To not look after ILs dog?

[Flowersandforests]

IL’s are going away for a week in a couple of months and have no one to look after their dog so they’ve asked me and DH.

I don’t like dogs - and ILs know this. DH said no straight away as it would be me having to do the majority of the dog sitting. However his 2 younger sisters (who are away at the same time so can’t look after the dog) have got involved and are saying we are being really selfish and it shouldn’t even be a question that we would do this for the ‘family dog’.

DH moved out years before the dog arrived - we’ve never looked after it before or even taken it for a walk. I have very begrudgingly let ILs bring the dog to our house when they come over as they can’t leave it on its own, but I honestly hate it. I can’t stand all the dog hairs, they get everywhere.

ILs haven’t asked again but said they’re very disappointed we said no. But DH’s sisters will not shut up about it !

DH has stood firm but is now saying we need to be the ones to find them alternative options and then pay for it. AIBU to think none of this is our responsibility and they all need to back off and accept we’ve said no?!

Sounds like they booked the trip with the assumption that you'd have the dog. That was their own mistake and it's on them to find suitable dog care.

They can pay for a dog sitter or doggy care in a professional dog boarders home or kennels.

Come on OP you’ve either forgotten that you and DH are also on holiday that week - OR - you’re so stressed out about the idea of dog sitting you just had to join in with the family plans to leave the country and are jetting off to relax just the 2 of you at the same time as they are away- shame eh?

Honestly if he wants to do the leg work of looking for a dog sitter, I’d let him wear himself out. No skin off my nose.

Where I would draw the line is paying for it in any shape or form. They're having a laugh.

I'm a dog lover and owner. I would not look after their dog in your circumstances!

They have kennels, dog boarders and dog sitters for them to choose from. Let them decide, book and pay for them!

The sisters need to be told to wind their necks in.

All our holidays are booked with our dogs in mind. They either come with us or we don't go. It's part of being a responsible dog owner. They shouldn't pass on that responsibility to you.

Tell ils you are booking a trip. As you are family they can pay....

a couple of months… are they having a joke?

if they can’t afford a kennel or for someone to houses it then it’s a tough titties.

it’s one of the perks of dog ownership is having to figure out how to holiday with the dog.

its their dog, their issue. If the sisters are that bothered they can change plans and dogsit.

If you never agreed to be a potential dog sitter upon them originally getting the dog - it’s very much a them issue to sort out.

Send him to me, I'll watch him, hair and all for free!

The inlaws will have to decide who stays home, take a friend instead of the one staying behind. We are doing that. My DH is staying home with Ddog.
It's their problem to solve, not the OPs.

Why can't his sisters do it?

Kennels!!

Sisters are away. Says so in initial post..

Not a chance to any of it, none, no way. Their fog, their responsibility, their solution to find!

As a dog owner who also likes holidays…. You are absolutely 100% in the right here!

They need to find alternative options and they need to pay. It's their dog!

Absolutely ridiculous anyone even would suggest otherwise. Tell his sisters and DH this and say anything else said about it and DH will be needing to find himself somewhere to stay and pay for it!!!

@Flowersandforests why the hell would you pay someone to look after in laws dog??? there are loads of kennels and dog sitters around. not your problem and your hubby needs to toughen up with his sisters!!

Quite ‐ WHO books a trip without ensuring they have care for their dog first.

We have a dog (not our first) and booking any more than 5 hours away from the house goes like this.

1. Call to kennels to see if they can accommodate her.
2. Book trip.

They should have made sure they had somewhere for the dog to go before they booked the holiday. Definitely not your problem and definitely not something you should be paying for!

This isn’t your problem to give airtime to.

Please get a cat/ child/ rare exotic animal and start sending them invoices for its care.

Turn the tables.

If the sisters are that concerned let them pay for a dog sitter / kennels. The worst thing you could do is pay up to appease the sils.
Not your dog, not your problem. I wouldn't want a dog, even short visit, in my home for many reasons.

have they not heard of kennels? develop a allergy to dog hair.. problem sorted.

This!

Is it really beyond you to have the dog for a week?

Did you read the OP's post? She doesn't like dogs. It's totally unreasonable to think she should have to live with the wretched animal for a week! Dishing up it's horrible, smelly food, picking up it's poo, having it's smelly hair-shedding body all over her home. For a week! I'd rather boil my own head.

I wouldn't have a stinking dog in my house for five minutes, never mind a whole week.

They are trying to make their dog your responsibility because they are going on holiday. How is your husband falling for this? You do it once, you will be doing it forever. No