AIBU to cancel on my friend

[Sundaycoffee]

I have plans to go for dinner with a good friend that I haven't seen in a couple of months and these plans have been in the diary for about 3 weeks now for next weekend. I know she is looking forward to them.
My parents have offered us to come and stay at their house that night while they are away in the countryside. So a bit of peace and quiet, some nice walks, bath etc. Compared to our small flat.
Would IBU to cancel on my friend to go. Obviously move to another date but I know she may be disappointed

I’d cancel any normal friends would understand your life doesn’t revolve around them as long as you dont just cancel constantly on her .

Could you ask your friend if she is up for dinner - before you go to your parents?

so long as you put another date in right away, i wouldnt mind

although if she has to get childcare etc, might be more difficult

Seems a bit crap to bump your friend.

You are being a shitty friend if you do that.

It's short notice to cancel when it's not an emergency. Don't be too surprised if your friend is reluctant to make a further commitment to you.

Just say that unfortunately you need to cancel the date but can you put another in!

you would be beyond shitty. So unkind.

Surely you can have quiet walks, bath etc when you visit your parents anyway?

I wouldn't cancel. It's only one night - one night at your parents wouldn't make such a difference to your small flat situation. You'd be out the flat anyway seeing your friend. If it was further away time-wise I'd considering cancelling, but for next weekend, no way. Especially as it's Easter and she's probably looking forward to it and would be dropped on if you bailed.

Maybe your partner is influencing this decision? Because the night in your parents house would suit your partner I'm guessing.

No I wouldn't cancel

It's Easter next weekend and she will have arranged her bank holiday around your plans. She may have organised something else if you hadn't got something in the diary & now you might be leaving her with nothing to do on that day

A good friend would understand, just apologise and ask if you can move it to the next weekend they are free.
I wouldn't think it was a big deal if I were the friend, I'd just reschedule. Things come up and life happens 🤷🏻‍♀️

If it was another weekend then maybe I would rearrange but given its Easter weekend no I wouldn't.

Don’t be flakey. You are putting your wishes firmly before your friends.
In her shoes I would think you were not a great friend.
The only think that would be ok would be to discuss whether or not you would be able to rearrange easily without costing her time / money . But don’t present it as a decision unless you are willing to lose her as a friend.

It's up to you, but don't be surprised if she's not super keen to make an alternative arrangement with you if you do cancel.

Could you invite her to your parents too? Nice country pub for dinner?

Could you invite the friend to your parents? Phrase it like, 'oh they dumped me in it for house sitting, would you be up for joining me? If not we can do the following week. Gawd, my parents, lol.' so that way you can include her but she can pull out if she'd rather just see you at yours.

It’s a very long weekend and your meal has been arranged around her plans. Bit shitty to cancel so you can go and house sit imo.

I had to teach my DS when they were in early Primary School that they couldn’t cancel plans with a friend if a ‘better’ offer came along from another friend. I still recall a particular tantrum a week before Halloween about a decade ago! So no you shouldn’t cancel it’s really rude and selfish.

Good lord, the drama.

OP go house sit, and rebook it. I'm sure she will be just fine.

Reasonable to move it, perhaps only by a few days, given it is Easter.

Invite your friend?

Invite your friend but don't cancel the meal, you can go to your parents anytime. She probably turned down Easter invitations to fit you in so I wouldn't cancel.

Shorty thing to do.