To just find Facebook so cringey?

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One particular person will post every mundane thing to do with their children.

Hetes a photo of our family movie night in the living room. Or the family cooking a pizza. Like who cares?! She even took a photo of her relative coming home in an ambulance - making sure she got the paramedics in. Like how about give that elderly relative some privacy?

And I have one that posts videos of her talking to the camera in her car “hi everyone, just on my way to work”

I think social media is amazing. But why do people have to share the most mundane things. Just enjoy watching a film with your family. You don’t need to alert anyone you’re doing this.

Why do you follow people whose lives you don't find interesting?

Presumably they post it because they get engagement from people who actually do want to hear the minutiae of someone else's life. If they weren't getting positive feedback, they wouldn't do it.

Some people are addicted to the dopamine hits that “likes” give them.

Wow, what an original point of view. Nobody’s ever said this before.

😂😂

I have to admit that I find some people a little cringey on Facebook
I have an American friend who also shares every detail of her life and her every waking thought, it seems! She has four children, all grown up and I know so much detail about their relationships that I feel like I'm violating them! She posts several times a day, these really, really long posts full of details about what they're doing, what they're eating, what drama any of her kids are going through. Enough!

Exactly.

OP could either unfollow and still remain friends or just keep scrolling.

I think it’s more cringe to moan about people on social media being social.

I do this. I have old friends and relatives that I haven’t seen for 10-20 years and it’s nice to keep up to date. They enjoy seeing photos of what we’re doing and vice versa.

People using FB for what FB is for. Who would have thought it.

If you don’t like it, then unfriend them. I find it cringe when people air their dirty laundry on FB and things like that too… but I just don’t have them as friends so I don’t have to see it, I don’t trouble myself creating a whole thread about it.

That's why I like it lol love the classic hospital wrist band shot with the inevitable exchange in the comments:

Person: oh no hun, what's happened?!
OP: PM me babe x

You have to not go near it.

It is known to make people unhappy, so chose to switch it off if you can.

I deleted instagram from my phone a few weeks ago and it's been a little bit cold turkeytastic.

I end up sidling up to FB thinking it's good I know about that latest appalling thing our local officials are wreaking upon us. But I end up seeing some woman ALWAYS with a wine glass held up to camera having a glorious time which has probably made a significant number of her 'followers' have a worse day.

I gave up on mumsnet for years because I was wasting time on it and now - because of stopped mainlining instagram; I'm back on her like a drug addict.

I wish I could put the black mirror down - I would be happier if I did I know it.

I think Facebook needs switching off, personally.

I do it for several reasons - not quite as mundane as ambulance shots but - I lost my dad when I was 12, he was 34. I’ve no pics of him. If I wanted to look at one I’d have to find old aunt whats her name, book an appointment, go round, make small talk, never be able to actually spend time looking at the pics properly etc…

My kids will never have to do that. One day I may have dementia and not remember the pizzas we used to make etc. but the photos will show me who I used to be.

shes not posting for you. She’s posting for her.

It''s not compulsory

Facebook is just a website.

It's your friends that are clearly cringey 🤷‍♂️

I use it as a diary, perhaps they do too.

YABU to read their posts and then complain. Just don’t read ‘em!

And in fact better than just looking at a picture they’ll see the caption I wrote, maybe hear the song I chose, get a sense of who their mother was.

It’s a real shame to pour scorn on another persons way of living when you could just look away. There’s a lesson for you here.

You do know people’s social media isn’t there for your personal entertainment, don’t you? It’s up to them to use it how they want to. You don’t have to follow them. You obviously don’t really like them very much, so if their Facebook posts annoy you, that’s very much a You Problem and not a Them Problem.

Personally, I like seeing photos of my friends and family and their kids. Not everyone lives round the corner from family and friends and not everyone has or wants a family WhatsApp group, so sharing stuff on Facebook is, for a lot of people, a nice way of keeping people they love (but aren’t necessarily able to see regularly) close to them. My mum, for instance, would happily look at photos of my sister and BIL walking their dogs, or her little grandkids making fairy cakes and the older ones going on shopping trips with their mates all day long. She loves it when people share that kind of stuff.

It’s absolutely fine if you’re not interested, but people aren’t posting for you so just ignore it instead of hate-scrolling and bitching about it. Find a hobby or something.

I know more about some people on Facebook than I do about some people in my extended family.

I don’t think people realise how identifiable they are, and how vulnerable this makes them.

There’s a person I used to work with who posts their entire life on Facebook- I can see from a browse of their page: where they live, where they work, their working hours, when they are out of the house, how much they paid for their car, their registration plate, their birthday, their NHS number, the layout of their house, the health details of their pet, the health details of various family members, the birthdays of various family members, the specific issues they are currently having with the council/their flat… if I or someone else wanted to burgle/blackmail them, we’d have a very easy job. They have over 800 Facebook friends, they can’t possibly trust/be close friends with all of these people!

So mute them?

This!
Clues in the name. SOCIAL media.
If you don't want to see updates from them, why not do them a favour and unfriend them?

I find it cringey when people post on social media complaining about what people post about in social media

I think social media is amazing but why do people have to moan about such mundane things.

You don't need to alert us to these things.

I'm the same, I might come across as posting inane shit, but I do it for me, I love to look back on my memories.
As you say it's a good way of seeing photos you wouldn't usually as well 💕

I have a family member that will post a gushing 'happy birthday' post to other family members. Only trouble is, those family members don't have Facebook. Why don't you pick up the phone and tell them, or visit them, rather than us!?

This. I have done it with a couple of acquaintances who post a lot on FB.