I don’t understand why people share

[ItsVeryHyacinthBucket]

Facebook profiles.

It’s a really psycho thing to do. Your name is not “Johnny-Beth”. You are not one merged identity, you’re two different people with different friends, interests, lives…

Some over lap obviously but that’s not the point of my post.

Just who does this? And why? Do you want us all to know how marvellously joined at the hip you are? Are you so suspicious of social media that you can’t maintain your own profile and need to share one to feel safe? In which case, why bother at all?

It makes me cringe when I see it.

YABU - sharing profiles makes sense for the time-poor and socially challenged
YANBU - only total weirdos do this

I see multiple groups do this and from my friends I have

older millennials/gen X where a partner has cheated previously and that’s a boundary in place by the spouse.

expats who have personal pages but a joint page too so they can share important stuff through one spot. Often family have the joint page and the personal one is for the new life abroad as they’re often posting in another language.

Joint page because one spouse is illiterate and it’s just easier if they share as to not ‘out’ the literacy of one souse. I know because we are very close.

Not at all. Ours is joint names because he doesn't have FB account or an email address, he just uses mine. He doesn't even have a smart phone and only has a mobile at my insistence because he goes out on very rural road on motorbikes. He probably sends two texts a week.

DH has a friend with one of these....

Wife was a cheat

@Gettingonmygoat fascinated to know how your DH manages life without an email address. How does he access banking, utility accounts, payroll, anything? Do you do all his life admin for him?

This is exactly it. They must really annoy the Facebook algorithm because they're not using social media in the way it wants them to. 😄 Fair play to them.

If he doesnt have an email or a smart phone it sounds like he barely uses facebook, so basically it’s just your facebook. I can understand him looking at your Facebook occasionally to see photos etc, but theres no need for it to be joint names.

If he uses it enough for there to be a need to have joint names then why doesn’t he just make his own?

I have two (actually 3) "joint" accounts in my friendship group. No cheating. They each just have partners who have no interest in FB. Two have decided to name change their FB to "johnny-beth". The third one is still just Johnny but Johnny gets added to any groups Beth is invited to eg hen parties etc.

DFriend had a joint one because her ‘D’H was controlling.

That what so think when I see joint accounts - the man is a controlling arse and thinks that’s what living married couple should do.

My parents have done this, but they’re in their 70s and only use it to keep up with family pics. I don’t know any younger folk who do.

Agree with this.

The way you've worded your choices mean I can't vote either.

I can only think of one 'friend' I have on Facebook where both people in the couple use the same profile, and, like several others have said, it is just an account of an older couple, neither of whom use it much, but who find it useful to see pictures of grandchildren and to get news and links and updates from groups they belong to.

Can't see why it would possibly bother anyone else.

I find it bizarre that people think it's bizarre that married couples might share Facebook/email/whatever accounts.
They share a house address. A landline if they have one. Often have joint credit cards, insurance plans. They might share a car.
They (usually) will be sharing a bed and their bodies.
But a website where most people share holiday photos and memes should be never be shared.....odd thinking 😂

We have a shared profile purely for making Facebook portal calls with my in laws. That's it, no cheating, no trust issues. We also have individual profiles.

A shared email address for household related things eg bills, school stuff and separate emails for personal bits. It's not a big deal

It's as weird as having a joint email address

Does this get annoying or confusing? Who should one partner have to read/filter/communicate all the other’s content?
Surely if “Beth” wants to go to the hen do, and that means joining the hen do group on Facebook, then she should do that for herself not expect her partner to manage it for her?

*why, not who

@ItsVeryHyacinthBucket I don't use Facebook for organising get togethers/events etc (ie a hen do). I don't know anyone that does.
WhatsApp, text messages or messenger mostly.
Even then - if my husband read a message to me about a hen do or whatever - clearly from one of my friends - what does it matter?
(surely he would need to know where I have disappeared to when the event is on anyway).

Like PPs I've only seen it with older couples who don't know (or care?) how social media works. Nobody under 65.

Obsessing about what other people do on a platform as lame as Facebook is pretty cringe in itself

I only know of one couple who have a shared account but they are in their 80s and very rarely even go on facebook. I think they mainly have it to look at pictures of their grandchildren

It is weird behavior. I think it seems to be falling out of favor though, thankfully

Only people I know who do this one has cheated and they want to share the inbox.

I've seen a few on my news feeds....

Must be something wrong with me as I've never given it a second thought as to why it's a done thing.

I have 2 of these on my FB. I get the impression they weren't very tech savvy when they set them up.
Obviously I don't know the private details of their relationships but neither strike me as being the jealous types and both seem happy.

No, he does it all himself. Utility bills are paid when the bill comes through the letterbox, he goes to the bank if he needs to do any banking . His accountant sends everything by post or will occasionally call. He really only uses email for insurance comparison quotes and ebay.

Hate it.

I have customers that do it. They even say "We" in their messages. It's creepy.

I've seen this too and they're in their 30s it's weird.

Another couple I know, she uses his profile but adds her name to the post if it's her posting. They're in their 60s though so I let them off.