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Bringing baked goods into work

745 replies

Bibblybumblebee · 22/03/2024 17:03

I really enjoy baking - I’m quite good - only thing I’m really any good at!
I like baking traditional cakes like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, carrot.

I normally bake on the weekend and sometimes bake a tray bake cake and take it to work.
I work in a team of about 10 people. So there’s plenty for everyone to help themselves- it’s normally demolished by Wednesday.

2 woman I work with are always on a diet or talking about fitness - both in there late 50s.
One of them asked to have a word with me today and said her and this other woman both agree it’s not appropriate to bring in homemade cakes to work because it’s unhealthy and not fair when people are trying to be ‘good’.
She also said that if I could be reported to HR as I haven’t had a hygiene rating certificate at home. She said she’s worried if someone got sick from my homemade food I could get in trouble.

AIBU to feel a bit upset about this. My home is spotless my kitchen is clean.

I think these woman have just got food issues but I am worried they could report me.

I don’t bake cakes every week. Maybe once every 6 weeks.

Whats your opinion on people being in baked goods from home into work?

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DottyLottieLou · 25/03/2024 15:59

Put it to the vote, they'll lose. Tell them they were outvoted. Where I worked every Friday was cake day. They need to work on their will power. Cakes are everywhere, they can't avoid them.

Starlight1979 · 25/03/2024 16:47

"She also said that if I could be reported to HR as I haven’t had a hygiene rating certificate at home"

Fuck off. People cannot seriously be that sad 😂

Starlight1979 · 25/03/2024 16:51

hoonicorn · 22/03/2024 17:28

Call your next cake a "Fun Sponge" and tell them you made it just for them.

Remind them that no one is forcing the cake down their throats.

😂

Packingcubesqueen · 25/03/2024 17:01

I love a homemade cake! It gets a bit ridiculous at Christmas and when the kitchen is constantly filled with junk but a once every 6 weeks cake is not that often at all.

LadyShimura · 25/03/2024 17:01

There's barely a week that goes by that there isnt cake or something where I work.

I just do this radical thing, if I'm trying to be "good," I just dont eat it.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 25/03/2024 17:13

TeamPineapple · 24/03/2024 14:23

Much as I love (really love!) cake, and appreciate that people are doing a nice thing by bringing it in to work, I also wish it wasn't so prevalent. It's hard to resist when it's always there. Ironically, I work in the NHS (trying to prevent type 2 diabetes, hypertension, CVD, etc), in a sedentary job, with colleagues who are just as overweight as the general population and who would really benefit from not being tempted by so many sweet treats on a regular basis. So yes, it's "nice", we enjoy it, but I really wish people would stop bringing it in.

And to everyone saying they should just use willpower, and that no-one is forcing them to eat the cakes, do you realise that willpower is a finite thing and can't be relied upon?

The results offer a few takeaways: (1) trying to resist temptations via willpower is draining, (2) simply facing temptations, whether or not we resist them, is draining and (3) being mentally drained from experiencing temptations correlates directly with making less progress. The key takeaway, then, isn’t to engage temptation with force of will, but to avoid temptations from the get-go or at least minimize exposure whenever possible.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/neuronarrative/201701/heres-why-your-resolutions-cant-rely-willpower-alone

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I agree with you about wishing unhealthy food wasn’t so prevalent and I think those points about willpower are excellent but it has to be a balance between the needs of people who are overweight and the positives of everyone else getting to eat lovely cake, so it really comes down to how often. Cake every week- unreasonable. Cake every six weeks- seems fair enough.
What would be really annoying would be if every other aspect of the obesogenic society was allowed to continue unhindered but the home bakers were stopped, so people would still be eating UPFs full of palm oil and additives but miss out on delicious baking made with high quality fresh ingredients.

pickledwillies · 25/03/2024 17:14

You sound lovely. Ignore them - they're probably just jealous.

RosesAndHellebores · 25/03/2024 17:14

I'm HR. If I got that query I'd forward it to their manager and ask if they needed some extra work Wink

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 25/03/2024 17:16

Bibblybumblebee · 24/03/2024 09:01

Wow! Didn’t expect such a huge response. I’ve read every one and thank you for sharing your opinions.

Funny thing is it’s probably me that should be on a diet - I’m a size 18- I don’t love my body but I’m very grateful for my body.

These two ladies are so slim!

Ive spoken to my manager. He’s rolled his eyes and told me I’d get a disciplinary if I stopped baking 🤭
He told me I didn’t need a health and safety certificate.

I also called the HR office and the guy there said it was fine as long as once in a while I took some up to their office as well. I’m baking the a cherry Bakewell tray bake for tomorrow 😋

May I have some please?🤩

ACynicalDad · 25/03/2024 17:20

I used to work in a team with loads of young women who loved to bake but hated to eat and I had no willpower. My own problem. I do wish they'd been kept somewhere a bit harder to get to rather than somewhere I walked past 10 times a day - and therefore ate from 10 times a day. My problem anyway. I'd raise it in a team meeting, there's a reason she did it quietly not in front of the rest of the team.

Hocuspocusnonsense · 25/03/2024 17:30

Miserable cows.

they’re not concerned about you having a hygiene certificate or someone being ill, they just don’t want you to bring cakes in.

I would send an email to everyone in your team along the lines of….”(name her) has mentioned to me today that she’s worried someone may fall ill as a result of eating my homemade cakes. It hadn’t crossed my mind as this has never happened before. I’m happy to continue to bring in my homemade cakes if you’re happy to continue to eat them. If collectively you’d rather I stopped just let me know”

I can’t stand people like this.

Bjorkdidit · 25/03/2024 17:30

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 23/03/2024 23:41

This is very funny, thanks for sharing. 😂

Sadly it won't open for me. I expect that you need to be a BMJ member. I love a spoof scientific article written up in the correct style with abstracts, statistical analysis and references etc.

That article looks like it could be my favourite one cited on here since the one reporting on a 'Longitudinal cohort study of the displacement of teaspoons in an Australian research institute' or, in layman's terms, 'where the fuck do all the teaspoons from the office tea room go'.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/7396985_The_case_of_the_disappearing_teaspoons_Longitudinal_cohort_study_of_the_displacement_of_teaspoons_in_an_Australian_research_institute

potato57 · 25/03/2024 17:37

You absolutely don't need a food certificate or anything like that unless you're selling for profit (even raising money for charity you don't have to). It may blow their minds to know plenty of workplaces do this and are even encouraged to do it as part of social/charity pledges.

I worked in a place with the opposite - women who thought it was okay to bring in scales weekly and all weigh themselves. Now that was toxic.

TeatimeForTheSoul · 25/03/2024 17:59

Great outcome OP.
Sounds like you have a lovely supportive boss 😁

Jem57 · 25/03/2024 18:12

Pair of miserable bitches end of

StormingNorman · 25/03/2024 18:12

I’d be livid if I was you. Bring in allocated cupcakes next time and don’t give them one. You don’t want to stop them being ‘good’ or endanger their health after all! The cheeky fuckers will be fuming watching you all tuck in.

MarkWithaC · 25/03/2024 18:16

Bibblybumblebee · 24/03/2024 09:01

Wow! Didn’t expect such a huge response. I’ve read every one and thank you for sharing your opinions.

Funny thing is it’s probably me that should be on a diet - I’m a size 18- I don’t love my body but I’m very grateful for my body.

These two ladies are so slim!

Ive spoken to my manager. He’s rolled his eyes and told me I’d get a disciplinary if I stopped baking 🤭
He told me I didn’t need a health and safety certificate.

I also called the HR office and the guy there said it was fine as long as once in a while I took some up to their office as well. I’m baking the a cherry Bakewell tray bake for tomorrow 😋

I love your manager and your HR Grin

Screw the miseries.

I do hope they take it to HR and get an appropriate response.

Mh67 · 25/03/2024 18:17

Not a chance I would eat something a colleague made. You have no idea of their hygiene standard or if ingredients is even in date

FluffyFanny · 25/03/2024 18:37

Mh67 · 25/03/2024 18:17

Not a chance I would eat something a colleague made. You have no idea of their hygiene standard or if ingredients is even in date

Yes, death by cake! Out of date sugar and flour can be lethal.

Scottishskifun · 25/03/2024 18:58

Anyone else checking back to see how bakewell gate went today? Or just me.....🙈
In my defence I'm not very well and bored with a high fever.

Headinthesand21 · 25/03/2024 19:07

WTF? What entitled miseries
it’s a lovely thing to bring in baked goods to share.
You don’t need a food hygiene cert and I can’t imagine that HR would be interested

FangsForTheMemory · 25/03/2024 19:09

Your HR guy sounds like my sort of person!

ehb102 · 25/03/2024 19:09

I'm cheering for OP here. I'm sick of people with restrictive eating disorder who are terrified of getting fat banging on about how evil cake is.

ETA.None of them have the guts to say "cake makes you fat, fat is bad, fat people are bad" to my face (fat woman with lipoedema). I'd think more of them if they admitted their prejudices.

Headinthesand21 · 25/03/2024 19:10

Mh67 · 25/03/2024 18:17

Not a chance I would eat something a colleague made. You have no idea of their hygiene standard or if ingredients is even in date

Me too. I’ve had food poisoning so many times after enjoying homemade delights from people I know 🤗
Out of date cake sprinkles can be particularly dangerous

Jaybail · 25/03/2024 19:11

How rude of you to force feed your colleagues cake against their will! What's that you say, you're not forcing anyone to eat what you bake? I would say that in this case the majority rule. If all but 2 of your colleagues enjoy your baking then carry on doing it. I live my life on a diet (rubbish metabolism from years of steroids for asthmatic lungs) but if someone is offering around cakes, biscuits or sweets I am more than capable of saying nice of you to offer but no thank you.