Everyone is at a Spa with cocktails in hand!

[ChoccieEgg49]

On social media, almost every woman I know uploads photos of them at a spa day with obligatory cocktail in hand snaps complete with fluffy white robe. Is it a competition to look like you have friends/drink cocktails on a Tuesday afternoon/have a fun life? I rarely do these types of things with friends, if I do it's with my DH mostly.
Tbh I've become a lot more introverted and cba with trying to make my life look fun fun fun on social media. I don't do much with friends really these days, bar the odd coffee or lunch (not uploaded to SM)
I often wonder if many arrange these trips purely to 'upload' onto social media - or maybe everyone else's life really is much more exciting than mine 😂
All feels very showboaty imo. Or maybe I'm just a miserable perimenopausal old trout!

A spa day for us (usually an overnight so two days) is gym, swimming, sauna, reading, massage/treatments, evening meal or afternoon tea & spending time with friends, chatting, having fun etc. If you like being active you’d probably enjoy a spa day. You can be plenty active & then have a deep tissue massage, full body massage etc. Spa days aren’t just about sitting doing nothing

I gave up membership of my spa as I was so sick and tired of the endless photo and video shoots. It was very inconvenient.

I offered to leave the pool as a woman was videoing me so that she wouldn't capture me (and would have had it all to herself). She said that if you come to a spa like this then being filmed by other people is part of the experience for you and that I would get to be on her social media! (as if that was an honour for me)

I go on a spa day every so often, usually with family. And I go out for drinks with friends every so often, but not nearly as frequently as I'd like.

But we don't take photos of these events and certainly don't put them on social media. Why would we? It's weird.

I like using the gym on a spa day, having a swim and trying a fitness class.

I went to a fairly well regarded spa a couple of weeks ago. Literally every fucker there was posing and taking selfies.

I enjoy going on spa days. I enjoy posting on my social media. I sometimes snap a quick pic of myself in a robe on a spa day and upload it to my social media. I don’t go on spa days just to post it on social media though, and to me it’s very weird that you think people do that.

I think you are overthinking it! I certainly don’t want to make people jealous. I have a nice life and enjoy sharing pictures of me doing nice things. I also enjoy looking at my friends pictures of them doing nice things too! It’s not that deep!

Some people like spa days.

Some people like posting on SM whether for themselves, to let family further afield know what they are up to or to keep a record and enjoy them when they come back as memories.

Some like both.

Some like neither.

Not sure why anyone else feels the need to say anything about any of those listed above. Live and let live.

What a bunch of negative and nasty posts. "Competition, fun life". You absolute miser. Clearly it's too much for you to understand that some of us do like such things.

I must move in less rarified circles. I’m on social media a lot and I’ve never seen a picture of people with cocktails in dressing gowns.

If you didn't use FB or any form of SM this wouldn't come to pass and bother you so much. I don't use FB so don't really get it🤷🏻

I often think that if they weren’t allowed to post pictures of their holiday, spa day, new car they wouldn’t bother paying for it.

It’s the ones who aren’t posting that are having the best time.

I often post because it's nice to look back on in however long. Also because why not, the point of social media is to post what you are doing.

I love a spa day and I'm also very active in day to day life, sometimes it's nice to sit around doing nothing!

I wouldn't go on a skydive for likes because I would be terrified, I couldn't think of anything worse! I can't imagine people who hate spa days going on a spa day just to get likes on social media. Nobody else cares unless you are a celebrity with a massive following. I see a spa day photo and think ooo lovely, must book one soon. I see a skydive and think rather them than me.

But that's insane, you're saying nobody would go on holiday or buy a new car if it weren't for social media

People have been going on holiday and buying new cars since before social media ever existed. I went on holidays and my parents got new cars in the 90s, no social media involved.

It’s the ones who aren’t posting that are having the best time.

I think this is just something people tell themselves to feel better tbh. I, and several of my friends post happy marriages (not super cringe though) and nice trips and we genuinely are having a lovely time and have great lives. I don’t know anyone that posts luxury cars as that would be pretty crass, but “average” cars yes and I just think good for them!

Aren't you so much better than everyone else then? Do you not get it really? Do you really not understand that people enjoy different things. Your days off sound boring as fuck to me. Yet because I can understand people do enjoy different things I can 'get it'.

I suppose you either have challenges thinking or you're massively disingenuous and just want to claim not to get something to feel superior. Slightly sad either way.

You do sound miserable TBH, people go to these things because they like them.

If you don’t (I don’t - I want to drink a cocktail in a bar, not a freaking sauna) then I’d get some new friends. There are only a very few people I know who might do this.

Spas are my idea of hell, wallowing around whilst damp, and having to pay strangers to "massage" me, like touch me, yuck.
Bleeuurgh.

I can't think of anything worse than a spa day!!

Yes that's how I use it.

And my parents are the main ones who enjoy seeing it. Not sure many others get much out of "dad at garden centre" or me at aldi /daily wordle.

I kind of feel like social media has been around long enough now that those who don't enjoy it or find other people annoying on it should just be able to shrug and move on. Spa days, some enjoy some don't. Why so sniffy about what others do with their time?

Nah, that's just what people tell themselves to make them feel better.

You can have a good time and share it in social media. Or you can have an absolute shit time and pretend it never happened by not sharing it on social media.

Surely they are just enjoying themselves and they post about it? You sound a bit bitter to be honest OP. Looks a nice thing to do with friends, why not post? I've never been to a spa though so what do I know!

Just don't look then. No need to be so invested judgey in what others like to do.

I never post pictures when I go to the spa/theatre/on a plane.

I like spa days. The only time I've ever done pictures at a spa was when I was on a hen do- and that was as a hen memory. I don't drink at them, either.

I don't unwind that easily but they seem to do it for me and I prefer to use Spas with pools so I can fit some activity in, too. DH and I actually made our own mini spa at home this afternoon as he also struggles to relax. No booze and no photos. It was lovely!