity/professional codes for free work/family members making it impossible/causing conflict. Then point her to a website where she can find her own accountant/advise her to find someone who belongs to a particular accountants' professional body

Find out what she doesn't want to see your lovely children and your new home? What's the issue there?

I've been on MN for about a year now and I have noticed that many Posters are very quick to sever relationships for any reason whatsoever. In fact, I have heard it said on MN that you can end a relationship of any sort just because you feel like it. I think when you read comments you have to bear this in mind. I don't know if the average MN really does this in their own life. I suspect not, but for some reason many seem to get satisfaction from the thought that other people's relationships with friends/siblings/husbands/wives/children/pil are being severed right left and centre and that the op has gone NDA (or whatever, I forgot the acronym).

'Sorry, I'm absolutely snowed under at the mo'.

Leave it at that.

A "text"?
Ignore, ignore and ignore and possibly divorce her as your sister.
I cannot stand users!

Your choice but you know how I feel.

Love this from a pp:

hi Sue, I'm good thanks for asking (bonus if she hasnt actually asked how you are) unfortunately with it being the end of the financial year I am snowed under and will be for some time. If you need help finding an accountant in your area I recommend checking (whayever website you can find a good accountant on)

Maybe she's trying to reach out to spark a genuine connection but doesn't really know how?

Oorrr, charge her? Sign her up as a client!

Agreed. This is perfect.

I would just be the bigger person and help her. Do a nice thing and it may make you feel better as well as her.

Just say you can’t give her financial advice as she’s not your client but refer her to some decent accounting firms in her area

This

I'd just message back saying, " Hi I'm really sorry, but I'm too busy to help right now. It's nice to hear from you though."

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I never say no to friends or family. I just say I’d love to help and have some free time in ** (insert month so far in the future it’s completely useless to them). Learning to say no without saying no is a good skill to have when you work in a job that lots of people need.

Sorry I'm too busy ATM with my paying customers work. Or just tell her to go fuck herself.

Tell her your availability and professional rate.

I only hear from my siblings twice a year or when they need money.

Money I say no to now, but other help I'll do.

It makes me feel good to help, so perhaps it's more fore than for them.

Why reply to the text at all? Just ignore it.

Same here OP, the amount of tax returns/messes/no accounts but scribbled on paper situations I have sorted out for every Tom, Dick and Harry for just a 'Thanks' is crazy!

Sounds like you have a very strained relationship with your sister

Is that all on her? The not visiting? What do you do for her birthday?

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