Play date expectations

[Mryjkf]

My child has a group of close friends at school. They are starting to want play dates after school or at the weekends. I work full time until half five or six and it's too much after school. On the odd occasion we have had one particular child round, he was really ungrateful and caused an unpleasant atmosphere in the house. My child loves playing with him and wants him round again. My child has been to his house for some playdates and it is our turn to reciprocate but I just don't like the energy and rudeness the child beings here. When he's with his parents he is fine and generally polite. How do I navigate this? I've hinted to his mum before about the odd bit of rudeness but she laughs.

You're not a bad person OP. Well done for being reflective. Perhaps try and see this awkward child's behaviour as similar to your own- he might struggle socially and act up in a social environment or not know how to behave because it doesn't come naturally to him. Try and see him from a place of kindness. And your son likes him, so he can't be all bad. Good luck.

😂 Would you hold him up against the wall by his collar?!

You sound quite menacing.

And your username sounds rude too.

I think you suck it up for your dc and are consigned to closely monitor and supervise if needed.

The alternative is that he won't be invited to their house, and friendships outside school are important.