Are boys easier to raise than girls?

[PlatinumBlondeXo]

Everyone always says that baby boys are easier to raise than baby girls. They are typically less hard work and more placid. Is that true or just a myth?

No. Its purely down to personality. 'Easy to raise' children are simply more easy going responsive to authority and contented than others, traits found in both sexes. I think this myth (like it's close friend the 'boys are more loving' fallacy) is almost exclusively down to our lower bar for boys, which sees us greeting every loving gesture or act of compliance with surprised delight, when we expect the same behaviour as default from our daughters.

Are blue-eyed children better behaved? Are blonde-haired children more prone to tantrums? Are brown-eyed children more placid?

in my NCT group, the children with brown eyes are more laid back. Does this mean that all brown-eyed children are laid back? No. You can look for patterns everywhere, doesn’t make it true, it’s to do with perception and social conditioning.

I’m not seeing that?

Easy boys and easy girls are easy to raise and vice versa 😉

I am convinced there is a lot of elements that can help make life easier. Lack of stress, plenty of sleep and support. After that it's in the lap of the gods.

I have 1 girl and 3 boys. They are all so very different. Almost like it's personality driven! 😁

My baby boy was a reflux baby ad screamed and screamed for months and months. Definitely not easy.

i have two boys now and whilst I love them and they can be lovely, I would not describe them in any way as easy.

I should think easy kids are easy by temperament and by their interests aligning with what predominates in the culture you raise them in. Where live that would be if they love academic school work and team sports and have confident, outgoing personalities.

My Son was easier until he hit pre-teen. He is now a 14yr old walking nightmare.
My Daughter was quite a handful as a toddler but is now a teen and we've no dramas compared to DS

It's just a lazy stereotype. All children are their own people with their own personalities and experiences. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think girls are more feisty, especially as teens.

Does eye colour cause different hormone production?

This must be the same 'everyone' that my XH used to draw on to support his losing side in arguments (eg 'everyone' says the same as me).

FWIW- I don't have any experience raising daughters, but I have two sons who were as different to raise as its possible to be.

One was a little toerag (although simultaneously utterly charming and loving) and one was placid with rare outbursts.

Toerag is now an adult and can still be obstinate but otherwise is a splendid human being. Mr Placid is a teenager and still placid- but likewise, a splendid human being.

There is a lot of farting and performative belching though.

DS didn't sleep, so I didn't find him an easy baby! I have one of each and they're very different to each other, but one isn't easier. Different children just have different challenges and ages when they are easy or hard.

I do think my can't-sit-still girl would be less remarkable for that to people if she was a boy. My boy is more physical and bashy. Boys are also statistically bigger from much earlier than I realised, and I do think that plays a part.

They are all hard to raise, it's like getting up in the morning and the floor is lava, and the walls are on fire, and it's all burning because you're in the firey depths of hell.

not really, just had a bit of a morning with my youngest, they are mostly delightful

@ssd well that might be because "feisty" is a massively gendered adjective and we don't generally use it to describe boys...

I found my dds fairly easy children. Happy to do crafts, baking, reading etc. Harder as teans lots of moodiness etc.

Ds has been hard since the day he was born. But my niece is similar so not convinced it's gender.

People are mocking the generalising but it is fact that conformity does play its part. My dd has ADHD her dad was the a typical overstimulated boy whereas she masked a lot more. There is something in expectation of girls vs boys

Your last paragraph says it all, I think.

Aye and their are tons of bitches out there too. The same wee bitches you get in playgrounds.

No children are easy to raise all have their issues.

i have two boys .The first was a dream and the next a total divil!

When it comes to babies, the only difference is that boys have the ability to wee in their own eyes.
With toddlers and potty training, you just have to remember that boys have to keep an eye on direction.
As older kids, well they're all individuals who have different likes and dislikes. My eldest needs a lot of force behind him to motivate him to actually get on and do stuff. but he's also a fun happy go lucky chap.
My youngest is much keener to put the work in for things, but gets very frustrated when other people want to do things differently.
They'd probably have the same personality if they were girls, just lacking the ability to spray wee up the wall as toddlers.

I have a 2.5yo DS and he does seem much easier than lots of the girls we know so far! Though he's just hit a not listening phase so that could be about to change...

I think where people have two kids and have one of each they don’t remember that a second son or daughter could have been totally different to their first. So they make generalisations like this.

I have three boys too. I actually thought the opposite. Girls are told constantly they can be anything, it's more acceptable to wear "boy" or "girl" clothes, play with b or g toys, want to be a doctor or a nurse, a lawyer or a nursery nurse. Boys shouldn't wear girl clothes or like female characters. They shouldn't want to play with dolls. They shouldn't want to be a nurse or work in a nursery.

Aggressive women are strong and standing up for feminism.
Aggressive men are abusive dicks reverting to their base form.
Feminine women are just women.
Feminine men are gay.

I think the one I'm really conscious of is I have a very huggy 8 yo boy and I'm trying to explain why this isn't ok unless it's to us. He'll go to big school in a few years, my delicate long haired boy who loves hugs and I'm so scared for him. Being beaten up or accused of something. Huggy girls, well there's different risks from males as they get older but in general no one will think they're gay or abusive for it.

Now obviously women are more at risk of attack from men, as are men. So this isn't a "men are so innocent" post just another perspective on the raising of strong children

As a parent to one now adult ds who was useless / not interested in sport and everything else the majority of boys like, I think there’s a lot of truth in this. Most of his good friends have been female.

I only had boys so i cant say really my sister has only girls has babies i think their all the same some are better than others.
As teens i will say boys are better mine were compared to my sisters daughters.
However raising boys into men as a single mum is not easy but so much fun.
I do find boys are more for their mums and it has given me insight into the mans world.
I dont think i would be as outspoken or even stick up for men if i only had daughters.
Children change us my boys have shown me all sorts growing up and they dont even know it.
It's been an adventure their both adults now with their own lifes.
So proud of them.

Just to brag if i may they took me shopping yesterday I paid for nothing im so loved and spoiled.
😁

So you think men are intrinsically bad and if one doesn't act out it's just a fluke or nature?