Are boys easier to raise than girls?

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Everyone always says that baby boys are easier to raise than baby girls. They are typically less hard work and more placid. Is that true or just a myth?

You are saying that like it's fact. A quick google of these concepts and ideas show that there are different schools of thought and something scientists are still researching.

Not for me. They're all a breeze. The girls and boy. Only one that was ever difficult was my firstborn because she did nothing but cry and I was clueless about what to do with a baby human. And she was an utterly miserable sod if I ever dared to place her down even though she had perfect health. I couldn't so much as go to the toilet without her in my arms or she was screaming wherever she was placed. I Don't think it was a girl thing though, just a baby in general thing.

Where are these girls. Straight out of the sound of music.😂😂

I don't think gender makes a difference, I just think that much higher standards of behaviour are expected from girls.

Misogyny, innit?

I don't have experience with girls yet but my ds was a very difficult high needs baby and still is very needy and anything but chilled. I think it comes down to genetics/temperament. I'm saying genetics because DH and his side of the family were apparently like ds when young and now just moody and fussy adults.

In my experience of 2 girls, one boy. Yes the boy is lots easier, tends not to get in a huff much, mostly does as told, usually in a good mood, very loving, bit messy. That said one of the girls is a lot easier than the other one so it is also personality dependent.

At the moment I'm finding the opposite, I have one of each and my boy is infinitely harder work than my very laid back, easy girl. We haven't reached the teenager stage yet though, I remember from being one what teenage girls can be like!

From the people I know, I believe there's truth in this. My friends with one of each say the boy is easier.
I can think of plenty of examples of my friends and colleagues who had 1 easy boy then went for a 2nd child and got a more 'spirited' girl.
One of the reasons I stuck to one was that I got a less easy girl first! My own mum agrees that my DB was easier to raise than me (although I'm easier than DB now I'm an adult 😅).

This is a massive generalisation, and I don't wish to offend anyone. ...but I've noticed that I know less only child boys than only child girls. Is it because they are harder to raise so the parents are less likely to have a 2nd child? Interested to know what others think.

Boys get away with more, naughty, loud or rude behaviour is disguised as just being a cheeky chappy and laziness is overlooked more, I'm raising girls but I remember being expected to be quiet and good and polite as a child and well mannered while my brother was quite the opposite and that was seen as funny or cheeky and lovable.

Not in a million years, quite the opposite.
Boys are much more boisterous and loud. They are more prone to get involved in physical altercations with other boys. They are much more rebellious and antagonistic.
I would argue that things change in teenage years, where girls are much exposed to the rampant sexism that rules society. It is no surprise there are way more MH issues amongst the female teenage population.

Every single male chauvinist has been a boy before, just saying.

Of our circle if friends I can think of 2 families who have said their boys are harder work than girls. Luckily for us are son is a happy, chilled little lad

No idea as only have 2 girls but find them both VERY hard work but very close age gap and sahm probably doesn't help my sanity

Oh, this is sad. I feel bad for you that you know so many awful men.

Definitely not the norm IME.

Amen to this

I have one boy of my own but spend a lot of time with other people's children.

Every child is different, but on the whole boys tend to be much more physically active. Is it nature, or are boys permitted more freedom (or have less restrictive clothing)? Girls often tend to engage more and for longer with craft type activities, but again, is this what they are exposed to subconsciously?

We are at the pre teen/teen stage now and my friends with girls are definitely finding it harder. An awful lot of failings out, drama and grudge bearing.

Don't fret. My super easy chilled little girl became an easy going placid well behaved teen and is now a lovely laid back young adult. It's not always a bad time.

I don't think gender makes a difference, I just think that much higher standards of behaviour are expected from girls.

Misogyny, innit?
I'd agree with that.

I sometimes wonder how much conflict girls experience comes down to an expectation that girls are nice, pretty, compliant, don't take up too much physical or emotional space, help out, don't make a fuss.
I also wonder how much the idea that boys are easier comes down to the number of parents who allow their boys to dominate spaces, excuse poor behaviour in boys because "boys will be boys", and don't get into conflict with their boys because they assume boys are wild, boisterous, unruly, and incapable of emotional skills.

90% of the threads on here about gender disappointment are people devastated that they're having a boy, and when you read what they're wanting from their imaginary baby girl it's a play thing, a doll, someone to be their best friend, an accessory that's theirs for life and won't go off getting another woman in their life etc. There's a lot of women who talk about not knowing what to do with "boy" interests, but they really want a daughter to do girly things with. The fantasy daughter is really there to play a bit part in their mother's life.

Yes it's nature v nurture isn't it. I have a boy and a girl. When I first sat my dd down with pens and paper, she was 18 months but was absolutely mesmerized by it. She sat at her little table for ages using the pens and paper. I remember doing the same thing with my ds at that age...he looked at them for about twenty seconds then got down from the table and ran around.

In my family my brothers much harder and more stressful
It's personality type, behaviour, parenting.. not sex.

i only have boys. My eldest is about to turn 18 and has been an absolute dream to raise. We’ve had not so much as a moment’s grief with him. I really am wary making sure I don’t treat my kids like the sun shines out their arses largely for the sake of their future partners! But he really has been easy.

My youngest has been much more challenging probably largely due to his autism plus he is quite strong willed.

so very different experiences here and same sex. I don’t think you can differentiate based on sex.

4 kids. The two who are harder to raise, are 1 boy, 1 girl. Not a coincidence that they are the two who are ND.

I also had lots of nanny jobs and always found the girls easier lol.
all the girls I looked after were so happy go lucky and up for doing anything, just seemed they were happy for company and always happy to see me and very compliant, independent and helpful. Some how the boys I ended up with were more destructive and naughty and and whiney and complained a lot more. Also lazy and not so independent 😂. Of course this is just my experience and not the same for everyone.
I never looked after teenagers.

They were all 0-10….