Everyone is at a Spa with cocktails in hand!

[ChoccieEgg49]

On social media, almost every woman I know uploads photos of them at a spa day with obligatory cocktail in hand snaps complete with fluffy white robe. Is it a competition to look like you have friends/drink cocktails on a Tuesday afternoon/have a fun life? I rarely do these types of things with friends, if I do it's with my DH mostly.
Tbh I've become a lot more introverted and cba with trying to make my life look fun fun fun on social media. I don't do much with friends really these days, bar the odd coffee or lunch (not uploaded to SM)
I often wonder if many arrange these trips purely to 'upload' onto social media - or maybe everyone else's life really is much more exciting than mine 😂
All feels very showboaty imo. Or maybe I'm just a miserable perimenopausal old trout!

I mean, this is the answer right here. Live and let live. But then it wouldn't be MN if people didn't create threads to make themselves feel superior to others.

I upload stuff like that sometimes but as others said it’s so I can look back and enjoy my nice memories of special things. I like seeing other peoples pics too.

Why don’t you stop being ‘friends’ with people if you don’t like their posts? Or just come off social media.

We all have pet hates. My personal one is over sharing especially about medical conditions!

It's simple. It's all about attention seeking. People who seek attention in any form, constantly, are the most boring drains of energy on the planet. Let's face it, by the time most of us in the modern world, who work, over age 21, have had a fancy drink, nice dinner and visited a spa/had a nice holiday. What is worse, is I know people who attention seek still, at the age of 50 plus. Mortifying.

I actually find it genuinely worrying how many people are assuming people are out there living their lives not for enjoyment but for social media. I think that says more about the people assuming this than anything. I'm not a big social media poster so I'm not defending myself here.

I just think is so sad and miserable that this would be your go to thought. As if no one had holidays, cocktails or spa days before social media!

I like a spa. Wouldn't want a cocktail as for me the point is to do a healthy activity for myself. And wouldn't occur to me to take a photo.

You sound envious to me. Yes op. They go along, buy a cocktail, pose in a robe, and bugger off home again. Or they are out having fun together and posting a fun snap so their real friends can see.

if it bothers you come off social media.

Me too. It just reads like bitterness and envy. And it’s really sad.

I had a solo spa day recently in quite a high end spa and there were 2 younger girls, full face of make up taking selfies for 40 minutes in the pool area. Made me really uncomfortable and ruined my "unwind time" but there was no staff around to complain without it being obvious it was me.
Clearly just went for show for social media and not to relax! I don't get it.

I don’t think it’s a sign of bitterness or envy to not want to participate in showing off on social media. I never post pictures of myself or my family on there and only use it rarely when looking up a company or event usually.

I have a couple of friends that post a lot on Facebook and have the odd ‘spat’ with the cryptic statements etc., but they definitely suffer from social anxiety and worry too much about the opinions of others, which I find sad. They’re lovely kind women so it’s a shame they let other people’s irrelevant nonsense diminish their enjoyment of life.

No one said it was. And that’s not what the thread is about either. The op is not asking if she should participate in social media. She’s asking if these people have a social life just to post it on social media.

I enjoy seeing photos of people I know and love (friends and family) having fun in beautiful locations, living life.

God knows the world's a huge shit storm at the moment so it's nice to see.

PS. I don't follow any spa influencers/grifters

I don’t mind a spa but wouldn’t choose to spend money on it myself. However I would never look at a friend on sm and think they’re posting to make me think they’ve got a better life than me. The friends I follow on social media are people I’m fond of. I’d be happy to ses them doing something they seem to be enjoying. My life is too busy to have 1:1 phone calls or even what’s apps with everyone I am fond of weekly or more. Sm is a great way to see what they’re up to and stay in touch.

I do different things, some times I post on SM sometimes I don’t. Kind of depends on how I am feeling on the day. I certainly don’t do stuff to have something to post about.

Me too!! I don't understand how you can fully relax if you're there with people chatting at you. I need to be on my own to be ✨zen✨

I still remember a friend in the early days of Facebook announcing she and her fiancé were going to Florence to get engaged and he was going to propose there. She spoke about the exact spot he was going to get down on his knee and what she was going to wear and would be sending photos soon!
How bizarre. 😁

I go to an expensive spa for a couple of days at least once a year with a friend. We save up to go. I love the treatments, the pools, the relaxation areas and the food. I've not noticed many guests taking photos.

Far more annoying IMO are when groups/hen parties seem unable to enjoy (or let anyone else enjoy) the quiet areas.

I don’t think it’s a sign of bitterness or envy to not want to participate in showing off on social media.

Not everyone posts on social media to "show off".

In fairness, that predates social media, though I agree it’s deeply strange. We had a secretary in a previous job of mine, long before SM, who must have spent months telling us she ‘was going to get engaged on Valentine’s. Day’, and describing the manicure she was going to have (to show off the ring, which had been bought a year earlier in a sale) and the exact order of the family visits they were going to make after the ‘proposal’. They also had large amounts of bedlinen, household appliances they’d been collecting for years stored at her mother’s house, and a whole set of bridesmaids’ dresses.

She got very cross at and resistant to the idea that she was already engaged, since they’d clearly committed to a life together years earlier.

Sounds like you follow boring people tbh. I appreciate a spa but it’s not insta worthy really is it! Get a life guys!

There's a lady on my FB who is just like this.

Honestly, she's not a friend. We were "friendly" at primary school, and went to the same secondary. But honestly, I've probably not had an actual conversation with her in 25 years.
She posts all the time, photos of her with gangs of indenti-kit women, with faces absolutely COVERED in make-up, lips-closed-bored-smirks, with glasses of wine in hand. I don't know who she thinks she's impressing. She's not living the high-life by any stretch. Like a lot of us, she lives in the next town over from the one we grew up in, and works in an local office. She's a bit over-weight, and her DH is very over-weight. She's not the hot stuff she thinks she is. All a bit weird.

I think you might be a bit jealous
or lonely

or both

Is that fair?

So why are you friends with her on Facebook? Just to look down on her and her friends and her weight and her lifestyle? Maybe she's not trying to impress anyone. She might just be happy with her life and enjoy sharing it with the people she thinks are her friends and will enjoy seeing her happy.

I do spa days etc with my friends. With busy lives we feel we have to do something special as we don’t get to see each other as much these days. Don’t post on social media though

This is me, I suppose. I like the memories popping up years later.

I don't really understand why it bothers OP unless she's jealous?