to ask the teach to put a message in the diarys of the dc's who's parents haven't said

[2shoes]

yes or no to her party invite yet. sn school and I sent the invites out as early as I could. now I have one more school week to get replies(2 weeks to party)
but I am doing party on a shoestring and need to know how many to cater for.
don't see the parents and don't have contact numbers for them?

I think that's a reasonable request (and very sensible too). Where are you having her party 2Shoes?

in the community centre on next estate...why you comming

perfectly reasonable, I would have said.....as long as you print out the message and all s/he has to do is slip it into the diary. Unreasonable to expect him/her to write the message

Thanks for asking 2Shoes! No, I try & go to as few children's parties as I can get away with these days

Hope it all goes well though!