Aibu to be so glad it blew up in their face

[Sniksnaksnoram]

DH was in a middle management role (c60k so mid/ high) but was getting bullied by the his manager, taking credit for his work, rumours, jibes, constant negative feedback downplaying positive, basically actively trying to manage him out.

it broke him, I mean nervous wreck, had a break down. That got used against him and tried to force him out. After months he managed to secure another role in the same company and he’s just gone from strength to strength and it’s been so lovely to see. Nominated for an award, even still being new in that team and just found out he won! (I know it’s largely arbitrary but still) and today the bonuses revealed. His old boss tried to say he didn’t qualify for one ‘due to his attitude and performance’ but the new one is just so happy with how he is, they pushed back and he got the full bonus amount.

it’s not about the money, so I don’t want to seem like I’m bragging but his old manager did everything in his power to try and hurt DH, mentally, professionally and financially and I’m so glad it’s blown up in his face.

don’t really have anyone to say this irl too, aside from dh but I’m just so so glad there is some justice / karma in the universe. And by trying to hurt him, his ex boss actually benefited him In the long run.

Well done Mr Sniksnaksnoram!

Thankyou for sharing this just shows and gives hope to those on the edge that no matter bad things get, there will eventually be light at the end of the tunnel. I bet if someone had have predicted this when he was at his lowest he’d never have believed it in 100 years. What gets me about bullies who believe they’re so fuckin perfect and their lives are such a lark then why do they feel the desire to make other people’s lives a misery. Did he perceive your DH as a threat or something.

What great news!!
I'm raising a cheers to you and your DH! 🥂

Thank you all so much!

so the bully and he were on mate-ish terms. Although dh always felt uncomfortable because the comments ex boss made were always quite scathing and of a personal nature to his colleagues. Dh then was ‘one of the good ones’ so didn’t get the full wrath of his evil overlord.

things started to become tense when ex boss was slagging off a colleague (boss’s direct report) talking about how much of disappointment this person was and how they wanted to put them on a pip, showed dh the email chain between boss and the big boss where the big boss said no. Dh said along the lines of I don’t think we should talk about this, it’s personal to xyz and they’re going through a tough time (bereavement) and performance concerns need to be private.

that was his strike 1

strike 2 was my conceiving our second child (apparently boss and partner struggled and basically are at the end of their window due to age late 40s)

strike 3 - posting birth announcement in their work (whole team of 20 or so people) whatsapp.

there was no coming back from that

^ on the baby stuff, it was never said I hate you because you’ve got a child but there was comments about how it was inconsiderate and bad behaviour to announce a pregnancy as others might struggle.

not using the WhatsApp chat for personal things, despite the fact it’s used for holidays and pets and random jokes and it’s on their personal phones. So it became clear the baby announcement was the problem or at least part of it

This is amazing news! Well done to him and well done to you for supporting him through such a terrible time.

I know neither of you wants to dwell on it, but just make sure you keep some brief notes of the previous bullying, such as dates, names and the impact it had. You will then have this to refer to for any future grievance process.

Then draw a line under it and crack out the 🍾 🥂

How nice to get the recognition for doing a job well.

That's wonderful, bullying does so much damage and can destroy people, it is so good to read about someone recovering and going on to well deserved success.

Yey! I’ve worked for a disgusting bully recently (I’ve now escaped and actually he didn’t ever do anything to me but he was utterly vile to several of my friends) so I rejoice in seeing these sorts of people scuppered!! I just do not understand why people would choose to be unkind to other people. Blows my mind. The thing is, once you escape, life is so sweet. Your husband has won just by escaping. His ex boss can carry on being a bitter, nasty human all he likes. He’s the loser in this. Congrats 🥂

Congrats to your husband. I love a good underdog becoming the victor story. Bullies are vile.

That's brilliant :)

I love this. Well done to your amazing DH and to you for being so supportive of him!!!!

Well done to your DH. And well done to you for supporting him so lovingly.❤

Much needed wonderful news pal!
Enjoy your victory and maybe a wee treat 🥂🥳

Not really. Sounds like nothing bad happened to old boss. Where's the karma?

Many congratulations to your husband. What a shame he had to go through that. What a nasty previous boss.

Congrats! He gets the bonus and even more so it's shoved in the jerks face!!

I don’t think anything has, but I know it will have stung big time for dh to have won that award. They have a dinner and it’s spread all over their intranet, so there’s that!

plus, maybe it will In time. My faith in the universe has been restored

Today has been a rotten day for news so this thread makes a refreshing change. OP, I wish you and your family all the best!

Bravo DH! Well done you for supporting DH and good on DH for being able to come back from being bullied - let’s hope ex manager gets some light shine on his behaviours

Yanbu. "The best revenge is a life lived well".

Well done to your DH

That's hilarious. Will reflect terribly on the ex-manager too! Happy days x

Big congratulations to your dh!! He really socked it to his horrid ex boss! Gives hope to all those currently being bullied in the work place. I'm so happy for you both!

Every time your hubby seas old boss and gets the opportunity of a quiet word, he should tell old boss how well your children are doing. Maybe even tell him you’ll be trying for a third. What a great mother you are…you know the deal. Every time.

🤣 not just me then!