To put her back in nappies at 6??

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She still pees the bed. I have tried everything. I take her to the toilet at night, I give her no drink before bed. I've had to throw 2 mattresses away because of this. I've told her if she has the urge to pee to shout mummy and I'll take her toilet. Nothing works. I didn't have this issue with my other two. And it's only at night, no issues with going to the toilet in the day. I'm thinking to just put her back in a nappy at night because I'm at my wits end and I can't be getting a new mattress every other month and stripping the bed everyday.

I could have written exactly this. Ask your GP again for desmopressin, the only thing that made a difference for us. My DD slept through the alarm every night.

4 children and 1 of them was like this. We just used pull ups. He's 8 now and just has the occasional accident. At 6 years old we would think he was dry and stop using them and then he would have a run of being wet each night so would start using them again. Never an issue for him - we would discuss it with him and the reasons why he needed them and he was find with it. At 6 it's not something you can train out of them; it's developmental/hormonal.

You need a waterproof mattress protector not just a normal mattress protector. There’s no way your mattress should be wet if you’ve got the right protector.

Why on earth don't you have waterproof covers on the bed? They are so cheap on amazon. I have them on all my beds because my elderly cat often doesn't wake up in time to pee. You just wash them down.
My cousin wet the bed until he was 10 it was a hormonal thing. It can be very distressing for them.

We had a fitted sheet which had a sort of terry towelling thing as a top layer with a waterproof layer underneath. It didn't sound crinkly and nothing got through that waterproof layer. You shouldn't have to replace mattresses at the rate you are going. I can't see pads being at all effective.

Haven't RTFT but I used to wet the bed until I was 8 or 9.

I tried everything including electric shock blankets.

What worked for me in the end was stretching my bladder. I was told by the doctor to drink lots of water and then hold my wee until it physically hurt and I couldn't hold it any longer. Then I had to pee in a measuring cup.

I can't remember how long it took, but at first I couldn't hold much wee, and by the end I could hold loads and I stopped wetting the bed.

Put her in pullups and get a waterproof mattress protector. She's not doing it deliberately as it happens in her sleep. Some children have this up to puberty. Desmopressin can help.

Another one here who had success with an alarm. My DS was 6.5 before he was dry at night, we thought we’d never get there as he had never had a dry night, not even once. The key with the alarm for us was going in when it went off and waking him - to begin with, he was such a deep sleeper that it would be blaring and we’d be awake but he still wouldn’t. So one of us had to get up and go and force him to wake up, get up and go to the toilet. At first it would be too late, but gradually his brain realised what was going on! It took around 2-3 weeks, and then he started waking himself up before the alarm would even go off. Another 2-3 weeks later and he stopped needing a wee in the night at all and would sleep through, hallelujah!

We kept the brolly sheets just in case for several months! And we still even now at 8 have to ensure he doesn’t down a glass of water just before bed. But do try the alarm, it doesn’t work for everyone but does for lots.

Before he was dry, he was in size 7 Pampers. I found them better than the proper night time pants which always used to leak, and they were slightly cheaper too. He was a skinny thing so they still fitted just fine.

My daughter was in pull ups at night time till age 7.5. She was frustrated because her 3 Yr old sister in same room was dry.
Firstly I'd always explained that bodies grow at different rates and pointed out things (like talking, walking, drawing, reading) that she did earlier than her siblings so she accepted this as just a physical difference.
Around age 7 she really wanted to try without pull ups but bed was soaked every night. I researched online and showed her videos of the therapee alarms. There was a video from a child describing using it. Once I had buy-in from her I got one. Best thing ever. I think she was just sleeping too deeply to wake to urinate. There are not lots of leads or anything. Just the alarm (can be plug in or battery) and special shorts (with wires sensors inside them but connected wirelessly to alarm). She never wet the actual bed again. The pants were regularly wet for a few months but we stuck with it and then she was completely dry. There were a few tricky nights where I heard the alarm, she automatically turned it off but she was insisting then that it wasn't alarm, wanted to stay in bed (half asleep) but I made her go. The website is great, it shows how you have to get them to practise every night just before bed, pretending to sleep, you set off alarm and they.jump up, turn off alarm and go to bathroom. It's conditioning them to wake at alarm and use loo. Then the alarm conditions them to wake at first urge to urinate and use loo. My daughter is dry years now but would still wake most nights to go to the toilet. Some people just need to urinate at night - or hormone hasn't kicked in.
Only downside to alarm is the special pants are thick (to hold sensors) and take a good while to dry. But we managed with 2 pairs.
I think the alarm is far less disruptive to sleep than washing a child and changing sheets.
But if you don't want to go down this route there is no harm in pull ups at age 6. You can also get more discreet absorbent underwear for girls that Co es with a little wet bag if she is going on a sleepover.

Haven't RTFT but try a high dose vitamin d in the morning. It was recommended to us by a nutritional therapist for this purpose. Has lots of other benefits so worth a go even if it doesn't help the bed wetting!

I agree with the alarm comments. My 5 year old was wetting the bed every night. We bought one of these and within 3 weeks he had stopped. I was really skeptical but it definitely sorted him out.

My GP said they don't really see it as a problem until 8/9 years old. Put her in pull ups, I can't imagine this is good for either of you.

My friend daughter wet the bed eventually until she was 11. There are some kids that do it because they don't wake up overnight.

Doctor told them no drinking a couple of hours before bed and a timer was introduced when she was old enough to understand that she needed to find a solution to the night time wee. Every night she woke up with the alarm and when to the toilet.

Every now a them there was a overnight wee but the frequency was reduced as about one every month, and after once every few months etc.

No is 14 and haven't went the bed in more than two year, she got her period at 12 and my friend was panicking of having an accident on those days because of the mess but it didn't happen.
Now she doesn't need a timer or anything, just like rest of us if she need a toilet she wakes up and go.
Take your kid to the doctor for advice and a checkup and they will tell you.

She was fine on the check ups but her sleep was too deep for her brain to recognise the urge to wake up and wee in the toilet.

It's very common for children to have delays to the maturity of the muscles needed to hold a full bladder. Dry Nites bed sheets and pull up pants, and GP

An alarm worked for my son who is also 6. I was really against it, figured it was hormonal, wanted to leave it to sort naturally etc. But he had a residential overnight school trip coming up and desperately wanted to be dry so after reading positive reviews we gave it a go. Best thing we did, as I don't believe it was really hormonal so much as him being too deeply asleep as the first few nights the blaring alarm didn't even wake him! They have to learn to wake up and turn it off themselves so I'd have to go in and wake him to do this to start with. It took 3 or so weeks for him not to be fully bedwetting, then he began waking after just a little bit came out. Now he is dry almost all of the time, unless he's been very tired. It's just taught him to wake up when he needs a wee. It was a wireless one, cost about £90 so not cheap but so worth it. I think it was necessary that he really wanted to be dry at night so he was willing to be rudely awoken by the alarm.

The company who make the alarm also give good advice, one thing is to make sure the child is drinking lots throughout the day, this was an issue for my son and increasing daytime fluids helped too.

There are also definitely things you can do to make it all less stressful, full waterproof mattress protectors combined with the pads, dunelm do a Terry pillow and duvet protector. I did two or three layers of this so at night I just had to pull the wet stuff off and then he could get back in. It's not fair to get annoyed as they can't help it.

if your using mattress protectors then you wont be needing to replace the mattresses, if you have to double up on them, she wont be moving around so much they come off as they are like fitted sheets. put double mattress protectors on (waterproof ones)

i peed the bed until i was 12, one day it just stopped happening randomly

I really don’t understand why anyone would buy new mattresses and have disrupted sleep rather than just keep their kid in nighttime nappies? Or pull-ups if you prefer that term: they’re the same thing! Everyone sleeps, nappy goes away in the morning (DD5 rolls up her own and puts it in the bin), everyone’s happy, everyone is dry at night eventually.

you need to get a bed wetting alarm system. My DD struggled until we tried this. It works.

If she’s never been dry through night, use pull ups. The mattress protectors don’t stay put if you have a child who moves around a lot in bed. I just used pull ups and one morning, dc was dry and then never had a wet bed again. It literally just happened like that. If she has been dry at night and suddenly started wetting again, I’d go to the gp.

I always feel a bit sad when I read these threads because it should be common knowledge that being dry at night is not related to daytime dryness or to parental input or any particular talent or strength of the child. In the whole one has to just wait until your child is reliably dry when you wake them or they wake in the morning. There are significant numbers of children in year 1 who wear nappies at night and even in year 6 there are usually 2 or 3 who are not reliably dry. There is no need to make it into an issue for any child under 8 with otherwise average development and after that you can get advice from the enuresis clinic , check to see that there is no medical problem and even go as far as giving medication if that is what your child wants. The vast majority of DC out grow this. It very often runs in families so in those cases the parents probably don't feel as unfamiliar with the situation. Luckily you can buy big pull ups now so the washing issue is less.

Take her to the GP. They will refer her to a specialist, likely they will give you an alarm to wake her at night if she starts to wee and will encourage you to give her more liquids in the day to increase the bladder size so she holds more at night.

I haven't got any experience of this, but just thinking what'd happen if you had a family emergency and someone else had to look after her at night, or in a couple of years time if this is ongoing and she wants to go to a friend for a sleepover. If I ended up being the person looking after her, I'd rather she was in pull-ups/similar than having to cope with changing the bed in night/ruined mattress. Also, it sounds like you're finding it difficult, so I'd try pull-ups for a while and see how it goes.

Haven't read all the messages so someone may have mentioned this. My SD was the same. Her mum bought her an alarm that goes on your underwear and goes off when moisture touches it. It woke her and she went the toilet. It took about a week or so before she didn't need it anymore.

Wet-Stop 3 Bedwetting Alarm (BLUE) 6 Alarms & Vibration, Enuresis Alarm, Incontinence, Potty Training https://amzn.eu/d/g19IH5w

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I will take her to the GP and put her back in nappies at night time.

I wet the bed until I was 7 or 8. I am sure I have a not diagnosed overactive bladder.

My DS was in pull ups until he was 8.5. Took him to the GP, was recommended the alarm which is attached to their underwear and goes off if it gets wet. He was very motivated to try because he didn’t want to go to sleepovers in a pull up. The alarm went off almost every night for to weeks and it was REALLY loud. And it worked. He hasn’t wet the bed since.