DH and I have recently hit 30 and thinking about timings for TTC. We know we’ll need IVF, which we’ll need to fund privately, and of course no guarantee of success.
Currently we live in a flat we own in London which we love, but it's not exactly baby-friendly (no lift). If we were to have DC, we’d want to move to a commuter town outside London where we can afford a house/more relaxed lifestyle. Whereas, if IVF doesn’t work out, we’d likely stick around in the flat/London where our jobs and friends are.
We can’t afford to pay for everything at once and we’re grappling with whether to do IVF first, which could mean raising a baby in our current flat (not ideal but doable) until we can afford to move later down the line, or making the move first, postponing IVF for a couple of years as we save up funds again.
The dilemma is if IVF isn't successful, we could find ourselves in a family-oriented area outside London and possibly regret the move. We're torn and would appreciate some outside perspectives on which option to pursue first!