Fling from 27 years ago

[donkeyleg]

Could be a long one.
Who's being unreasonable me or DP?

Been together 19 years and 3 children together. If that matters.

So when I was 17 I had a little fling with someone. (Slept together after a night out twice). A couple of months later I found out my dad had started a relationship with his mum. They are still together now, not married but living together. Quite awkward at first but was all soon forgot about, we were teenagers when it happened and nothing happened afterwards. We had no idea our parents knew each other never mind get in a relationship.
He's married with children I'm with dp.

So my dad has a big birthday coming up this weekend and we are all getting together for food and drinks for it.
My DP is now saying he's not going, he doesn't want to sit and have drinks with someone I've "done things with before" even though it was 27 years ago and he's met him a couple of times before.

Hes saying it's disgusting and he's embarrassed by me and I should be ashamed because I'm disgusting!
We've had an argument about how he's spoke to me and that what I did when I was 17 has nothing to do with him.

Aibu or him?

He is a loser.

Definitely doesn't take him with you. He will only spoil your evening or make comments in the future of you talk to your ex.

You dont seem happy in your relationships.

Your husband is acting like a donkey, @donkeyleg.
He’s being ridonkulous.

And wow I didn’t know that was was your username…

It sounds as though there is a lot of resentment of his part despite his double standards. It may be subconscious but he's got one eye of the door. But it will still be your fault.

Honestly OP can you see this situation getting any better

I expect that he has a past

Most people have a past

I would seriously think about kicking him into the past

Secondly, if you are so disgusting, why is he still with you ? Why hasn't he left ?

He should be proud of you, the mother of his children

He sounds pathetic… 27years ago! It’s actually laughable. He’s the embarrassment

@donkeyleg, he is the revolting one. He is lowest of the low — a despiser of women (including you) who enjoys making you feel small. It is chilling to know that children are being parented by him, as he is a horrific role model for both sons and daughters.

I truly hope that you will leave this abusive brute who thrives on shaming, belittling and destabilizing you.

What is there to argue about? He's scum. Instead of debating him, dump him.

You don't need to ask, OP! He is 100% the one in the wrong. How dare he call you disgusting. What a daft prick.