Should I bin my friend's art?

[Joyjazz]

My friend painted me a picture. The sentiment was lovely but I really hate it. It's not my taste and not in keeping with my house. I keep it behind the TV and hang it whenever she comes to visit so I don't hurt her feelings as she is really proud of this piece and spent many weeks making it. I'm moving to a new house and I don't want to be carrying things that I don't like or want to my new home. I want to take the frame and bin the actual painting. She's a good friend and she is likely to visit and possibly ask where the art is.

AIBU to put the painting in the bin?

Jeez, that's the stuff of nightmares not art. That's definitely due for an accident in the removal van.

Couldn’t you just suggest she paints something for the new house? Give her a bit of guidance on theme or ask for something in particular that you do like?
You could then offer the other back as it doesn’t go with your new decor.

I have this problem - we have ( I think an expensive) painting we got given as a wedding present . But we really care about the giver so its on the wall - but on a corridor upstairs so we don’t have to look at it. Do the same - the friend is more important

It is tricky - I do crafts and I don't often give stuff to anyone as I recognise how personal a thing it is, to decorate your house! I've also been in the position of having a canvas bought for me that I wouldn't necessarily have chosen.

Whenever I have given anyone anything, I am always very upfront in saying that I won't be looking for it, it's a gift to them to do as they wish and I'll never ask them about it - and I mean it! But as I say, I very rarely gift anything that I've made without prior agreement with the recipient.

I think we need to see the painting to know for sure!

@SmallIslander it's upthread...if you dare!

@Joyjazz I'm sorry but I wouldn't like that on my wall either

The best part of this thread is the people thinking that pic is the actual art and not a joke from an episode of Friends.

I was more thinking of the giant picture Amy gave Penny in The Big Bang Theory.

Ha ha. I immediately thought of Amy's painting too

The only truly viable option so that it goes for good and stops taking up valuable space is for it to be ‘damaged’ in the move. You’ll need this event to be believable.

Do you or your partner have an office? Can you say you’ve taken it there?

No
It's not

Ha ha ha, I've just seen the 'artwork' and that has to be a wind-up

@WotNoUserName is it?! I don't watch friends! Well, that had me fooled

This made me laugh out loud!! 😂

I have this problem. My bro has found his artistic streak and painted
me a pic of a day out we had. Thing is, I was going through a break up at the time and looking at the painting brings all those feelings back. My bro visits in a few weeks. I have it propped up ( I tend to do this with pics and don't have them on walls). As soon as he's gone, it's up in the loft. Or worse 😬

Agree that it's a good idea to hang it in your bedroom (or somewhere else she doesn't get to see every time she visits) just until you've given her the grand tour of your new home, then put it in the back of a cupboard.

I think that would be fair to explain to your brother, maybe he could paint something different for you.

Ask her if she wants it back. Don't throw it away.

You risk her making you another if you bin it.

Hang it in your private dressing room.
Show her once and say that you hang it there because the painting, though you appreciate the gesture, does not compliment this new house and, to be honest, sometimes creeps people out; those who can not see it in a fun, spy Barbie kind if way!
You could have other Barbies as decor on a table nearby and make a strange feature of it. You could later on say you gave it to a Barbie lover as you tired of the concept.

Other options are .. to carefully attach another picture, that you like, on the back and make it reversible.
To offer it to the local Art Show and sell it for charity. Then say it you grew out of the styleand it was great that your art made so much for Kids Cancer.

Is your piece of artwork better or worse than the one from Friends @Joyjazz

Asking if she wants it back is a great idea.
Honestly saying you are decluttering and only taking some of your former life with you...and no you don't wish to have another painting, thank you.

Wonderinf if the Op is Penny and said friend is Amy. Although technically Amy didnt do the painting she had it comissioned. Too big for a utility room methinks

GLADYS😂

Bin it. The house move is the ideal opportunity for it to somehow get lost.

I would pretend that it got lost in the move.