To put her back in nappies at 6??

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She still pees the bed. I have tried everything. I take her to the toilet at night, I give her no drink before bed. I've had to throw 2 mattresses away because of this. I've told her if she has the urge to pee to shout mummy and I'll take her toilet. Nothing works. I didn't have this issue with my other two. And it's only at night, no issues with going to the toilet in the day. I'm thinking to just put her back in a nappy at night because I'm at my wits end and I can't be getting a new mattress every other month and stripping the bed everyday.

My elder two DC were dry day and night by three, but my DC3 wet the bed until she was about 8 or 9. It tapered off until it only happened when she was ill, and eventually not even then. I used mattress protectors and washable bed mats until she was completely dry. It was never a big deal. She's now 14, all this a distant memory.

Waterproof terry mattress protector or if you are buying a new mattress some places do a mattress with a waterproof side (I think I got one from Next). Also waterproof duvet and pillow. We used these but sometimes my DC would change beds or come and sleep in my bed and wet it.
I think the ERIC website has some info.

I know it’s so difficult, my DC wet the bed every night, pull ups didn’t help as they leaked everywhere. They would often wake up afterwards so we would be changing the bed and washing in the middle of the night, so exhausting! I think they were seen at around age 6 by the hospital and enuresis clinic. They had scans etc and we tried everything including medication and alarms (which woke up the whole house but not my DC!). The medication worked but they didn’t like taking it and had to have regular breaks. They were not dry at night until around the age of 15 and by then they had also been diagnosed with ASD.

No one in Scotland wees. Blokes in pubs pish. Everyone else pees.

One of the alarms was an absolute godsend for nephew at this age. Worked rapidly - nothing else had. He was always a very deep sleeper.

DS took a while to be dry at night (I think he was 8) we were told that it was hormonal. We used Dry Nites and a waterproof protector until one night, he just stopped wetting the bed. Don’t stress yourself about this, OP, use Dry Nites and she’ll eventually outgrow it.

I know there's 2 opposing camps on this but IMO, the aim is not to wake up in the middle of the night when you need to go, the aim is not to need to go in the night at all.

For me, dry at night = go to sleep and stay that way until you get up in the morning. I wonder if the parents who are waking kids late at night for toilet trips before they go to bed themselves are actually creating the habit of needing a middle-of-the-night wee.

Why are you saying you have to replace the mattress??

My son was the same. He just stayed in pull ups until he didn't pee in the night anymore, I think he was well into 7yo. It didn't bother him at all. She'll get there!

I have 3 children, all dry during the day at age 2. First child dry at night at 4, second at 8, third at 11.
It's not something that can be controlled and is simply a matter of waiting until the child's body starts to produce a hormone called ADH (anti- diuretic hormone), I think it's called.
I worried about it and tried every alarm, Desmopressin, drink charts, no dark coloured drinks etc etc etc.....all I achieved was spending a huge amount of money.
My advice is to just leave your daughter in Pull-Ups and have a waterproof mattress protector. Above all else, remain totally calm and non-judgemental and reassure your daughter that she'll be fine in time and it's totally normal. Quick shower or dip in the bath every morning.
It's very hard work at the time, but this too shall pass!

Dryeasy Bed wetting alarm worked for my 7 year old. (With waterproof mattress protector). Took about a month. https://www.amazon.co.uk/DryEasy-Bedwetting-Control-Selectable-Vibration/dp/B00LX0OV2E/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?adgrpid=53938883676&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Fb6dgyKb6dVOp5tWT7odQ31V4sDBJCYn6qdotmNrvyVfwmkhaGdD_3E-nEeLW5LFnd8ZbKcG_TdXAkF6NVdA6nWneNHLrhf1Mv4jyNq7tilby2zmiOZ_pIq-TYWGGd5Im0w50UEjuDy8yyLHZtVeUNAukqwxw_6AFkwsgYojr8jYJPgmjf2ApeYYDWDkmKxjevLSJOVcFl0Tk98dWETg3w.eeL-gTjxVw0C8w8Z365i_rHd-mVG_joPOaTgfn86ff4&dib_tag=se&hvadid=606386690576&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=1002316&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=2884874488946030908&hvtargid=kwd-302745272525&hydadcr=8486_2284901&keywords=dryeasy+bedwetting+alarm&qid=1711323310&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

NICE guidance is that bedwetting should be treated as a medical condition from age 5, so make her a GP appointment and they will refer you to the bladder and bowel team. It used to be 7/8 but isn’t anymore. Also consider if she could be constipated as that is a very, very common cause.
https://eric.org.uk/childrens-bladders/bedwetting/

I'd use pull ups as more grown up than a nappy and dri nites bed pads. Also you can buy a mattress that is like a hospital one with a plastic like coating. You just spray it and wipe it down. I'd not have taken the DC out of nappies until they were dry at night.

I wet the bed until I was 10 it felt really shameful, my mother used to put me on the toilet in my sleep and I would wake up of course. She was very angry and annoyed with me and would tell everyone about it shaming me in front of my siblings and cousins, so I was teased and mocked at school which gave me extreme anxiety and made it worse I think but I couldn't help it.I don't know how it stopped it just did. So please try not to let her see you're frustrated or upset .My lovely kind aunty would invite me for tea and a sleepover, but my mother would shriek "oh no she can't she still wets the bed" but my aunty would insist and funnily enough, I never did it there or at my grannies house! So anxiety played a big part for me.

Also I used pull ups at night as well but I got princess ones and called them her special sleep pants. Once there was a week dry we stopped but I did use the mats I mentioned. As there was still the occasional wet night if she was very tired.

My daughter wet the bed most nights, occasionally she would seem to get better and then go back to every night again. We used pull ups, I think the older ones are called pyjama pants to sound less babyish. She was in them until 11 and eventually just stopped quite suddenly. Tried everything until then but I think it is a case of waiting it out until those hormones kick in.

My niece had the alarm at 8 years old and was dry within about 10 days. Nothing had worked previously including some medication the GP gave her. She's been fine ever since.

Please remember OP one rule doesn't fit all, not all kids that are 6 (or any age) are all going to be the same or at the same level, if she still needs to be in pull ups at night then its nothing for her or you to feel bad about. My niece is 5 and looks a lot older for her age so we often forget shes only just 5 and does need to wear pulls ups sometimes. You're doing the right thing :)

My youngest wasn't dry at night until she was 9. We took her to the Dr and they said to wake her at least twice a night for a few weeks, if that didn't work we should try an alarm, if all else failed medication was the next step. I really didn't think waking her would work, if anything surely it would train her to need the loo at night, rather than learning to hold it. Anyway, it took a few weeks but it did work. We woke her at about midnight, then again at about 3 or 4, and took her to the loo. After a couple of months we forgot to wake her a couple of times and she was dry, so eventually we stopped completely. During this time she had a plastic sheet on her bed and she wore pull ups (she insisted on wearing them). Just posting this in case it helps anyone.

I think that's a good plan. It takes the stress off you both. Once her pull ups are consistently dry in the am they can go.

As some other have suggested, a bed wetting alarm. Sorted mine in about 2 months, they were 7.

I made sure I went to bed early and prepared for the night shift. As it would go off at any time of the night
I double.made the bed water proof protector bedsheet, water proof protector bedsheet.. so I could peel a layer off.
Spare pants and PJs ready.

Now 10 years later, they've never wet the bed since.

Also dehydration can causes bed wetting, so don't restrict drinks.

Don't make a big deal, she won't be able to help it

I was going to post a thread about this as having same issue only DC is 7 next month! Still wets the bed daily, I cannot keep washing the sheets every single day, I've just ordered some pull ups!

We've had Brownies (7-10) on sleepovers who wear pull ups at night, and wet them. It's not the norm, but not that unusual.

My DD was day potty trained at 2 years old, but not dry at night until about 7.5 - she just didn’t wake. Then one day the pull ups were suddenly dry.

I remember being worried at the time but everyone assured me it was hormonal and would not be forever.

How much are they drinking during the day?
One bit of advice I was given is that sometimes the bladder needs "stretching" by consuming larger volumes of water during the day. It then makes the bladder big enough to hold a whole night's urine.

I just wanted to add my experience here.

I have autistic DC. My DS who is now 14 years old is still incontinent, both day and night. But for a while when he was young, the continence team worked with him to try and solve his problems.

His twin sister is also autistic, and she wasn't quite dry through the night at age 4.

We were referred to the continence team when they were both 4. Primarily for DS, but because DD wasn't dry either, they included her in the referral.

I had to fight tooth and nail with the continence nurse NOT to treat DD. They wanted her to take a medication that would physically stop her being able to urinate during the night. The nurse warned me that it was a powerful drug and that it was imperative that DD didn't drink a single thing after being given the medication, not even a sip of water.

Honestly, there was no way that I was going to give my 4 yr old such powerful drugs for a problem that she would probably just grow out of. (And she did, around six months or so later, she was dry.)

Nothing was suggested for DS as he didn't just pee throughout the night, he also defacated (and still does). So there wasn't any meds suitable or else they probably would have suggested those too!

So I just wanted to say that sometimes they do treat children at a surprisingly young age, but imo, treatment isn't always the best option. I remain quite shocked to this day that such a powerful drug was being suggested to medicate a very young child unnecessarily.

As an aside OP, mattress protectors really do work - my 14 yr old regularly has accidents of both pee and poo throughout the night. Have you tried the age-old suggestion of doubling up? So if there's a wet night, you just need to whip off the top sheet and protector, and you're left with a fresh sheet and mattress protector underneath?