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AIBU?

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Friends partner's comment

98 replies

brainworks · 17/03/2024 07:40

A friend just called me to ask if she's AIBU

she is the main person that cooks in the house although partner and father of the kids in the house makes the kids dinner most of the time when it's just boiling pasta and putting meatballs in the air fryer after she's made the sauce

Anyway, they she is going through a lot at the moment and she was in bed almost all day yesterday and was down etc she said she then told partner in the evening around 6pm that everyone should have the leftover bolognaise in the fridge from the day before and he said

"Since you have been in bed all day, I thought you should be able to make fresh supper"

She is very upset about the statement, she said she feels belittled by the statement because just because she's in bed all day does not mean she's got to cook if she does not feel like. She told him off and he is saying she is over reacting.

Your Opinion pls

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brainworks · 17/03/2024 11:54

@Thementalloadisreal that's exactly what she told me, there is food for all to have so no is going to starve

@howshouldibehave

The kids a well looked after and do not lack anything at all - I am a close family friend and I see and visit them often the kids are well feed and they always have lots of food/groceries & toiletries in the house so 🤷🏽‍♀️ I know she shops in bulk.

@OnHerSolidFoundations
They are not desperate for money or in financial crisis
She is eager to get back to work and searching everyday but no luck yet but I am sure she will get one soon hopefully.

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daliesque · 17/03/2024 11:59

In my house humans have dinner. Dog has supper. 🤷‍♀️🤯

CarrieHain · 17/03/2024 12:01

Was it a kitchen supper?

howshouldibehave · 17/03/2024 12:05

Thementalloadisreal · 17/03/2024 11:45

It sounds like she is depressed perhaps, and he is unsupportive or doesn’t understand.

but if there’s food already made in the fridge I’d be annoyed at being asked to make another meal,whether I was depressed in bed or not!!

She might be depressed and he is unsupportive, yes.

Or he might be pissed off that she has decided to stay in bed all day leaving him with the kids without giving him any sort of reason. He might be depressed as well.

We don’t really have enough information to tell, unless there are any more drip feeds.

It has little to do with anyone else really and I doubt she’d be thrilled to find you were broadcasting her problems on the internet to gauge opinions!

The best thing she could be doing is talking to him, not phoning you at 7.30am on a Sunday.

Februaryfeels · 17/03/2024 12:14

CarrieHain · 17/03/2024 12:01

Was it a kitchen supper?

Or kitchen suos. Sounds yum

tacosforbreakfast · 17/03/2024 12:24

What's a kitchen suos?

Obeast · 17/03/2024 12:24

What's the issue? They're both unemployed and have all the time in the world to slob about, cook, don't cook.

Did you tell her you're gossiping about her and her boyfriend online?

fisherfighter · 17/03/2024 12:29

None of them work but they argue about having to do cooking..

KomodoOhno · 17/03/2024 13:43

Well since she's been in bed all day she should get out and get the hell out there and let this idiot figure out how to feed himself

Februaryfeels · 17/03/2024 13:44

tacosforbreakfast · 17/03/2024 12:24

What's a kitchen suos?

It was a typo. I don't have my glasses on.

Kitchen sups

Ek1234 · 17/03/2024 13:46

I was going to comment that if he works and she doesn't then I would expect her to take up the majority of the house hold work including preparing dinner, not lying around in bed all day. However I can see that he is also unemployed, in which case there was nothing stopping him sorting dinner for his family.

itscommonsensetime · 17/03/2024 13:46

To be fair I can't imagine ever calling a friend to find out their opinion on me not cooking a 'fresh supper'.
But if I ever did call a friend about anything at all and found out they'd plastered it on a social media site asking for further opinion, they'd be an ex friend pretty quickly.

Some people definitely get more than the 24 hours in the day some of us get.

CantFindTheBeat · 17/03/2024 13:48

Honestly, what is the world coming to when a friend calls us with a problem, and one of our immediate responses is to share it on a internet forum for thousands to gawp at 🙈🙈

I do despair.

IncompleteSenten · 17/03/2024 13:48

Bloody hell, if my husband was feeling so low he'd been unable to face getting out of bed id be there for him with love and support, not bleating on about him making a stupid fucking supper.

Round3HereWeGo · 17/03/2024 13:50

Im assuming she was in bed due to depression. He doesn't sound very supportive.

PiIIock · 17/03/2024 13:53

CantFindTheBeat · 17/03/2024 13:48

Honestly, what is the world coming to when a friend calls us with a problem, and one of our immediate responses is to share it on a internet forum for thousands to gawp at 🙈🙈

I do despair.

Not a particularly interesting one at that!

concernedchild · 17/03/2024 13:55

brainworks · 17/03/2024 08:35

Are you forgetting that there was a perfectly good meal in the fridge for supper?

She is not normally in bed and extremely active person even if her world is falling apart, she is still positive and active beyond belief.

Oh she said she was doing the laundry yesterday getting up to load up washing machine and hang clothes and reload washing machine otherwise dirty uniforms for the coming week

Sounds like you might be "the friend"

brainworks · 17/03/2024 15:20

The post on here is with her permission

To gauge public take on the comment and she is aware and checking

@concernedchild no I am not.

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WhateverMate · 17/03/2024 15:34

brainworks · 17/03/2024 15:20

The post on here is with her permission

To gauge public take on the comment and she is aware and checking

@concernedchild no I am not.

She's too busy to quickly make her own account?

howshouldibehave · 17/03/2024 15:46

WhateverMate · 17/03/2024 15:34

She's too busy to quickly make her own account?

Yep, sounds like she must be far too busy 😂.

You/your friend need to just start communicating with the husband, by the sounds of it rather than worrying about whether the internet agrees with you or not.

fisherfighter · 17/03/2024 15:52

concernedchild · 17/03/2024 13:55

Sounds like you might be "the friend"

100% the friend 😂😂

howshouldibehave · 17/03/2024 16:13

fisherfighter · 17/03/2024 15:52

100% the friend 😂😂

I love the ‘just asking on behalf of a ‘friend’’ posts, thought to be fair often they are about comedy things 😂

benjoin · 17/03/2024 16:21

brainworks · 17/03/2024 15:20

The post on here is with her permission

To gauge public take on the comment and she is aware and checking

@concernedchild no I am not.

Why don't you show friend how to make a mumsnet account? She might love it

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