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ChoccieEgg49 · 2024-03-23T16:12:27+00:00

On social media, almost every woman I know uploads photos of them at a spa day with obligatory cocktail in hand snaps complete with fluffy white robe. Is it a competition to look like you have friends/drink cocktails on a Tuesday afternoon/have a fun life? I rarely do these types of things with friends, if I do it's with my DH mostly. Tbh I've become a lot more introverted and cba with trying to make my life look fun fun fun on social media. I don't do much with friends really these days, bar the odd coffee or lunch (not uploaded to SM) I often wonder if many arrange these trips purely to 'upload' onto social media - or maybe everyone else's life really is much more exciting than mine 😂 All feels very showboaty imo. Or maybe I'm just a miserable perimenopausal old trout!

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/03/2024 12:38

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

Please unfriend her. Do you just have her there to think hateful things about or because you want to have lots of 'friends'? Either way it says a lot more about you than her.

Picklestop · 24/03/2024 12:46

ChoccieEgg49 · 23/03/2024 16:31

I have to agree

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Eh? You think people go to spa days so that they can post on Facebook, rather than maybe they like spa days?

Ponoka7 · 24/03/2024 12:54

ChoccieEgg49 · 23/03/2024 16:27

Yes, I agree. I enjoy the odd spa with DH, don't get me wrong. This obsession with self promotion is odd though and a lot of people seem to feel to 'fit in' they also need to be doing these things. I'd love to go back to the 80s and 90s where we just had fun and enjoyed the moment without feeling the need to show our 'audience'. Feels a bit fake.

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The women around me (my DD's included) who go to spas, wouldn't have had the same opportunities in the 80/90's, income or time wise. There'd have been judgement if their social life wasn't bingo/local labour club etc. I see it as a plus point for WC women tbh. Social media is for sharing with friends/family. Get rid of people who you don't like on there. It's great that you have a lifelong friend in your DH, but other women might want to invest in wider friendships and it cuts down on isolation as we get older.

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 24/03/2024 13:01

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

What a nasty post - it says much more about you than it does about her.

bloom19 · 24/03/2024 13:09

Moveoverdarlin · 23/03/2024 19:22

I often think that if they weren’t allowed to post pictures of their holiday, spa day, new car they wouldn’t bother paying for it.

It’s the ones who aren’t posting that are having the best time.

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OP surely seems like she's lot of fun 🤣

Op- yabu. Maybe go with friends once to see what the fuss is all about!

Ponoka7 · 24/03/2024 13:29

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

You're the weird one. She's just out with her mates and sharing it.

phoenixrosehere · 24/03/2024 13:42

Lampslights · 24/03/2024 09:44

No one said it was. And that’s not what the thread is about either. The op is not asking if she should participate in social media. She’s asking if these people have a social life just to post it on social media.

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This.

This could easily be turned around that OP is here on a type of SM to brag that she doesn’t need to do such things because she has a DH and is above such “nonsense”.

As other posters have said, she could just keep scrolling or unfollow if it bothers her so. Seeing my FB friends having fun even if it is not my type of fun, makes me happy. It seems odd to me to assume negatively about them for using SM as it is intended, to share parts of their lives. If OP is happy with her lot, why be negative about someone else’s because it is not her thing.

bostonchamps · 24/03/2024 14:03

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

This is one of the bitchiest posts I've read in a long time - what is actually wrong with you.

Do you exist solely to make other women feel awful about themselves? How is what she does with her life having any impact on you at all?

Lampslights · 24/03/2024 14:05

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

This is a prime example of the envious bitter little posts some people make when they see others having fun.

you should be embarassed by yourself, she’s out having fun with friends, sharing it with other friends, it it makes you feel so nasty unfriend. And then consider why you feel the need to attack

Pickingmyselfup · 24/03/2024 14:39

Taking photos with your friends does not mean you think you are "hot stuff" I went out yesterday and we took photos and shared it on social media for others to see. Not because we think we are amazing but because we like to see others doing stuff and we think it's nice to share.

If I thought any of my friends were being bitchy about the posts I shared I would rather they just stopped being friends with me.

Although I obviously only go out with my friends/go on mini breaks with the husband/family holidays/run races just so I can post it on social media. It's a lot of money to spend and a lot of effort to train just to put on social media but needs must 🤨

Oblomov24 · 24/03/2024 15:04

You all sound really bitter. Especially @zingally, with her primary school 'friend'. When anyone posts on FB, I like it. I'm pleased for them. Whatever they are doing. No nastiness in my thoughts.

bostonchamps · 24/03/2024 15:25

Oblomov24 · 24/03/2024 15:04

You all sound really bitter. Especially @zingally, with her primary school 'friend'. When anyone posts on FB, I like it. I'm pleased for them. Whatever they are doing. No nastiness in my thoughts.

There's so much bitterness!

My DM is like this; anyone taking selfies or group photos is 'vain' and 'overly confident'. I grew up in the early naughties just as Facebook was taking off, and if she found out I'd been tagged in a photo after a night out she'd pull me up on bragging and showing off. As a result I have huge self esteem issues after years of being told I essentially wasn't interesting/pretty/worthy of being in or taking photographs and was just embarrassing myself.

I'm working on seeing it for what it actually was: pure jealousy.

JaneChampagne · 24/03/2024 15:29

Not something I would enjoy doing (rather be with my cats!) but I do think that sometimes people just feel they should be uploading these kinds of pics to sm. It’s a modern day Mrs Bouquet kind of thing. Lets look like we’re posh and popular.

TheChosenTwo · 24/03/2024 15:32

I bloody love the spa, I go probably twice a week sometimes 3 times but I go on my own after a swim/spin/gym.
I take a book and a bottle of water, no phone. I also get irrationally angry at people being noisy 😂 but this is my issue, not theirs!
I try and seek out solace -
im not there for photo opportunities.

Lampslights · 24/03/2024 17:53

TheChosenTwo · 24/03/2024 15:32

I bloody love the spa, I go probably twice a week sometimes 3 times but I go on my own after a swim/spin/gym.
I take a book and a bottle of water, no phone. I also get irrationally angry at people being noisy 😂 but this is my issue, not theirs!
I try and seek out solace -
im not there for photo opportunities.

How is this remotely relevant or in correlation to a group of friends having a get together and posting it on social media?

EasterBunnny · 24/03/2024 18:12

My DH and I had a spa day today, no photos though.

PinkyFlamingo · 24/03/2024 18:20

These threads pop up all the time. I will never understand why it seems to bother some people about what others post on their own social media. Never. I don't do things to "show off" or anything like you are saying OP, but if I'm doing something I will put pictures up as I love my FB as a photo storage. Why in god's name you think that's "showboaty" I have no idea, and couldn't care less anyway.

PinkyFlamingo · 24/03/2024 18:24

zingally · 24/03/2024 11:42

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

Jesus what a nasty bitter post this is. So what if she's a bit overweight!! Is she not allowed to have fun with friends and put it on her FB. What is going on in your mind you have to be so nasty about someone?

OnHerSolidFoundations · 24/03/2024 18:44

IStandWithACrutch · 23/03/2024 16:28

There’s a proportion of people who wouldn’t be arsed doing most of the things they do if they couldn’t post about it on social media.
I cannot be convinced otherwise.

Meh I can't get that annoyed about people having fun. It's their life not mine. You do you op 🤷🏻‍♀️

OffToBedforshire · 24/03/2024 18:48

The people I know with the most exciting lives don't post on social media anymore

Zola1 · 24/03/2024 18:49

Once again I believe this to be a case of 'people enjoy different things'

LittleMonks11 · 24/03/2024 19:09

I need to see everyone's spa day photos! I'm looking forward to my annual posh hotel spa break with my sister soon.

Lemoncokezero · 24/03/2024 22:10

Zola1 · 24/03/2024 18:49

Once again I believe this to be a case of 'people enjoy different things'

Apparently this is very confusing for people on mumsnet though!

BadLad · 25/03/2024 00:24

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.

She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

Amazing post.

KreedKafer · 25/03/2024 00:31

“Almost every woman you know” does this? Then that’s definitely down to the kinds of people you mix with, because I can count on one hand the number of times anyone on my social media has uploaded pictures of themselves at a spa.