To think is not too nosy?

[azureazure]

My dp thinks I’m very nosy. I think I’m inquisitive. If someone tells me something and it interests me, I will do some research on the topic later. Or if I meet someone who interests me, I’ll look them up later.

Most recent example he thought was strange is that we went on holiday and got talking to a couple. Knew first names only and the area they lived in. They mentioned they’d just sold their business and seemed like they had a LOT of money. They were also very vague about what the business was but said along the lines of “We sold carpets”.

So from that info I was able to spend about 20 mins tracking down who they were. Could see how much their business sold for and how much their house cost e t c

Does anyone else do this? I’m just interested in people. I can find out lots off little info and see it perhaps as a challenge for my detective skills.

If the most interesting thing you can find to do is search acquaintances financials then that’s really very sad.

Extremely nosey, this is why l have little social media presence.
I think your behaviour is very odd, do you not have your own life to think about?

I am nosy but that seems like a little much.

Strangely I don't have my info 'locked down' but nothing about me comes up in a google search and I have an uncommon name

I’ve never done this, only ever once looked at someone on LinkedIn ( because he’d looked me up) and I’d be amazed if anyone I knew had.

I think for some people how much money other people have, how much their house cost is info they really want to know, an envy thing, do they have more than me. for the rest of us, it would’not even cross our minds to find that out, nor do we care.

and it’s always money isn’t it. How much have they got, what did their house cost, what car do they drive, what jobs do they do , what does that pay.

..small minded snooping and grubbing around for other people's information.

A perfect description of these behaviours. It feels a bit grotty just reading about other people’s grubbing around stalkyness.

It is and the trying to justify it makes it grubbier, just own it.i do often wonder what goes on behind some peoples eyes , they sit making small talk and in their heads they are thinking how much have they got.

You are on a slippery path to being a stalker. It’s creepy AF

Deeply creepy behaviour.

I do some of this and it is just curiosity. I don’t tend to look at house values but would look at company information. When watching films or TV I end up looking up actors, how old they are and where they were born, I just have this pathological curiosity about people. Also I sell online and if someone is rude I look up their house on Google and go to street view. I don’t know why, just to think to myself I know where you live, I suppose. I’ve always needed to know someone’s age whether in real life or on telly. I feel it helps me relate. But I am on the spectrum so it may be something associated with that.

My df would accuse my dm of being nosey. Something she would vehemently deny as she patted the nets neatly into place.

Perhaps @azureazure your dh is not interested in your discoveries. Keep it all to yourself.

To the people who do this, would you tell the acquaintances you are googling, all the information you have found out about them, if you were to meet them again? If you wouldn't then that suggests you know that it is overstepping social boundaries.

While some information is in the public domain for good reasons (like house prices) , that information can simultaneously be personal (again, how much a person sold their house for) because it inadvertently reveals other information (like how much money a person might have). That's why it's intrusive to do it, particularly if you hide it.

Yes. It’s always about the money, bottom line.

Some on here call it
curiosity
Being nosey
i just love research
going down little rabbit holes so interesting

but in the end it’s about money. And, as they say, if you have ask - they’ve got more than you. Job done.

I like to do this. Not for any reason other than to test my detective skills really! It's definitely being nosy, I fully admit that.

The other day I saw someone at the school gate that I didn't recognize. Assumed it was the child's Dad, but I thought I'd seen the Dad before. So I nosied. Didn't know either of the parent's first or last names. But I knew the child's first name, and it was slightly unusual. A search of the child's name plus my town brought up a public Facebook page that had been created to document the child's success in a sport he plays. Which then meant I could click through to the Mum's Facebook, see who her husband was and ascertain that person at the gate was not him, and was in fact her brother-in-law.

Served no purpose other than to wile some time away while the kettle boiled, and to satisfy my own curiosity/nosiness.

If I'd wanted, I could have then looked into the Mum's business as she'd linked to that from her Facebook, and I imagine that would have led me to their address via Company's House. Or google maps if she'd put her business on there. Plus the company accounts of course.
(I didn't look at all of that. But I could have if I'd had longer and been more interested in them).

Wow! Why would you do this? What weird behaviour. It takes nosey to another level. I hope to god I never bump into you on holiday.

Go on, explain how leads OP to the dangerous, frightening behaviour that actual stalkers exhibit. Lay out for us the path you've just claimed exists.

I have definitely done searching when I’ve wanted to, but I certainly then wouldn’t try to deny I was being nosey 😂

You ARE nosey, OP

I think OPs getting a hard time on this thread. To me being human means having a healthy curiosity about other people and their lives.

And to me this occasionally takes the form of wondering what my eg best friend from primary school / university flatmate / workmate from 10 years ago is doing now and Googling them. Sometimes this will mean I spend one minute on linked seeing what their job is. Other times I may click on a few search results and find out slightly more about them.

I’d find it weirder if someone had zero interest in finding out anything about people they’ve met in their lives.

And as for the previous poster who said this is a slippery slope to becoming a stalker - rest assured I’ve been doing this for twenty years and have never felt the need to stalk anyone!

That is weird, weird behaviour. To search a child's name and stalk on them. Weirdo.

I have honestly never done this. The only social media/ internet "research" I've done is to see what exes were up to.

Why does her time need a better use? Its her time to spend as she likes.

I’d assume the answer to that is so she refrains from this rather grim behaviour?