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To ask what age you think a woman can be the most attractive

109 replies

Moonunderriver · 13/03/2024 10:53

I look at some mature women and think omg you are so glamorous, its as if once you reach your 40's you become somewhat invisible? is this true?

I find older women have much more character, self esteem etc. I am 33 by the way and I like how I look the older I am getting.

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Monkeyfeat · 13/03/2024 10:55

The top paragraph sounds contradictory?

dottiedodah · 13/03/2024 10:55

I think older women can be very attractive. Often more to spend on make up ,fitness and so on.obv young women have an advantage too

Moonunderriver · 13/03/2024 10:57

Monkeyfeat · 13/03/2024 10:55

The top paragraph sounds contradictory?

Yes, sorry, I do not share the same opinion as that but it is the impression I get from things I hear.

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Herdinggoats · 13/03/2024 10:58

Liz Hurley still seems to be on an upward trajectory to me. Keep thinking at some point she has to plateau, but nope, just keeps getting more stunning.

Overtheatlantic · 13/03/2024 10:59

I think about Jamie Lee Curtis who was cute in her 20s and 30s but is absolutely gorgeous in her 60s!

Dacadactyl · 13/03/2024 11:01

I have seen attractive older women well into their 70s and beyond. However, without exception they have money and spend a lot of time/money on themselves. Some have resorted to surgery/botox/fillers, but have not overdone it.

In terms of when woman naturally look best e.g no make up and they've just got out of bed...I'd say 25.

ohthejoys21 · 13/03/2024 11:03

Mid twenties

IntermittentFarting · 13/03/2024 11:06

Whenever. We all have different ideas about what constitutes attractiveness and this may change over time .

I, for example, would never look at a 20-something man and find him "attractive" , though I may recognise that he's objectively good looking.

SOBplus · 13/03/2024 11:07

Any, I generally find confidence sexy.

ViciousCurrentBun · 13/03/2024 11:07

My Mother was attractive till the day she died in her 90’s. She had been on stage when young and also did modelling. This was in the 1940’s through to the 1950’s. She was not only beautiful she actually seemed to glide when she walked and spoke with confidence. She was also extremely witty and a good conversationalist. She had five daughters, we are but pale imitations of her but people compliment us even though we are most certainly older women now, youngest is 54.

Bigpromotion · 13/03/2024 11:09

I follow several women in their late 50’s and beyond on sm and they are all gorgeous. Full of vitality and loving life. It makes them so attractive. One that I follow on Tik Tok is in her late 70’s and so beautiful and stylish, her mother has recently passed away, she was in her 90’s and just lovely, so attractive.

It gives me hope as I’m currently (almost) 51 and feeling like absolute shit whilst navigating the crappy world of perimenopause. Hopefully, if these ladies are anything to go by, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I believe you can look attractive well into old age if you are fit and healthy.

taxguru · 13/03/2024 11:10

It's not age, it's about how you hold your body (upright/confidence versus slouching), how you dress (smart versus slob attire), your size and proportions, dressing to your proportions, hair & make up (tidy not necessarily expensive).

Plenty of older people look more glamorous/attractive that younger ones.

Moreorlessmentallystable · 13/03/2024 11:12

In retrospect I feel like I was most attractive from my mid to my late 20's, BUT I didn't feel attractive enough back then, and feel much more comfortable now in my 40's even though I do know I looked better back then, I just don't have the same insecurities I had when I was young ☺️

C1N1C · 13/03/2024 11:14

I think it depends on the type of beauty.

18-25 'girls' , naturally have a cute look
25-35 is what I'd consider to be the peak, and the most naturally attractive
35-45 is when I'd say you hit the elegant phase
45-60 might be what I'd consider to be the glamorous phase

That's just me... and as others have said, it's all dependent on poise, charisma, style, accessories etc etc

SherrieElmer · 13/03/2024 11:16

Mid twenties.

Foxblue · 13/03/2024 11:16

A woman who is happy, hydrated, has learnt to give less of a fuck what people think, stand firm against bullshit and laughs well and often, is the most attractive, no matter what the age.

tryingtohelp82 · 13/03/2024 11:30

It took time to grow into my face, find my style and feel more attractive every year, now in my 40s.
Maybe sleazy predatory types or Hollywood doesn't agree but those opinions I don't care for.

moderate · 13/03/2024 11:41

It depends on the age of the person making the judgment. Or at least it should!

ComtesseDeSpair · 13/03/2024 11:46

I think I and all of my friends are far more attractive now (late thirties to late forties) than we were when younger. Everyone has grown into their personal style and their features and their physical characteristics and knows how to work - and is comfortable - with their body rather than fighting against it.

Some of it is clearly that we now pay more attention to taking care of ourselves - good fitness routine, better diet, better skin routine - than most women in their twenties do, because when you’re young you think your body is immortal; and taking care of yourself really is key to looking healthy and vibrant.

Beacpom · 13/03/2024 11:46

I definitely think older women can be attractive. Unfortunately, society dictates that attractiveness for a woman = youth. For a man its normally linked to strength, power etc. Hence why men go grey and are called silver foxes and are still perceived as attractive.
If you can ignore what society says, an older woman with lines and grey hair can still be very attractive. Often more so than a younger woman I think, especially when paired with that strong confidence age can give.

RosesAndHellebores · 13/03/2024 11:47

Attractive is well nourished, hydrated.
Making the best of oneself
BMI of not more than 26/7
Healthy hair and teeth
Good posture
Appearance of agility
Updating with the times rather than being "on trend"
Well dressed and well groomed
Not too many artificial enhancements.

Apart from the above, age is just a number.

MariaVT65 · 13/03/2024 11:49

My friends and i look a lot worse in our 30s but that’s all as we have young kids, so we are exhausted and heavier. So i’d say 20s, but maybe we’ll have a comeback in our 40s when we’re out of the trenches.

BreakingAndBroke · 13/03/2024 11:52

For me, I probably peaked about 18-25.

I think generally if you are good looking then you'll be good looking at all ages, but if you aren't I would assume that it is easier to put your energy into other facets of yourself that people may be drawn to, like honing your talents, developing hobbies, interests, relationships, career etc.

Sparetoes · 13/03/2024 11:55

I think Judy Dench is stunningly attractive, but I'm not a young(ish) man looking for a sexual partner.

It depends what you mean by attractive.

For me, older women with a bit of a spark are attractive, where young glamorous, over done, women are not, but again, it depends what you're looking for.

BananaforScale · 13/03/2024 11:57

I felt my most attractive in my early 40s. I was at my fittest and most confident. I’m still fit and confident a few years’ down the line but I have developed eye bags and a scrotum neck which I cannot get over 😂