@Mummypig16
Controlling right to the end , can't give it up relinquish that aspect of himself which is all consuming fucked damaged immature man child
pathetic excuse of a man ...
You certainly are doing the right thing,
I can amagine when he tells his family that you've split up as a couple,
Whats the chances of him making 🤔 up his own narrative too
such as i don't know whats wrong with her or up with that one,
everything seemed alright,
All couples have their ups and downs in life that's just how it is, or to similar effect,
and she sprang this on me out of the blue,
I am confused why she want to split up etc,
Or
It must be the kind of friend or circle of friends she has got are a negative influence and influenced her in this big decision of splitting in some way,
be aware he will definitely make serious attempts to manipulate you through your children given half the chance,
for sure,
100 per cent agree with your decision to split up from him
Make sure you get good enough emotionally and financially wise advice support too as much as possible
with your own family and good charitable organisations out there too,
that can beneficial to you in your situation
Look up on the Internet for charties also citizens advice bureau can help with financial advice ,
You could maybe get a support worker who acts like an advocate go between yourself and can sign post to best support out there locally ect and services,
could help you too who are involved with charitable organisations ..
Best of Luck
I would also look into seeking having good therapy to explore and understand and address the factors the reasons behind being acctracted to arsehole immature man child as this in first place,
I've been there myself and very much regret this now.