I don’t understand why people share

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Facebook profiles.

It’s a really psycho thing to do. Your name is not “Johnny-Beth”. You are not one merged identity, you’re two different people with different friends, interests, lives…

Some over lap obviously but that’s not the point of my post.

Just who does this? And why? Do you want us all to know how marvellously joined at the hip you are? Are you so suspicious of social media that you can’t maintain your own profile and need to share one to feel safe? In which case, why bother at all?

It makes me cringe when I see it.

YABU - sharing profiles makes sense for the time-poor and socially challenged
YANBU - only total weirdos do this

Many of my older friends have shared email addresses, always thought it was a bit strange!

My parents do this because they have one computer, one email address. They use Facebook for family/grandchild stuff and their local church group!

Lots of older people will do it. I've never shared SM, but I had an email address I shared with my then-husband for years - I even kept it when we divorced, until the company went out of business. It was VERY common in the early 1990s!

The hetro married couple in their 50s that I know who share a fb account do so because the wife can't trust her husband.

I knew a couple who had a shared Facebook account, they were young and had been together since school and were quite co-dependent so I just put it down to them not being able to do or have anything separate!

on a matter of the shared emails, I find it a bit problematic at work when I need to email personal documents to someone and it’s a shared email address, it’s a bit GDPR breachy but presumably they both are aware than each other can read the others emails.

My mum step dad share an email and a fb profile, they're both approaching 80 though and don't really get it!

I don't know anyone who does this.

It's weird. Seems controlling to me. See also shared email address (back when email was more of a thing).

Well I must have been living under a rock all this time because I've never heard of this.
DH has Facebook but I don't.
Totally misinterpreted the thread title I was ready with my pitch fork. Poised to write - why would you share? Sharing is bollocks. Let's all be selfish cunts. Then realised it's about Facebook. Sigh.

It's really weird. It's either a couple who can't be separated from each other in any way or one of them can't be trusted.

It's also fucking weird to share an email address with your partner.

And to call someone t

... and to call someone your other half. Urgh, shut up! 🤢

I have a colleague who does this - the account is eg John&JaneSmith.

It's because he is a lazy arse who likes to pontificate about how social media is for losers, but also likes his long suffering wife to regularly post about how wonderful he is (eg he's 'treated' her to dinner...).

She also used to work with me, & when she left, asked me not to boot her from the staff social group (I admin it) because her dh would otherwise not bother to keep her informed, but would then spring on her 'oh btw we're invited to X event' with an hour's notice.

So IME (ok, one example), it's slightly wanker adjacent types who like their OH to handle their life admin.

I know one couple who share a profile but it’s in the husbands name because she doesn’t go on social media much. And I know another couple who are called Johnny- Beth jones (example). It’s very odd. Both couples only in 40s and have had Facebook wel over a decade. In the Johnny Beth case, it’s only really Beth that uses it anyway so why not just rename it Beth. Who knows. I agree op. Unless they’re an old couple then it’s odd

To me it screams of trust issues and I just want to ask which one had an affair.

I feel much the same about shared email accounts.

“When email was more of a thing”?? It’s very much a thing now.

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My cousin has one in his name that his wife uses, he is quite bossy and probably refuses to let her have her own.

Neither of us have cheated, he just uses my accounts.

Sure…