To put her back in nappies at 6??

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She still pees the bed. I have tried everything. I take her to the toilet at night, I give her no drink before bed. I've had to throw 2 mattresses away because of this. I've told her if she has the urge to pee to shout mummy and I'll take her toilet. Nothing works. I didn't have this issue with my other two. And it's only at night, no issues with going to the toilet in the day. I'm thinking to just put her back in a nappy at night because I'm at my wits end and I can't be getting a new mattress every other month and stripping the bed everyday.

Also, the other things suggested by the continence team were avoiding blackcurrant squash or juice as that irritates the bladder.

Making sure your DD is properly hydrated during the day - conversely not drinking enough can contribute to bedwetting. We had to measure how much our DC were drinking to be absolutely certain they were getting enough during the day.

The usual stuff re not drinking too late, but also doing a "dream toilet trip" - you take your DD to the bathroom to try for a wee while she's half asleep. So basically getting her up after she's been sleeping for a while, but just guiding her to the toilet rather than fully waking her.

Can't remember anything else for now, but if I recall any other advice, I'll post it.

We've tried every brand of pull-ups on the market - Huggies DryNites are the best we've found. If you need to buy lots of them, they're cheaper in bulk on Amazon.

Buy the full sheet mattress protectors...they are like a fitted sheet and go over the whole mattress.

Don't shame or be angry towards your daughter about this.

Once I wet the bed when I was about 7 or 8, and my mother threatened to go into my primary school, get me standing up in assembly and tell the whole school what I had done.

I could cry now thinking about it. Awful.

Because she didn't buy full-sheet mattress protectors that go over the entire mattress.

Yes, good point! I didn't think of mentioning this because we automatically buy the full sheet ones.

The protectors we use fit over the mattress like a fitted sheet. Literally nothing gets past it - plus we usually have two on the bed so we can just remove one set if needed. They're brilliant.

We have had them on all our beds in our house for many years now....even the double beds, not for wee, but for sweat too!

Hotels have them, and I now get the heebie-jeebies from any hotel or guesthouse that doesn't have them on the beds! Ewww!

Similarly, I was 14.

Nothing worked, it is hormonal, though I didn't know that.

I had the charts, being walked to the loo while asleep, doctors, all of that.

Luckily my dear mother never made a fuss or made me feel bad and this was in the 70s.

I had a heavy duty rubber sheet under a normal sheet, and when I woke up freezing soaked in cold urine, I would undress and slip in beside my mother.

OP try pull ups and don't make a fuss. Your child literally cannot help it.

Yes! So many reasons they're useful - I'm a clumsy oaf and have spilt drinks on my bed more times than I care to count!

We've just bought a new bed and splashed out on an expensive foam mattress and I said to DP that we should get a mattress protector. I'm too scared to have a drink in bed at the moment in case I spill it 😅

I hear you!

In fact, I don't even have drinks upstairs. Never have.

I'm so nervous I'd knock it over, and not just onto the carpet either, it'd probably end up going into the plugged in extension socket.

I think it's fairly normal. As pp mentioned supermarkets sell Drynites to age 15 so there's obviously a demand for them. We have waterproof sheets on the bed as DC7 still wets if unwell. Our DC6 still occasionally soils during the day as did a neice at that age. Doctor not interested until they are older. I think these toileting issues are common but people just don't talk about it.

For social reasons I wouldn't call them nappies at this age. I'd call them nite pants/pajama pants for the sake of their self esteem.

This was me. Stopped wetting bed at 12. Every time I dreamt of water - would be weeing! Parents did loads of things that were shaming and made it worse. They did not know better though!

Firstly you need a waterproof bed cover. I have them on all my beds for general hygiene. Nothing wrong with pull-ups at night until such time she’s dry for a good while then you can reevaluate.

We found an alarm very effective at that age. My daughter was a very deep sleeper too. It actually only took a few ‘alarms’ to get the problem sorted.

My DS was toilet trained at 2, but had to wear a night nappy/pull up until he was almost 7. After that we kept Brolly Sheets on for a couple of years.

Brolly Sheets tuck into the bed over the bottom sheet, so they don't move around. Because they are over the top, you can just whip it off without changing the whole bed. They also are great for middle-of-the-night vomiting episodes.

If she is literally not trained at night then yes use pull ups. If it's an occasional deep sleep/too much to drink use a Matress protector.

If it's the first ask for a referral to incontinence team.

Yes I was similar. My parents use to put my Matress on the back garden to dry where everyone would see it. I felt so ashamed. And I hated the buzzer.

I agree with you op, put her in pull ups or those night time pants.

It’s all very well saying ‘mattress protector’ but that doesn’t solve the wet pajamas.

Some children just aren’t reliably dry at night until they’re older- 6 really isn’t that “old” to be regularly wetting the bed. It’s really no big deal.

In the meantime, pull ups at night and fitted waterproof sheets will save the mattress.

DD was dry in the day about a week after her second birthday. But wet the bed until she was 11 every single night.
We tried everything bar drugs. She is now 14 and completely dry.
We used pull ups. We explained to her it was because she wasn't producing a chemical but she would.
It was only on sleepovers that it was an issue and we taught her to be discreet then.

100% I’d put her back in pull ups for 6 months or so and try again. Some kids are later when they produce this hormone and so I’d just wait a little longer

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I think it can be considered normal up to around 7 or 8 although I could be wrong. My 5 year old had just successfully night trained but it was 2.5 years after day potty training.

I feel you. I was going through the same. Try a bedwetting alarm and speak to your GP. Ours prescribed desmopressin after years od trying everything and countless wet beds. Please also put her in pull ups!

I had this hormonal issue as a child and was given medication which sorted it out! But I think I was more like 8 or 9

In our area you can get an appointment at the Enuresis clinic at this age, who will advice on drinking etc, you can hire a bed wetting alarm and refer to GP for prescription if needed. You can self refer.