AIBU to cancel on my friend

[Sundaycoffee]

I have plans to go for dinner with a good friend that I haven't seen in a couple of months and these plans have been in the diary for about 3 weeks now for next weekend. I know she is looking forward to them.
My parents have offered us to come and stay at their house that night while they are away in the countryside. So a bit of peace and quiet, some nice walks, bath etc. Compared to our small flat.
Would IBU to cancel on my friend to go. Obviously move to another date but I know she may be disappointed

If it were a really exciting one off opportunity, I would be more sympathetic, but cancelling on a friend you haven’t seen for ages for a bath and a quiet walk at your parent’s house is a really weak excuse not to meet someone. If someone did it to me, I wouldn’t be rearranging with them.

I agree

The weather doesn't look great over Easter weekend if that puts you off going to the countryside

No. Just cancel if you feel that way.
Put yourself first, your friend or anyone else would not do that.
More you do for others, more entitled they become. Entitled to your time and energy.

I think a weeks notice is reasonable to cancel your friend as long as you rebook for asap.

I get that it’s a holiday weekend but I’m single and only plans for next weekend are meeting a couple of pals and would be fine if they rearranged, although be bit pissed off if they did it at very short notice.

Unless they are older/recently bereaved or something that makes you think it would be a big deal to them not to get out over Easter I’m sure it be ok.

It's a crappy reason for something you've had arranged for a couple of months. Poor form.

Make a joint decision. By this I mean ask if she would mind moving the dinner? If she would mind then honour the original arrangement.

The caveats are:

1. If she’ll just cave and be secretly hurt don’t do it
2. No pressure
3. Only do this if you are genuinely open to either answer and won’t harbour resentment

Can you do Friday night before you go? If so I'd say "don't suppose there's any chance you can do Friday instead of Saturday for dinner? No probs if not"

You're saying your friend isn't important if you do that.
I'd drop you if I were her.

I would absolutely cancel - plenty of notice and it's a one off alternative for you with your parents going away.

YANBU as long as you are honest with your friend about why.
IMHO a good friend would understand.

It would be unreasonable to cancel, If you’re free in one of the 2 following weekends you could ask her if she minds moving it but if she’s not you nee to stick to the original plan or if you won’t be able to rearrange for weeks then it’s unfair to let her down cancelling.

I know, it's beyond crazy , surely no real person would actually do this